- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Long story short, I’m not actually looking for a medical dianosis, but I am hoping to understand. I have a sister, who has always been “off” but she has never been diagnosed with anything. I’ve looked up some disorders trying to understand but nothing seems to fit. This isn’t meant to put her down in any way…I just really want to educate myself to help me communicate with her.
A little about her:
She has ALWAYS been a “story teller” and these stories are basically just lies. I don’t know if she really believes them or not, but she tells these stories and tries to get other people to “remember” these things that happened.
She gets very irrationally angry over seemingly nothing. She used to be quite violent when we were younger. I’d say it got worse around puberty and escalated from there.
There’s the story telling but then there’s just her lies. She lies about so many things, historical facts, celebrity gossip, our childhood. There’s never a pattern to her lies. Except she does maintain that our parents were “abusive” to all of us kids, which is definitely false.
Later in life she has had some issues with substance abuse, but all these personality traits were there before then.
She is extremely childish. Not in an annoying way…but in an awkward way. Where she will just make a loud noise to get attention. She’ll practically yell while she’s talking to get everyone to look at her.
Talks very low about herself, and then very highly about herself. Like she’ll say that she “knows she is stupid” and then turn around and say that “I look really skinny today”
ETA: Another big one is that she just says socially awkward things. And is very fake around people. I know my sister’s laugh and her voice, and she will just start talking “different” (what I refer to as “grandma voice” or how you’d talk to your grandma on the phone). She will say something like (to the lady at David’s Bridal): “I really want my bridesmaid’s boobs to show. That came out wrong *HAHAHA* I just like clevage to show.” (cue awkwars silence)
Anyone have any thoughts/advice?? I have stopped “calling her out” on her fibs, because it makes me uncomfortable to hear her continue the story. I just don’t even know how to talk with her. I hope I don’t get flamed for this, I love my sister very much. I just need to understand..