Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club
Hi bees! I’m going through a little bit of the blues about our honeymoon situation, and wanted to reach out to see if others have experienced something similar.
Fiance and I are getting married this October, and couldn’t be more excited! I’m currently wrapping up my first year of a two-year graduate program. We already had a good amount of vendors booked when I found out I was accepted and started my program, so we knew an immediate honeymoon wasn’t going to happen. Originally, we planned to take a “mini-moon” in December while I was on winter break and take our real honeymoon after I graduate next May.
Recent finances have gotten in the way, however, and it looks like we’re not going to be able to do either for at least the first year of so of our marriage. The realization has me super sad, and even though I know it’s not the end of the world, it still really stinks.
Has anybody else gone through something similar?
Post # 2
Are you able to do something small right after the wedding? Even an overnight at a bed and breakfast a few towns away?
Post # 3
I have a similar problem. We’re going to register our marriage in late March just before the start of the semester and need to find an apartment etc. as well when his job is really busy, so no wedding reception or anything for us and even less honeymoon until at least this summer, if not next year. :/
What we did was book a fancy hotel room for the night after we get married at the ward office, and we’ll just have a nice dinner and enjoy our “wedding night” for now.
Post # 4
Congrats on your wedding and grad school! That’s awesome. Unfortunate about the moons though. In my opinion grad school is much cooler than a one week holiday in the grand scheme of things, so it’s very wise of you to prioritize that – that and not going balls up broke. It’s always hard when things don’t go the way we’d imagined though.
We are doing a mini moon right after the wedding and then a proper holiday 6 months later. We’re getting married at the busiest time of year for the company we work for, plus have already used a lot of our holiday this year (got engaged on one) so we are just going to pop over to Portland for a few days after the wedding to stuff our faces and unwind after all of the build up to the wedding. Then when things slow down in Jan/Feb and we have holidays again we’re going to Colombia for 3 weeks.
Will you be able to take the honeymoon when you do graduate, or are finances in the way? If you can afford it, that’s what I would do. Our mini-moon is more to just take a few days to unwind before going back to the normal grind. I feel like we will be too amped up after the wedding to just go back to the office on Monday. If you can do it post graduating you can celebrate your marriage and your graduation at once!
Post # 5
We got married through the court and had no honey moon. It’s almost 2 years and still none. I don’t really think about it until I read people post on here about their amazing honeymoons. Honestly now that we pay bills and he has his son and rent. I just don’t feel comfortable spending money on that. We do try to take a family trip each year. Last year we took my bonus son and my nephew to Lego Land for their birthdays.
Post # 6
- Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada
We aren’t leaving right away partly because $ and partly because all the guests flying from England will still be in our house the week after to do Christmas as a family. Writing this now, I am becoming very conscious just how crazy our December is going to be.
We are hoping to go away 6 months later, which has the benefit of being next year’s vacation days from work so we’ll get more time anyway. Also we stand some chance of being able to afford a decent vacation with the extra time to save.
Post # 7
We delayed our honeymoon 6 months because we got married during the fall but DH wanted a ski honeymoon. Honestly, it didn’t feel like a honeymoon but rather just a vacation. However we travel a lot, especially to tropical locations for DH’s work, so I doubt it would have felt like a honeymoon even if we had gone right after the wedding.
Post # 8
our situation was different (we had both already completed school, but we were basically having a Destination Wedding for us because while all of our family/guests lived where the wedding was, we were traveling 8 hours to be there), but we ended up doing a mini and then a delayed honeymoon.
The night of our wedding and the following night, we stayed in a high end hotel and got massages, went to brunch, basically just enjoyed some quiet time. Then we went home, and because we’d had to take time off for the wedding and the travel associated, we had to bump our honeymoon back. Plus, we wanted to pay for it ourselves so that meant waiting a bit.
We got married in November 2015, and went on our honeymoon in July 2016. I think I actually preferred it that way! It made coming back to work more bearable because I didn’t have to catch up on 2 weeks of stuff. I had only missed 3 actual work days. Plus, it was so comforting after such a huge emotional event to just go home. I know that’s weird, but it was.
Not to mention, waiting to take our honeymoon allowed us to do a better trip–we could plan more things to do, afford upgrades, etc. and it gave us something to look forward to after the wedding. If we’d have done it all at once then it’s like *anticipation, anticipation, anticipation, WEDDING HONEYMOON BOOM OVER annnnnd nothing.* haha So this way we enjoyed the wedding, then had some down time, then it was time for vacation! We got to take more time for the vacation too, because we weren’t adding it onto 3 days (plus a weekend) of wedding. So we got 8 days of travel vs the 4, maybe 5 we could have done if we went back to back.
Why more people don’t do it that way I’ll never know. 😉
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club
It would be nice! But it all depends on the amount of work I’ll be getting in school; the program is undergoing a bit of a shake-up, so there’s no real way for us to know until we get the syllabi for fall. If I can budget for the time, there’s no real guarantee about the money – Fiance is in the middle of a career change, so things are going to be interesting for a while.
That sounds really nice! We might just borrow a page from your book if the finances line up.
Thank you so much! 🙂 I love
your definition for your mini-moon – it’s exactly what I’d want! <3 I think the earliest we could take a mini-moon would be winter break (since two weekends in a row during a master’s program is kind of a lot to take off), but I’m not sure where we’ll be at financially by then.
If I got a job IMMEDIATELY after I graduated, the soonest I’d be working again would be between June and August (I’ll be the primary breadwinner in the marriage); it’d probably either be around winter 2018 to spring of 2019 when I’d have enough saved to really take us somewhere nice – those student loans are going to be a pain! 🙁
It’s great that you guys have your priorities straight! I think this was sort of a big last hurrah for us because later that year, we’re going to start trying for babies; we wanted one last nice vacation before we add another member to the family. 🙂
I hope it all works out for you guys! 🙂
Holy smokes, December is usually crazy on an off year; wishing you guys the best throwing a wedding into the mix!
Post # 10
We haven’t fully decided but ours may be delayed a little bit. I think it’s become fairly common!
Post # 11
Wow something similar happened to me but I didn’t delay as much as I think you want to delay yours.
I was in a 3 years grad school program (was going to grad school while working). During my last year I got married in October! We were also moving around the time of our wedding so we took a week off for packing and moving.
I finished my courses by March (took extra classes), so we went on our honeymoon mid-April for 2 weeks. Then I did my graduation walk in June/July (sorry I forget).
It worked out great for us. Good luck and congrats on getting into grad school!!
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2017 - Wedgewood Tower Club
That’s an interesting situation! Would it really have felt like a honeymoon either way?
That’s such a great perspective on it! It’ll definitely be nice having something else to look forward to after the wedding (besides my graduation). 🙂
Post # 13
Because we already travel a lot as it is, and we’d been together 12 years by the time we got married (and lived together for about 6 years) it likely would have just felt like another vacation.
Post # 14
Hi Bee! We will likely not have an immediate honeymoon either – but for different reasons. We travel a lot already and want to spend time in our new home.
With that said – many couples get a lot of cash as gifts on their wedding day. Why not save that cash for a get away later? You will need some intimate time together especially charging into such a busy life after your wedding.
Post # 15
We got married last July and still haven’t gone on our honeymoon- tentative plans for late spring but not even that is definite. We didn’t go right after our wedding because we had long distance loved ones here for the wedding/ staying with us & we wanted to suck up all the family time we could with them. We’re hoping to go late spring, trying to co-ordinate holiday time off work.