Post # 1
I graduated early with high honors from college last December so that I could schedule my wedding for the summer before I enrolled in graduate school. My wedding date had originally been for June 2, 2012 (our 5 year anniversary of dating). BUT, my grandma passed away and it was far too early for me to plan my wedding with my family, myself, and most importantly, my mother grieivng the death of her mom.
My Fiance was super supportive and we postponed all wedding planning until I was ready again. Even though we postponed our wedding, I didn’t postpone my education. (This was very important for my mom) So, I applied and got into my first choice school!
Fast forward to the present: I am currently getting my Master’s Degree while planning a wedding. GAH.
Even worse? In the particular Master’s program that I selecetd, summer semesters are REQUIRED in order to graduate on time! (3 years).
So, I will be going to class during the week, have my wedding on a weekend, and go back to school on a Monday! Lol. (Thank God for no weekend classes!!!!)
Side note: Because of this, we are taking a mini-moon and not a honeymoon 😛 We’ll take a full length honeymoon when I graduate! Yay me! haha
SOOOOO, who else has gone through or is going to go through this situation and how did you handle it all?!
Post # 3
Many, many brides get married during graduate school. For that matter, many girls in my college got married in undergrad – I see nothing wrong with that as long as you can support yourselves.
I choose not to wait to finish, because I didn’t want to wait to finish dental school and then my (hopeful!) oral surgery residency (6 years of a combined residency + med. school). That would have left me at age 32 to be married. Hell no!
Even if I don’t place in a OMFS residency, waiting through dental school to be married made little sense to me
But, I’m not married yet! 8ish months did the big day, but I don’t expect it to be much different from being married outside of school. I honestly don’t understand the hype
I’m surviving by have planned most of the big stuff in the summer, breaks, weekend, ect. I’m also not afraid to dictate tasks to willing bridesmaids, MOB, MOG, ect. It’s all about prioritizing, school comes first.
We’re going on a 7 day honeymoon immediately after the wedding, so no advice on mini-mooning
Post # 4
I did! On a long weekend (veterens day weekend), and we just took our honeymoon the following spring break (so a few months later). It was super stressful, but I didn’t want to put it off until I was done with school! I just focused on my studies first and foremost, and on weekends I allowed myself to plan the wedding….and I had my mom and sister help out a lot.
Post # 5
Finishing my Bachelor’s in December and starting my Master’s in January, as well as my job! It’s going to be tough, for sure, but I’ll have a good support system. We just have to remember that school/work comes first and wedding planning second!
But like PPs said, it’s completely possible. We can do it! Hopefully we can keep our sanity! 🙂
Post # 6
I will graduate 4 months before my wedding, but I’m planning my wedding while finishing my Ph.D. Just budget your time wisely and and plan ahead, you’ll be fine.
Post # 7
@SarahVee – I feel your pain!! We share an almost wedding date too! I’m currently in my last year of graduate school and will (fingers crossed) graduate a month before our wedding next June. I’m already sort of dreading the spring term because I’m student teaching/in a practicum the entire time so it’s all new to me, but I’m hopeful I can just kind of get through it!
I’m definitely going to be relying on people as much as I can and luckily my fiance is super supportive and helpful. I’m trying to do a similar thing to what Ms. Pink said – concentrating on school during the week and limiting planning to once a weekend to not overwhelm myself. I know I’ll have to do it a bit differently the closer we get, but for now I feel really on top of things. I’m using The Knot’s wedding checklist to keep myself on top of things and feel lucky to have had many friends go through the process in the past two years and have a lot of advice for me.
I would think if you told your professors that you were getting married over the weekend, they would probably be pretty understanding and flexible. There’s no way I would go to that class on Monday! Hang in there! Maybe we can freak out to each other in late May! 😉
Post # 8
@ED13: You’re so sweet! I do think my professors will understand if I let them know! I hadn’t even thought of that!! And I would love to be your freakout buddy <3 lol 😉
@Torrid: WE SHALL OVERCOME!! Lol! Yes girl! We need to stay motivated and concentrate on school first and wedding stuff after! (Easier said than done :P)
Post # 9
I got engaged after my first semester of grad school and married after my second semester. It was stressful but totally worth it to be married. I just don’t recommend getting married right after finals. My wedding was the day after my last final and I was so exhausted, I pretty much slept through the entire honeymoon.
Post # 10
I didn’t but I know plenty of people who did. So long as one of you is bringing in an income, it doesn’t matter if the other is at school. I think school would be less stressful living with my husband and having his support. But most of them did it during vacation time so at least they could have some sort of honeymoon. I mean, you don’t really have 3 years with no vacation at all do you?
Post # 11
My Fiance is currently in his second year of a Ph.D, we’ll be married at the beginning of his fourth (of 5-6).
Post # 12
I will be getting married while I am in college( a little late starting the college thing but I know what I want to do now lol)
Post # 13
I got married the first time while working full-time, going to law school, and serving on law review–and I was going to law school even during the summers. Basically, we simplified wedding planning as much as possible, e.g., we had a luncheon in a restaurant so that we could deal with just one vendor for food, alcohol, venue, linens, etc. And I say “we” advisedly; the groom did as much of the planning as I did. And we accepted the help of anyone else that offered, even if it meant giving up some control. For example, my in-laws offered to provide the flowers, and we let them decide what flowers to have.
Ultimately, your wedding is just one day, while your education will affect you for life. So having the “perfect” wedding day at the expense of your education just isn’t worth it.
Post # 14
@SarahVee: I voted yes, but as you can see, I’m not married yet. I’ll be in PA school, which also requires intense summers. I’ll take the Friday prior to my wedding off to walk down the aisle as a June bride like I want, and return to class on Monday morning as Mrs. GT! We’ll take our honeymoon on my break between summer and fall semesters. For us, it’s just the best timing. My Fiance will have just finished his PharmD in May, and will have already started working. Also, we’ve been together for almost 5 years now and will have had a long engagement, like we promised the parents. We don’t want to wait until after I graduate Spring 2015. To help things along, I’m just planning everything by December, and appointing others – my mom mainly who coordinates weddings – to take over/implement what I want once I flip to student mode. I think it’s totally doable if you have the right team behind you & plan ahead like some others mentioned! I guess I’ll see just how true it is….
Post # 15
We got married while I was working on my PhD. We got married during the summer before my last year which is a bit different from your situation (I was long done with classes by that year, in the summer things are calmer in terms of research). I planned the wedding over the course of a year (and from a distance!) and I think it was totally fine…actually I think having the perspective of that versus grad school probably helped me not freak out over small details because they didn’t seem as important in comparison. All my vendors said I was super easy to work with, and extremely calm in the face of a few vendor-related mishaps!
Post # 16
I just got married 4 weeks ago and I’m currently finishing a PhD in neuroscience. My schedule is intense and often involves weekends (and always summers), but it’s usually flexible which was nice for planning. It was hard and often resulted in excessive amounts of stress, but it’s doable! Good luck!
ETA: I had a lot of help from my mom, but the wedding was in my hometown which is about 250 miles from where I am currently. Given the distance, I absoultely would not have been able to do it without her help. We also had quite a long time to plan, which helped.