- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
My man was/is totally clueless. He is not into planning, isn’t very good at picking out gifts, and is just a total “man” when it comes to stuff like this. Our tradition for birthdays/anniversary/holiday is for me to pick out a gift when the day comes and have it sent to me in the following days. Our finances have been intertwined for a long time, so it’s not like it really makes a difference. 9x out of 10 I just apply the money that would be spent on a gift to our vacation fund!
I, on the other hand, LOVE giving thoughtful gifts, planning surprises, etc. I casually brought up a female to male proposal and he thought the idea was neat. I knew I had to do it. I already wear my grandma’s ring on my left ring finger (and I have since I was 13!) so that served as my e-ring. I got him a band for about $80 (titanium) and did the proposing.
I took him on a long walk and popped the question in a canoe. He about lost it (in a good way)! He was so excited about it. He thought I never wanted marriage (we’ve known each other since I was 19 so it’s very possible I wrote the idea off before we started dating…), and it came as a pleasant surprise for him. I even asked his mother (via email) before doing it!
I read a lot of things online about this. Many people like to adhere to gender roles and a lot of men said they’d feel emasculated by it! There is also the issue of women wanting to get married before men, both due to societal pressures (the idea that marriage validates women, yet is “game over” for men), so “of course” the man should propose.
Any other ladies propose to their men? How did it go?