Post # 1
I was wondering if being in the industry in any way makes planning or enjoying your wedding planning more difficult? Or do you find your knowledge helpful?
I find it helpful but realize I’m more aware of what can happen and am more controlling because of it but also more laid back about some things….
- What do you do in the industry?
- How long have you been doing it?
Post # 3
I’ve been a wedding officiant for nearly two years. Since I don’t go to receptions and I’ve only been doing it for about two years, I don’t have a ton of connections in the wedding industry yet, and I often would do the preliminary vendor searches with my personal and anonymous email address because I didn’t want to burn any bridges with vendors I didn’t end up hiring. It actually backfired on me when I was communicating with a very over enthusiastic DJ who I had NO interest in hiring, who then turned out to be the DJ at a wedding I was officiating at!
I do get wedding overload sometimes, because I do it all in my spare time – and my work time is wedding inspiration, writing, and research too! But we’ve also been engaged and planning for a long time, so I take frequent planning breaks when I get overwhelmed.
How about you, leelee?
Post # 4
Hi Gilneas: I work in a hotel that does a lot of weddings..I used to be the Banquet Manager so I’ve seen it all! Now I oversee corporate events and high profile guests at the hotel but share an office with the catering manager who details the weddings….I think that working in this industry has helped me be a more savvy bride…know what to ask..what to negotiate..when to push the envelope, when not to…
We’re having a small wedding compared to most..this is my second marriage, his first, only about 50ppl, central park..luncheon after with dancing out that night..I scrapped all of big wedding details…it was too stressful and honestly, we didn’t think it was us…
The thing Ive noticed lately is the number of stressed out brides who are micromanaging every tiny detail and not letting the wedding planner take that on…I know we all want a perfect (or almost perfect) day….but honestly, when brides get that way, it only makes the wedding coordinators want to run…a stressed out bride can create a stressed out staff…hotel….all across the board….
I’m trying not to get that way….but can understand how it happens..
Thanks for sharing!
Post # 5
i’m a wedding photographer (for about 3 years) so i have experience of the actual day of events, but getting there is the hard part! i’m obsessed with having all the details perfect because as a photog, i notice them… probably more than the guests!
Post # 6
Hello! What a great post!
I work in Special Events for a hotel – I create contracts, coordinate, and oversee the event. We do about 300-400 events a year, with an average of 8-10 weddings. I graduated with a degree in culinary arts in 2007, and have been working in my position since.
It definitely helps – I know so many vendors and planners. For example, one rental company is giving me cocktail tables at $5 instead of $8, since she knows me so well. Every little bit helps. I know timelines, set up, etc.
It hurts in the aspect that I have so many other events before my wedding. I had to be careful in choosing a date not to interfere with our previously booked weddings. I feel like people expect so much from our wedding, since I “do this for a living.”
Post # 7
It’s hard not to get idea-overload, since there are so many cool things you can do. It’s also hard not to gush with a client about everything you’re doing instead of focusing on them.
Post # 8
I think “being in the industry” helped. Im not in the wedding industry, but I work in catering and it really helped me with my wedding. I know all about packages and how you can break them apart, what you can add or subtract to meet your budget and I know from connections with other vendors to rent my own stuff. I rented my own linens & chiavari chairs and got a discount whereas if I had rented through my venue they wouldve upcharged everything.
Post # 9
I think being in the industry both helps and hurts! I am a graphic designer and I create invitations, websites and photo albums for weddings.
So far, it has helped me find a great photographer (for a good price) that wouldn’t have otherwise been known. Also, once I get to printing invitations, I’ll know how to save myself a lot of money.
However, I’ve noticed that at times I put client’s work above my own wedding stuff since its the stuff that actually pays!
And of course, the harder to measure stuff. Since I actually know how to design, I feel like I have a higher standard set for our own wedding stationary and website! So far so good though 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks bees! I think we should start a post about what to ask for when planning..the stuff the books don’t tell new brides! .what’s negotiable..stuff like that..since we know how it works, I think it gives us the advantage..but also reminds us of what not to do and how to be savy but not pushy!
Post # 11
Being in the industry helps tremendously especially when it comes to prices-I have been in it for 15 years and you can “collect” on favors for your wedding big time by being in the industry it definitely has its’ perks
Post # 12
I’m not in the wedding industry but I do plan corporate events as part of my day job. I definitely think it made things easier – I knew what to expect when I plan a 150 person event for work, so I knew the type of work it would take to plan my wedding! Plus, I re-used a bunch of my work templates for things like catering contracts, bands, florists, etc. as well as having a really good idea of what my timeline for the entire event and day of would need to look like.
Post # 13
@AprilBride10; that’s my profession too! Conference Services Manager..aka..corporate meeting planner, oversee corporate groups who have meetings and stay at our hotel….I love it!
Post # 14
Being in the industry (event planner/event designer/DOC for 4+ years) has both helped and impeded me at times…
It’s helped for the obvious reasons – contacts, general knowledge, budget, etc. I’ve also been able to cut out things that I know people aren’t going to pay attention to/remember and focus more on memorable small details. It’s also been helpful because I’ve seen so many unexpected things happen (good & bad) that I feel like I’m prepared to accept whatever my day brings and roll with it… At the same time…I’ve seen unexpected things and I know how unexpected they sometimes can be – if that makes any sense. So, I tend to go back and forth from very “whatever will be will be” to “omg, what if this that and the other thing happens – I must control everything”.
It’s strange being on “the other side.” I definitely know that this experience is going to make me even better for my clients, solely for having been there, done that and truly understanding the dynamic from having lived it.
I’m also feeling that pressure of throwing the most fabulous event that every one of our guests has ever attended (all the while on a budget!). I always strive for that feeling of fabulosity, but I definitely feel like my guests will have very high expectations since this is my career.
I love planning weddings, but this is definitely going to be my first & last for myself!
Post # 15
@missmeepsie;..perfectly said! thank you!
Post # 16
leelee – isn’t it a fun job?! The hours can be crazy sometimes but I love feeling like I have a front row seat to food/decor trends! Super helpful when I was planning, though I felt like kind of a snot when I visited vendors who were all about the “new big trend” that I “had to have” that I had been seeing at work for ages now!