Post # 1
Actually, this post is more about DIFFERENCES between you and your SO.
I’m curious to know what differences the bees are willing to embrace or tolerate about their significant other. Because I’m sure that no one here is marrying someone who is EXACTLY like themselves! By the same token, “opposites attract” can’t possibly be true on every front…
This is related to my curiosity about couples who divorce due to “irreconcilable differences.”
I’m really curious to know what happens to these couples. I for one am very very different from my FI in lots of major and minor ways, but i feel confident that we’ll be able to stick it out through thick and thin!
What differences are OK to have between you and your spouse, and still have it be a healthy, loving relationship? Is anyone marrying someone of a different religion and able to tolerate it/respect their beliefs? Are there any cheapskates/spendthrifts marrying big spenders with expensive taste? Are there any Republicans marrying Democrats? Is it doable? Or is it only doable if one person is more passive about the matter in question?
Discuss! And answer my very long poll please! (Those were the only big differences i could think of, feel free to comment)
Post # 4
its not like we are polar opposites but I am a little bit of a planner then he is so I get to plan everything and when I ask him for an opinion he just says its fine like that.. this gets on my nerves.
Post # 5
Chores (he’s super duper neat, I’m just, kinda neat), and, he always tells me to be more assertive/aggressive with difficult people than I am.
(The second one might surprise some bees…and indeed, it’s not that I’m timid! It’s that he’s got my intensity but double! I think I’m a fireball, but he’s an inferno. That’s part of what makes us so compatible though!)
Post # 6
@kmaemu: We’re different personalities. I’m much more upfront and stressy than him. He’s very easy going and polite (as am I unless I am wronged and then I get argumentative!). He has a terrible memory that drives me crazy, but he’s very loving and uncritical of me most of the time, whereas I have higher expectations and I know I can be over critical. I think we complement each other very well – if he was like me we’d probably be arguing all the time!
Post # 7
I’m Republican/FI is not. (if he could vote, he would be a Democrat)
I’m a hoarder/FI is a minimalist.
I can’t put money ‘away’ to save my life/therefore, FI handles all bills! LOL
We pretty much mesh on the rest! 🙂
Post # 8
@kmaemu: I think the main difference between us two is that he is a planner, he likes to plan ahead everything and I like to go with the flow and see what happens 😛
I more into writing and drawings and he is more into maths and physics, but I don’t think that damages our relationship at all 😛
in the religious field I’m not religious at all and he is a little bit, but doesn’t bother us. But I admit that if he was a crazy super religious person, I couldn’t date him…
One thing we have in common, and if we didn’t it would be a deal breaker, we don’t smoke, I don’t think I could date a smoker, and he couldn’t either.
Post # 9
FI is a quiet reserved kinda guy he hates to make waves especially in a public setting. If we go out to eat and they get our order wrong he’ll keep quiet about it where as I am blunt and obnoxious at times. He calls me his weapon, I’m the mouth piece for us both lol however there are times when I want to say something and he begs me to keep my mouth shut:)
Post # 10
I can be a control freak & my SO isn’t (luckily because that would NOT work) so we disagree over household stuff sometimes. I think she should load the dishwasher one way & she doesn’t, or laundry (soap goes in first! ugh. doesn’t matter how much I say it she never does it)
I’m more outgoing than she is but I’m also more of a homebody than she is. She’d like to go out and do fun things more but I like being at home & I don’t like spending the money (we’re pretty similar with our spending habits).
We’re good with religion, politics, neither of us wants kids, we both want to travel, we both want more animals (me more than her though), she’s a bit more of a cleaner but I’m the thorough type so we even out. We’re more similar than dissimilar but have our differences for sure. I voted housekeeping & personality
Post # 11
I’m more stressy than he is, I like to have plan while he likes to take things as they come.
I’m more into outdoors based things than he is, but he is learning to love some thing he never tried before we met.
He thinks horses are a waste of money, I think video games are a waste of money, haha.
Post # 12
We mostly align politically, but we disagree very vehemently on gun control.
I’m more controlling/organized when it comes to money – I track my/our expenses, balance our checkbooks, and handle the bills. He’s casual – careful about spending, but just checks his balance online sometimes so he has a general idea.
Also, sometimes we disagree over style for going out – imo, he tends to overdress and it makes me look underdressed or sloppy comparatively.
Post # 13
We agree on almost everything (same hobbies, political views, tastes, etc), however our personalities and habits are very different. I am more outgoing and outspoken while he is more quiet and reserved. He is a spender, while I am a saver (I handle our finances), he’s a night owl and I’m more of a morning person. We think we’re perfect for each other though.
Post # 14
Differeneces in the definition of clean 😉 but than again I’m a slight clean freak
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
Politics are our biggest difference. National and international politics have sparked some quite heated arguments in our household. It got to the point where we had to come up with a plan for handling and ending said arguments because we would both get so riled up. Ridiculous, huh?
Post # 16
Of all of these options, the only one I’d really say we differ on is temperment. He’s very very laid back and I’m pretty type A! On all the other things we are pretty much on par!