Post # 1
I got married last weekend and, overall, the celebration was great. I completely expected that not everything would go as planned (lots didn’t!) but there are a few things I can’t get over.
We didn’t get ANY of the pictures I wanted. The day passed and I didn’t get a single picture of just me and my parents (together or one-on-one). I am devestated about that. The coordinator put all of the decorations in the wrong spot (which I can get over) but decided to seat my groom’s family in the front and mine behind them, in the back against the wall. Worse, his entire family who we see about three times a year decided to fill in EVERY table in the front. Now all of the photographer’s pictures will be of his family and not mine. (Neither of us are close to his family, by the way.) I worked really hard on a slideshow that was never shown. (Cheesy, I know but we’ve been together forever and our slideshow reflected that.) The day was great, the important thing is that we’re married but I am having a really hard time getting over the things that didn’t go right. It’s so difficult to pour your heart and soul into something only for the careless mistakes of others to keep your dream from coming true.
ANYWAYS- did anyone else experience this? Did the disappointment go away? I know I should focus on the good but it’s easier said than done.
Post # 3
I know we didn’t get all the pictures I wanted because of rain (and I was so flustered by being married I didn’t think to ask for them). We didn’t get to use the shepherd hooks and hanging jars with flowers for the aisle. My brother forgot to announce our groomsman/officiant. I barely got to dance because guests started leaving. And we didn’t bring home any leftovers! But despite all these things I am still so happy with how it all turned out. I feel a little bad about some of it but guests didn’t realize there was anything missing, and there’s no way to go back and redo it. I just remember the good stuff and realize that the bad parts will fade with time. The worst thing would be to regret your wedding. And it’s an easy choice to focus on what went right so that you can look back on your special day fondly. 🙂
Post # 4
@Equine_Breeder: I completely agree and I know I should focus on the good. I guess I’m just hoping that as time passes I will only remember the good!
Post # 5
@MrsHalpert13: I feel that way too with pics that were missed on. We had a Huge family picture done……my husband wasnt even in it!!!!
Post # 6
@MrsHalpert13: For the few weeks after the wedding i was kind of miserable about it. I felt like it wasn’t really my day and it was all about everyone else. To be honest, i wanted to elope, so it wasn’t really the wedding i wanted anyway.
After a few months its alot better. My husband was amazing the whole day and its just a reminder of why i married him. We’ve been very happy since then and that is really the only important thing. After a few years none of the things that went wrong will even be in your memories. Really the marriage is the only thing that is important.
Post # 7
@jesssamesssa: That’s terrible! I’m so sorry!
Post # 8
@Swizzle: That makes me feel much better! I guess I just need to know that eventually I’ll feel better about the day! Thanks!
Post # 9
I wanted a small wedding but my husband really wanted a big one. I felt like the whole day was about everyone else rather than us (not my husband’s fault, more of his family and certain guests) that it bothered me after the wedding. But like you my husband is amazing and made the day really special for us.
We also didn’t get the pictures we wanted but since we got a ton of good ones I can’t really complain. The photogs mentioned them, I was just too overwhelmed with everything to actually take the time for them.
Post # 10
@Swizzle: It has been a few month since my wedding and I am still having a hard time coming to terms with a lot of things that happened (parents were a huge let down, a bridesmaid was MIA, family was abrasive, not the wedding I wanted etc). How long did it take to feel better? Do you shave a hard time looking at wedding pics or hearing songs from the wedding? Any suggestions on how to most past this feeling of dread?
Post # 11
My wedding (9/7/13) did not go the way I planned. I had an outdoor wedding, and it rained. We got married in the reception tent that housed 375 people. I walked down a maze of an aisle, because the tables were set up for dinner, not the ceremony. It literally was a maze. There were 3 sharp angle turns! haha The officant directed the bridal parties to stand on the opposite sides than what we rehearsed, and the grooms party was in backward order. There was no reserved seating for the parents, so they were someplace close to us, I still don’t know where. The wrong music was played at times. I hated my hair and make up, but I loved my dress. Oh! The wedding cake was supposed to be delivered by 9am, and it didn’t get there till 5:30pm! I didn’t get pictures with my parents or any of my grandparents or the groomsmen. I had a schedule of events and nothing went according to the list.
In the end, I married my best friend and everyone had fun. There are parts I want to re-live and parts I don’t want to think about again. LOL! I don’t have any regrets or hard feelings. It was not the wedding of my dreams, but life goes on and you can’t change the past. Sometimes, my husband and I will talk about some of the craziness of the day and we laugh. Its fun to talk and laugh about it with your spouse. Just remember you married your fiance and that was the purpose and since it happened, it was a success. I went into the wedding, thinking, I’m not trying to win an award for Best Wedding or to try to outdo my friends/cousins.
Post # 12
There were a bunch of things that didn’t go as planned- first my veil got caught walking down the aisle, so it wasn’t the most smooth of entrances as my mom had to dash behind me to free me. And then I forgot to switch my ring from my right hand to my left hand so my husband put my wedding band on the wrong hand. lol. We didn’t get our custom seating cards in time for an entire table so my mom had to verbally tell those folks where to sit. I spent a lot of time and money making a mirror escort display on a tall glittery easel. People ripped their cards off so the photographers didn’t take a photo of it. I should have just used little cards on a table and saved myself a whole lot of trouble. We had some annoying last minute cancellations from people and one couple didn’t even show up, leaving their table with only 4 people. Not okay for a black tie wedding that you RSVP’d to! I definitely wish we hadn’t sent invites to some people, they didn’t show up, it was such a waste of an invite. Due to a misunderstanding, my mom and my father-in-law never got to make speeches. Our uplighting was red instead of soft white as requested. And we spent way to much on a mediocre DJ that used a laptop. I wasnt a fan of the front of my hair, it totally lost all shape and went limp and frizzy due to how hot my silk tulle veil was. In retrospect I really wish I had planned out DIY stuff months before the wedding and not the week of the wedding, it was so crazy I didn’t get a chance to relax and spend time with my mom and bridesmaids.
In the end though it was a great beautiful party with lots of booze, good food, and I got to marry my best friend. Oh and we danced until my feet blistered! lol. The photos are fabulous and now we can relax and look forward to our honeymoon in April. And I can eat all the carbs that I want to! I think every bride has regrets because of you spend a year planning one day,you get caught up in every little obsessive detail. Especially if you’re a perfectionist. But your guests likely had a blast and thought the night was perfect.
Post # 13
@californiabride2013: sorry things went that way. I don’t really like looking at some pictures. I even deleted some that made me angry. And I don’t know what to say when people ask how the wedding was. I say “I’m married so it was perfect” lol. I try to remember the whole point of all that hassle was to get to spend the rest of my life with my husband. And I love being marriEd. I’m pretty much just focusing on that and forgetting all the crap I went through to get here.