(Closed) Any Bees not having or want a Bridal Shower?

posted 4 years ago in Parties
Post # 46
544 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure

I won’t be having a shower. After my bestie passed, I only have a few friends that are more “his friends”. They wouldn’t feel comfortable taking on the task. It’s okay with me though, since we don’t need a lot of stuff anyway. 

You could tell her to throw you more of a dinner party with no gifts, and if guests insist, do cash for the wedding? Idk… Sometimes, family just doesn’t listen! Lol! Or you could get together a really ridiculous registry for simple things you could stock up on, like soap and paper towels and what not! Lol! Or request grocery store gift cards, they come in handy!

Post # 47
1308 posts
Bumble bee

I didn’t want a bridal shower at all.

My aunt wanted SO badly to throw me one (she has no children, and I’m her god daughter, so she was very excited about it).  We worked out having a “shower” that was only direct family and kept it very casual, as well as co ed for both my Darling Husband and I.  It ended up being like a family BBQ, and my aunt made it over to the top cheesy fun (she’s a teacher).  I loved it!  We DID get a few gifts, but I would say it was more like an engagement party feel than a shower feel.

Post # 48
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

bubblescomere:  I didn’t have a bridal shower, can’t say I wanted one anyway. All of my relatives are scattered across the country and my best friend had moved thousands of miles away. Plus my now in-laws fight like cats and dogs when at get togethers so it just didn’t seem like something I wanted to be a part of. Honestly, I have no regrets about it!

Post # 49
939 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I do not want one either…I agree with people that say why have this and gifts and then gifts at the wedding, it just sounds greedy to me. No offense to people that do like them. I do go them for really good friends but it’s just not my thing personally. Baby showers…yes, those make sense to me

My Fiance sees it as me being antisocial, which I’m not at all. His mom threw an enagement party (& she drove me a bit bonkers with that) and I’ll have bachelorette party but I do not want a bridal shower.

To me, it is also another thing that I’ll have that will take up an entire day (when starting in January I have 2 baby showers 2 weeks in a row, vendor visits, food tasting day[venue cooks everything and invites everyone], dress fitting(s), invitations, etc, etc and we get married in MAY).

I told my bridesmaid but I think his mom wants to plan one, she just puts things off (she is throwing her daughter in law a baby shower 3 weeks before her due date…I just found out bc I asked, I was never told). IF I am forced into it – I have ONE day that it will work because I teach at a university, I’m busy on weekends prepping and grading. The ONE day would be the Saturday of Spring Break..then I have the whole week off


Post # 50
75 posts
Worker bee

violetcupcake:  I’m the same! I hate it when people say congrats for getting engaged. I’m like -what for I didn’t do anything!! I’m having the most minimal wedding possible and no surrounding hoopla. Its so dumb to have a bachelorette party-it’s not like you can’t go get hammered with friends once you are married. –

Post # 51
564 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I think my mom is going to want to throw me one, but I’m really ambivalent about it, and since the wedding budget is so tight, I’m going to ask her to please direct those funds to the wedding over the shower.  I really don’t mind them but I also don’t feel the need for one, and I’d much rather have a better wedding day.

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