Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2016 - Beach
It really doesn’t appeal to me at all and my sister wants to throw one for me but honestly, I’m good. I don’t really need anything right now nor do I have the space for more stuff. I’ve told her this over and over and she is insisting I have one because she had one but it’s not important to me in the least! I’ve been calm, collected, and polite about my refusal and told her that she can plan a bachelorette weekend instead but I have a feeling it is going to come up again and I will lose my sh#t if it does lol. Her hearts in the right place I just don’t think she truly believes me when I say I DON’T want a bridal shower.
Post # 2
Oh my gosh, I could have written your post when I was engaged.
I wanted no part of the bridal shower thing, no tacky games, crepe paper decorations or little finger sandwiches with the crust trimmed off, lol.
My sister ended up forcing me to have one, haha. She invited me to lunch at one of my favorite restaurants and surprised me! A small group of my closest friends and family were there. It ended up being tons of fun. We had martinis and great food, and it was nothing like the dreaded bridal shower I was so dead set against.
Let your sister take charge, you might be pleasantly surprised! Just make sure she knows in advance what you absolutely DO NOT want. Also give her a list of things you do love, whether it’s a certain type of food or drink.
Make it less of a shower and more of a party. It could be fun!
Post # 3
She probably doesn’t see the bachelorette as an alternative for the shower. Try suggesting a luncheon instead of the shower. You can get together with family and friends with no expectation of gifts.
Post # 4
I didn’t want one either! I had a really fun bachelorette party day instead because that’s what I really wanted. Some ladies actually bought me presents anyways because I didn’t have a shower, which was so generous of them. I just don’t feel comfortable sitting around opening gifts while everyone watches.
Post # 5
Yeh I’m not having one – It’d make me feel very uncomfortable.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2015 - Carmen\'s Lakeview
Oh man…I’m the opposite of everyone! I enjoyed my bridal showers more than my bachelorette! lol
Post # 7
I didn’t have a shower or bachelorette either. I’m not good at being the center of attention lol. Just makes me uncomfortable and awkward. And I don’t like people to feel they need to spend money on me. So I definitely understand how frustrated you are. No is no lol, but it’s your sister, she probably just wants you to not miss out on the experiences. Try to keep your patience 🙂 she means well.
Post # 8
I declined both baby and bridal showers that people offered to host for me. I was 35 when I got married and we both had established households. I really could have used a shower to help me out when I was a new college graduate at 22 and moved into my first apartment with only a hand me down couch, book cases and bed- I was in 5 weddings that summer and all my spare money was spent on my friend’s weddings and showers.
Post # 9
nope. No shower for me. I hate attending showers when I know the bride and groom already live together and have most of the things they need (and can get the rest as wedding gifts). The past few showers I’ve been to have asked for the most ridiculous things.
My Fiance and I are financially comfortable. yes there are things we want, but they will be on a registry for our wedding. I don’t feel like there’s any point in also having a shower. I just don’t feel comfortable with it. I don’t like being the centre of attention, let alone for the sole purpose of people showering me with gifts.
Post # 10
I’m recently engaged and don’t want any showers. Fiance and I have lived together for 2 years and have everything we need for our home, so I feel that a shower would be completely irrelevant – I don’t need help “preparing” my home for married life, as my home is already pretty established. I really have no idea if anyone in Fiance or my family would throw me a shower, but if they offered I would most definitely be declining.
Post # 11
I didn’t need or want a bridal shower too. Fortunately, no one wanted to throw me one, so it wasn’t an issue. I already had my household set up and actually had duplicates because DH had his collection of stuff too. It would have just been extra hassle to receive more stuff!
Since your sister is insisting, I would just call it a girls’ day for you to hang out with your friends. The bachelorette party idea that you mentioned sounds totally reasonable.
Post # 12
I never had one! I felt the same way you did. It worked out just fine but I didn’t have anyone pestering me to have one, either….good luck!
Post # 13
Haha I just had this exact conversation with my bridesmaids. I really didn’t want one, and then they kind of threw me one, and now they want to throw another one… I don’t know lol.
Post # 14
I have no desire, or plans, for a shower. I’m relieved that no one has brought it up. (I”m reasonably sure that my BFF, who is also my Maid/Matron of Honor, knows that I have no desire to have one.) I find showers to be boring and annoying, and if I have any control over it, I’ll never attend another one again.
Post # 15
I really don’t want a shower, I find them excruciating and would hate to make people sit through one for me. I know my mom would like to have one for me, but we live across the country from our families, so it wouldn’t really make sense to open a bunch of gifts and then–what, ship them again?