Post # 17
We are not doing either bouquet toss or a garter toss either.
When I was single, I was always afraid of catching the bouquet because I didn’t want a random guy putting a garter up my leg in front of everyone. I don’t want to make someone else feel awkward with the garter, so we are skipping it.
Plus, we have 3 single guys at our wedding and about 15 single women so it would look odd. =)
Post # 17
we didnt do it. I’ve never really understood the point of it anyway so we skipped it
Post # 18
- Wedding: August 2011 - St. Joseph's Parish, Seattle Tennis Club
I didn’t do a garter toss! Didn’t do a bouquet toss, either. Ha.
Post # 19
We aren’t – our ceremony is conservative, our pastor will be at the reception, and I just don’t like the idea. No bouquet toss either – the longest married couple will get the bouquet after the anniversary dance.
Post # 20
I didnt have a garter or do the garter or bouquet toss. I’m pretty sure no one missed it…. its always been my least favorite part of a wedding!
Post # 21
no bouquet toss or garter. Its always the most awkward part of the reception. Guests won’t miss it.
Post # 22
I’ve never had any interest in the garter or bouquet tosses, and since we’ll have hardly any single guests, I can’t imagine anyone will mind/care/notice.
Post # 22
It’s so awkward and tacky so we aren’t! We are not doing a bouqet toss either. It feels so jr high to be like “ohhhhh you’re getting married next”
Post # 23
Oh hell no, no garter toss. No bouquet toss either. Undecided if I’ll have a garter, though–FI would appreciate it!
Post # 24
We aren’t doing that or the bouquet toss… It’s my least favorite part at other weddings so it was an easy decision. We have yard games for guests to play instead, they will be much more fun! 🙂
Post # 25
We aren’t doing it either…but I am still wearing a garter. I just can’t resist all the cute options!
Post # 26
We are not doing a garter or bouquet toss; we view them as demeaning, especially since we will have a very limited number of single people at the wedding. Instead of the toss though, people will win them by a mark/sticker on their cupcake wrapper or a special add-on to their favor or something (we haven’t decided yet). The bouquet and garter will both have giftcards attached for something fun. This way you don’t have to be single to participate! Oh, and both pieces will be specially made for these. I really don’t want him reaching up my dress in front of his conservative grandparents, and I kind of want to keep my bouquet for a while.
Post # 27
I’ve read that some people do an “anniversary dance” instead of the tosses. Its where all of the married couples get up and the DJ calls out starting with one year and that couple sits down….so forth and so forth. The couple who’s been married the longest gets the bouquet.
“In place of the Bouquet and Gater:
Anniversary Dance: DJ asks all married couples out to the dance floor, plays a lovesong, then one by one the couples leave according to how many years they have been married. In the end, one couple married the longest remains, and they get a spotlight dance or your Bridal bouqet.”
Post # 27
Definitely not doing a garter toss OR bouquet toss. I hate when I am roped into participating in those at others’ weddings. I may still wear one though, just because my SO will get a kick out of it (i don’t really get it, but whatever floats his boat). No one else would see it though.
Post # 28
No way. First of all, I’m not planning on wearing stockings (hate, hate, hate stockings), so a garter seems absurd. But there’s also the issue of tradition. I keep seeing things that describe this as some long-standing tradition – from Olde England, no less! – but the most insistent of these are from companies selling garters. I’m a Renaissance literature scholar, and I’ve never come across a single reference to a garter toss at a wedding, ever, not in anything literary, or historical, from the 15th, 16th, 17th, or 18th centuries. I highly doubt that this was done in the Victorian period. I think the garter toss is pretty recent. I guarantee my mother didn’t do it, nor did any of her friends, nor did my grandmothers. So how traditional is this “tradition”?