(Closed) Any bees ever……..

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
4035 posts
Honey bee

@kansas_nurse:  Hmm…well the decision is ultimately up to you two. If it were me personally, I would wait until he had steady employment again. The job market is tough right now and it could be possibly be a while until he gets another good job and even though you have steady employment, you never know what might happen.

Personally, financialy security is my first and foremost concern, I would not make large purchases if I was relying on my savings to pay rent/bills or other things. You mentioned that you two are doing fine now (with your income and the savings), but what if he does not get a job for another 6-12 months, would you still be comfortable? If you think you will be good, then I would consider purchasing the ring. If you have any concerns about finances, I would not.

Lastly, for me, getting engaged means you are ready to plan a wedding/get married. Given your situation, are you two capable of planning/affording the type of wedding/ceremony/etc you want? Obviously, you can do an extended engagement, but I personally did not want that, so I would have opted to wait until finances were in order.

OP, either way, if you two are comfortable with the decision, that is what matters. That’s just my perspective. 🙂

Post # 5
Member
887 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

hubs was in his 3rd year of law school living off of student loans so he was making negative money when he proposed. he didn’t have any job prospects lined up yet either. however, i was working full time and had a good chunk in savings so i knew we could afford the rings and the wedding. 

he has a job now but it’s not the “big bucks” we were initially expecting him to make as an attorney. but it pays the bills and let’s us live comfortably. i had faith that he would be able to find SOMETHING and if all else failed, i knew i could support us (even though it would be tight) on my salary alone. 

Post # 6
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kansas_nurse:  yes we did! Fiance lost his job right after we started ring shopping. He was out of work for almost a year. We were both frustrated and tired of waiting for another job to get engaged because he had been on soo many interviews and nothing was working out for him. We looked at diamonf alternatives such as moissanite and asha and discussed smaller stones. he didn’t want any of that though. We ended up getting a great year end deal offered to us which saved us about 5k. So we went for it. he put a deposit down and I financed the rest. The minimum payments were low enough to swing for the time being. 

so we bought the ring and got engaged! His parents had no idea until after see got engaged. They were super happy for us though a little shocked since they didn’t know it was coming. My family was unaware of his unemployment. 

Was it the most fiscally responsible thing to do? No probably not But it was happy news for us during a really tough time. Two weeks later he got a job! After saving up for a few months and paying off other debts he has since paid the ring off in full. 

So, it can be done!!! 

Post # 8
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1144 posts
Bumble bee

idk…I’m hoping SO proposes this year & he just left his job

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