Post # 1
So, I was talking to a good friend of mine the other day, and she was telling me that she is paying for her own engagement ring. I was kind of suprised by this, since it’s not customary, but after I thought about it it made sense to me because she makes a great deal more money than her soon to be fiance. She said she doesn’t mind at all paying for the ring she wants. I then remembered that another woman I used to know paid half of her ring, because she thought it would be a good way to start things off. Sharing responsibilty together. So, this led me to wonder how many other girls had or decided to pay for either all or a part of their engagement ring.
Post # 3
technically I paid half because we were already sharing finances, i don’t mind
Post # 4
We have been combining finances for YEARS, so yeah, in a way I did help pay for mine.
Post # 5
Well, I am not engaged yet, but I would totally help pay for my ring if I though my boyfriend would let Me. He is rather traditional though (but he’s ok with moissanite, or some other clear stone), and there is no way he’d let me pay. That’s part of why we aren’t engaged, because he wants to get me A ‘nice’ ring as he calls it. Even though I told him I would absolutley love the ring his mom offered (his grandmother’s ring). He says its to small… Which I am not sure why he thinks that. For me its the meaning of the ring, not the size. it seemed like he would be embarassed that he can’t get me a ‘better’ ring in his mind, at this point due to losing his job, even though i just want to marry him.
Post # 6
We haven’t had a his money/my money in years-so we established a budget and saved towards it. I guess since I make a tad more than him that more of the money that I earned went into it…but it definitely wasn’t a ‘ill pay half’ thing. We bought it together with our money.
Post # 7
I have offered to contribute to the ring find since I feel guilty about him spending so much. He has said absolutely no way.
Post # 8
He didn’t let me help out for my initial ering and he’s not letting me help this time for the upgrade but I would.
Post # 9
We were planning on combining finances anyways so to me it didn’t matter who paid for it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur
I offered to help, he said no. We picked out an inexpensive engagement ring ($500) but he ended up buying a less than $100 ring. Since that wasn’t what we talked about, I bought my own ring kuz sadly, I was too embarrased to tell ppl we were engaged. I was told I’d have one for Vday but I’m pretty doubtful. I would have no problem paying half but for some reason my fiance would not have it. Because he lied, thats the only reason im pissed I had to pay.
Post # 11
We were already living together/sharing finances/parents, so yes of course I split the cost since it was “our” money. It didn’t even cross my mind that some people might think that was strange.
I pretty much said, “I’d like something blue and sparkly, we have about X amount of money to spend, but try not to spend all of it because we could really use some of the money to fix our dryer.”
He got me something blue and sparkly for half of the amount I said, and I gave him a high five 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
@lenabee: No, he chose a ring he could afford. He is very old fashioned and would have been embarrassed to ask me to help pay for it. If it wasn’t affordable, I would have told him not to get it.
Post # 13
I guess I never really heard much about people splitting the costs, etc. 😛 It’s not a topic that ever got brought up really, and all you ever see on TV or in the movies is the guy getting a ring and surprising the girl with it. 😛
Post # 14
He paid for the ering and will pay for my band as well.
I see nothing wrong with going half on the ring, not sure if he would let me though.
I also made it a point to choose a ring that was “reasonably” priced it also works to his advantage that I’m one of those that didn’t want him to spend too much on rings – I’m more of a lets save money girl.
*IF* I had wanted a significantly more costly ring, I would have been willing to pay whatever portion was necessary to make that happen. If my choice had been over budget to him.
Post # 15
He did technically pay for mine, but we went to all joint finances about a month after our engagement, so… haha, it didn’t really matter who paid.
Post # 16
@lenabee: we share finances, so while he paid for it, technically we both did really because it’s all ‘our’ money.