(Closed) Any bees not doing a garter?

posted 10 years ago in Reception
Post # 29
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@rosegirl2325:  My Fiance said it’s inappropriate in his culture but he said we can still do the garter toss without him going underneath my dress, LOL.

Post # 30
2001 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We skipped both the garter and bouquet toss, and did not replace them with anything else.  We wanted to minimize breaks in the flow of the party.  Plus, I hate them.

The idea that single women are all chomping at the bit to be next to be married is offensive to me.  As a single woman I always dreaded being dragged out onto the dancefloor to participate.  It’s demeaning and just strikes me as really unfeminist.

As for the garter toss, nothing is more awkward and cringeworthy than watching a groom root around under the bride’s skirt, especially if he dives head first under there.  Save the removal of each other’s undergarments for your hotel room.  Nobody wants to see that, especially not your dad and grandparents.

Post # 31
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think doing without these traditions is becoming more and more popular. I always knew that I would not do these traditions. Fiance is very uncomfortable being the centre of attention (I am the opposite – how funny!) so we will be minimizing any things that require him to be front and centre. Plus I tend to think the garter toss is tacky and I always hated going to weddings single and being forced to participate in a bouquet toss.

We will forego the garter toss altogether and instead of tossing the bouquet, I will be dedicating it to my grandparents who have been married for almost 70 years.

Post # 32
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

No bouquet or garter toss here.  Ick.  Nope.  I’ve been a single woman at a wedding.  Not fun.  And the idea of a garter toss when I’ve never had occasion to wear a garter in my life is laughable.  Nope.

Post # 33
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not doing a bouquet toss or the garter thing.

Post # 34
4858 posts
Honey bee

I’m not doing this either, it makes me cringe and it’s just so awkward.  When the groom crawls up under the brides dress in front of all their relatives…….yeah, no.  I don’t care if you’re in your bedroom or in a banquet hall, that’s nasty.

We’re just skipping it altogether and I don’t want to wear one because I don’t want to be hiking it up all night!

Post # 35
1169 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m not doing a garter toss or a bouquet toss. I really have a hard time even watching them at other weddings, they make me soooo uncomfortable.  I also don’t plan to wear a garter even without the toss. gross.

Post # 36
1417 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We aren’t doing a garter toss, the chicken dance, a bouquet toss or any of that. at all.

Post # 37
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I had a garter on, but my husband did not pull it off my leg with his teeth and throw it.  I felt uncomfortable doing it with all of our family present!

Post # 38
4145 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I haven’t put too much thought into it but I really don’t think I care to do it. I don’t think its worth interrupting the dancing and fun time to do. I’m glad I”m not the only one out there that doesn’t care!

Post # 39
791 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Here Here! We aren’t doing it either.

Post # 40
554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Honestly, I can’t believe anyone still does this. I haven’t even been to a wedding in 10 years where the bouquet was tossed or the garter was fetched. It would never, ever occur to me to do it.

Post # 41
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m not even engaged yet and I know this is one tradition I will not be reserving. I am EXTREMELY shy!!! Eventhough my day will be filled with people I love, I know that I just couldn’t do it. Plus I’ve never cared for them at weddings, just a time filler IMO.

Post # 42
4996 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I think garter tosses are gross. Why do brides want their young, male family members touching their under panty things? 

Post # 43
63 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We did not do a garter toss or a bouquet toss and I am very thankful for that!  A few people in his family questioned it a bit during the planning but I did not want it – I see it as demeaning.  Instead, we had all the children come to the dance floor and we tossed a teddy bear.  It was a lot of fun and the lucky child still has the toy.  We received lots of complements for changing things up.  However, if you have a jealous child in the bunch, that might not work.  If you chose not to do the garter or bouquet toss, I don’t think anyone will miss it.

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