(Closed) What things do you and your SO commonly disagree on? SHARE!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Assuming you are in a healthy loving relationship, what differences exist between you and your SO?
    Difference in temperament/personality (e.g. outgoing vs shy etc) : (64 votes)
    16 %
    Difference in political leanings : (33 votes)
    8 %
    Difference in parenting styles (e.g. one more strict than the other) : (18 votes)
    4 %
    Difference in housekeeping style (e.g. how to do chores) : (91 votes)
    22 %
    Difference in sex drive and/or style of sex : (63 votes)
    15 %
    Difference in religious beliefs or religious + non religious : (27 votes)
    7 %
    Difference in hobbies/use of free time (e.g. rock climber vs home body) : (63 votes)
    15 %
    Different taste in personal style (fashion, how to dress) : (45 votes)
    11 %
    Different moral standards about lifestyle : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 4
    56 posts
    Worker bee

    its not like we are polar opposites but I am a little bit of a planner then he is so I get to plan everything and when I ask him for an opinion he just says its fine like that.. this gets on my nerves.

    Post # 5
    6361 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Chores (he’s super duper neat, I’m just, kinda neat), and, he always tells me to be more assertive/aggressive with difficult people than I am.

    (The second one might surprise some bees…and indeed, it’s not that I’m timid! It’s that he’s got my intensity but double! I think I’m a fireball, but he’s an inferno. That’s part of what makes us so compatible though!)

    Post # 6
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @kmaemu:  We’re different personalities. I’m much more upfront and stressy than him. He’s very easy going and polite (as am I unless I am wronged and then I get argumentative!). He has a terrible memory that drives me crazy, but he’s very loving and uncritical of me most of the time, whereas I have higher expectations and I know I can be over critical. I think we complement each other very well – if he was like me we’d probably be arguing all the time!

    Post # 7
    145 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I’m Republican/FI is not.  (if he could vote, he would be a Democrat)

    I’m a hoarder/FI is a minimalist.

    I can’t put money ‘away’ to save my life/therefore, FI handles all bills!  LOL


    We pretty much mesh on the rest!  🙂

    Post # 8
    557 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @kmaemu:  I think the main difference between us two is that he is a planner, he likes to plan ahead everything and I like to go with the flow and see what happens 😛

    I more into writing and drawings and he is more into maths and physics, but I don’t think that damages our relationship at all 😛

    in the religious field I’m not religious at all and he is a little bit, but doesn’t bother us. But I admit that if he was a crazy super religious person, I couldn’t date him…

    One thing we have in common, and if we didn’t it would be a deal breaker, we don’t smoke, I don’t think I could date a smoker, and he couldn’t either.

    Post # 9
    3430 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    FI is a quiet reserved kinda guy he hates to make waves especially in a public setting. If we go out to eat and they get our order wrong he’ll keep quiet about it where as I am blunt and obnoxious at times. He calls me his weapon, I’m the mouth piece for us both lol however there are times when I want to say something and he begs me to keep my mouth shut:) 

    Post # 10
    3057 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I can be a control freak & my SO isn’t (luckily because that would NOT work) so we disagree over household stuff sometimes. I think she should load the dishwasher one way & she doesn’t, or laundry (soap goes in first! ugh. doesn’t matter how much I say it she never does it)

    I’m more outgoing than she is but I’m also more of a homebody than she is. She’d like to go out and do fun things more but I like being at home & I don’t like spending the money (we’re pretty similar with our spending habits).

    We’re good with religion, politics, neither of us wants kids, we both want to travel, we both want more animals (me more than her though), she’s a bit more of a cleaner but I’m the thorough  type so we even out. We’re more similar than dissimilar but have our differences for sure. I voted housekeeping & personality

    Post # 11
    792 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m more stressy than he is, I like to have plan while he likes to take things as they come.


    I’m more into outdoors based things than he is, but he is learning to love some thing he never tried before we met.


    He thinks horses are a waste of money, I think video games are a waste of money, haha.

    Post # 12
    4274 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We mostly align politically, but we disagree very vehemently on gun control.

    I’m more controlling/organized when it comes to money – I track my/our expenses, balance our checkbooks, and handle the bills. He’s casual – careful about spending, but just checks his balance online sometimes so he has a general idea.

    Also, sometimes we disagree over style for going out – imo, he tends to overdress and it makes me look underdressed or sloppy comparatively.


    Post # 13
    8469 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We agree on almost everything (same hobbies, political views, tastes, etc), however our personalities and habits are very different.  I am more outgoing and outspoken while he is more quiet and reserved.  He is a spender, while I am a saver (I handle our finances), he’s a night owl and I’m more of a morning person.  We think we’re perfect for each other though.

    Post # 14
    215 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Differeneces in the definition of clean 😉 but than again I’m a slight clean freak

    Post # 15
    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Politics are our biggest difference. National and international politics have sparked some quite heated arguments in our household. It got to the point where we had to come up with a plan for handling and ending said arguments because we would both get so riled up. Ridiculous, huh?

    Post # 16
    5014 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Of all of these options, the only one I’d really say we differ on is temperment. He’s very very laid back and I’m pretty type A! On all the other things we are pretty much on par!

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