(Closed) Any bees have a delayed honeymoon, or no honeymoon at all?

posted 5 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Are you able to do something small right after the wedding? Even an overnight at a bed and breakfast a few towns away?

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I have a similar problem. We’re going to register our marriage in late March just before the start of the semester and need to find an apartment etc. as well when his job is really busy, so no wedding reception or anything for us and even less honeymoon until at least this summer, if not next year. :/

What we did was book a fancy hotel room for the night after we get married at the ward office, and we’ll just have a nice dinner and enjoy our “wedding night” for now.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

Congrats on your wedding and grad school! That’s awesome. Unfortunate about the moons though. In my opinion grad school is much cooler than a one week holiday in the grand scheme of things, so it’s very wise of you to prioritize that – that and not going balls up broke. It’s always hard when things don’t go the way we’d imagined though. 

We are doing a mini moon right after the wedding and then a proper holiday 6 months later. We’re getting married at the busiest time of year for the company we work for, plus have already used a lot of our holiday this year (got engaged on one) so we are just going to pop over to Portland for a few days after the wedding to stuff our faces and unwind after all of the build up to the wedding. Then when things slow down in Jan/Feb and we have holidays again we’re going to Colombia for 3 weeks. 

Will you be able to take the honeymoon when you do graduate, or are finances in the way? If you can afford it, that’s what I would do. Our mini-moon is more to just take a few days to unwind before going back to the normal grind. I feel like we will be too amped up after the wedding to just go back to the office on Monday. If you can do it post graduating you can celebrate your marriage and your graduation at once! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We got married through the court and had no honey moon. It’s almost 2 years and still none. I don’t really think about it until I read people post on here about their amazing honeymoons. Honestly now that we pay bills and he has his son and rent. I just don’t feel comfortable spending money on that. We do try to take a family trip each year. Last year we took my bonus son and my nephew to Lego Land for their birthdays.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2017 - Lake Louise Canada

We aren’t leaving right away partly because $ and partly because all the guests flying from England will still be in our house the week after to do Christmas as a family. Writing this now, I am becoming very conscious just how crazy our December is going to be.

We are hoping to go away 6 months later, which has the benefit of being next year’s vacation days from work so we’ll get more time anyway. Also we stand some chance of being able to afford a decent vacation with the extra time to save.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

We delayed our honeymoon 6 months because we got married during the fall but DH wanted a ski honeymoon. Honestly, it didn’t feel like a honeymoon but rather just a vacation. However we travel a lot, especially to tropical locations for DH’s work, so I doubt it would have felt like a honeymoon even if we had gone right after the wedding.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

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topshelfprincess :  our situation was different (we had both already completed school, but we were basically having a Destination Wedding for us because while all of our family/guests lived where the wedding was, we were traveling 8 hours to be there), but we ended up doing a mini and then a delayed honeymoon.

The night of our wedding and the following night, we stayed in a high end hotel and got massages, went to brunch, basically just enjoyed some quiet time. Then we went home, and because we’d had to take time off for the wedding and the travel associated, we had to bump our honeymoon back. Plus, we wanted to pay for it ourselves so that meant waiting a bit.

We got married in November 2015, and went on our honeymoon in July 2016. I think I actually preferred it that way! It made coming back to work more bearable because I didn’t have to catch up on 2 weeks of stuff. I had only missed 3 actual work days. Plus, it was so comforting after such a huge emotional event to just go home. I know that’s weird, but it was.

Not to mention, waiting to take our honeymoon allowed us to do a better trip–we could plan more things to do, afford upgrades, etc. and it gave us something to look forward to after the wedding. If we’d have done it all at once then it’s like *anticipation, anticipation, anticipation, WEDDING HONEYMOON BOOM OVER annnnnd nothing.* haha So this way we enjoyed the wedding, then had some down time, then it was time for vacation! We got to take more time for the vacation too, because we weren’t adding it onto 3 days (plus a weekend) of wedding. So we got 8 days of travel vs the 4, maybe 5 we could have done if we went back to back.

Why more people don’t do it that way I’ll never know. πŸ˜‰

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

We haven’t fully decided but ours may be delayed a little bit.  I think it’s become fairly common! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Wow something similar happened to me but I didn’t delay as much as I think you want to delay yours.

I was in a 3 years grad school program (was going to grad school while working).  During my last year I got married in October!  We were also moving around the time of our wedding so we took a week off for packing and moving.

I finished my courses by March (took extra classes), so we went on our honeymoon mid-April for 2 weeks.  Then I did my graduation walk in June/July (sorry I forget).

It worked out great for us.  Good luck and congrats on getting into grad school!!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

 

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topshelfprincess :  Because we already travel a lot as it is, and we’d been together 12 years by the time we got married (and lived together for about 6 years) it likely would have just felt like another vacation.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Hi Bee!  We will likely not have an immediate honeymoon either – but for different reasons.  We travel a lot already and want to spend time in our new home.

With that said – many couples get a lot of cash as gifts on their wedding day.  Why not save that cash for a get away later?  You will need some intimate time together especially charging into such a busy life after your wedding.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper

We got married last July and still haven’t gone on our honeymoon- tentative plans for late spring but not even that is definite. We didn’t go right after our wedding because we had long distance loved ones here for the wedding/ staying with us & we wanted to suck up all the family time we could with them. We’re hoping to go late spring, trying to co-ordinate holiday time off work. 

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