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Just want some information and opinions on adoption
I presume I can have biological children however I would rather adopt, I am wondering if anyone in here has adopted or is going through the adoption process and would like to share their experiences and opinions? Or if any bees on here have been adopted that would like to speak from your point of view about adoption?
Mr and fiancé have a lot of love and patience to give to a child that needs a mummy and daddy (not trying to say only heterosexual couples should adopt, that’s the opposite of my opinion)
Thanks for reading
Post # 2
Adoptee, here. Did you have a specific question?
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jess2017: Another adoptee here too! Adopted from South Korea into an Irish/German family 🙂
Are you and your Fiance looking to adopt from a different country and/or ethnicity?
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I was adopted as an infant. I didn’t really have a lot of feelings about it growing up because my parents talked about it with me constantly. It was just always a thing, and so it wasn’t a big deal. I was always curious, though, obviously, and I did seek out and eventually meet my biological mother and her family. Let me tell you… after that I sure had a lot of feelings about being adopted… and they were all overwhelmingly positive. I am so so thankful that I got to grow up with the family that I did. They gave me so many opportunities and a stability that my biological family would have been totally incapable of (both finanacially and emotionally/mentally). Honestly I don’t think there are a lot of reasons to set out to make your own baby, so I think that it’s beautiful that adoption is your first option. Fiance and I are CFBC, but we’ve both decided that if we do one day change our minds about a child, we will get one, not make one.
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robsbeach: are you happy that you were adopted? What do you remember about the process (if you were old enough)? Thank you for responding!
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Erko_1022: hello, thanks so much for responding! We have no preference for ethnicity/race, makes no difference for us. Thanks again
Post # 7
I would love to adopt. Growing up I always said I would never have biological children and would only adopt. FI really wants to try for at least one biological child first though. I’ve told him though that if we have any problems with fertility I won’t do anything extra to try to get pregnant and just want to adopt and he agreed. If we decide we want a second child after the first I will probably really push for adoption.
We aren’t ready for kids yet but I’ve already started doing research into the adoption process because I know it can be very long and expensive!
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thelibrarylady: thanks so much for responding! It’s lovely to hear from an adoptees pov. I’m glad you have only positive feelings towards adoption. I’ve never understood why adoption is always portrayed as a last resort for couples that cannot conceive which is lunacy to me. I’ve been nervous of adoption because I know that some people who are unable to conceive feel resentment towards people who can and think they’re taking children away from them. Thanks again for your response it’s very much appreciated.
Post # 9
My ex husband and I adopted an infant that was born in our town, domestic infant adoption is what it’s considered. We had a great experiecne and only waited about 3 weeks before she was born, she is now 6. I’m happy to answer any questions you have.
Post # 10
thelibrarylady: +1 to everything you said!
jess2017: I am adopted. I was adopted as a newborn, and grew up always knowing I was adopted. It was never a big deal to me. When I would tell someone I was adopted, they would freak out and I just never understood that. I always was curious about who my bioparents were, but it was a closed adoption so I couldnt seek them out until I was 18. I was reuninted with biomom almost 3 years ago. We had a honeymoon period, then things really went south. It has made me so much more thankful for being adopted and for my mom and dad who raised me. The reunion really stirred in me alot of emotions that I never realized I had towards it. Both good and bad. Meeting her and eventually my dad really filled a void I didn’t know I had. It gave me closure. It helped me fully learn who I am, from a medical/biological perspective. My biomom and I no longer have much of a relationship, and I’m now okay with that, although it took awhile for me to get there. Bio dad and I are super close, however, and I see him all the time. Through everything I’ve been through with the reunions, I would not change a single thing!
I don’t understand people who feel resentment towards those who can concieve but adopt. There are endless children out there who want and need homes and to be adopted. Yes, infants are adopted alot quicker, but there’s still so many children out there!!
One of my very good friends also just adopted a baby boy. They started the proces, and less than a month later, their little boy was in their arms. They are overjoyed.
Post # 11
This is a sorta old post but I figure I would chime in! I am adopted here as well as my older sister. I can help answer any questions you want to know about. I was adopted from China at 8 months old ( actually the very second group to ever be adopted from China) so my adoption was foreign and had a very different process than a domestic adoption. My sister on the other hand was adopted from Florida so she had a domestic adoption.
My parents chose adoption when they found out the could not have children because they wanted to give a child a great chance at life with great parents. I am all for adoption haha. Without being adopted who knows where I would be! I feel lucky on a daily basis that my parents went the adoption route. All my life I have enjoyed telling my adoption story because it makes me different and it is a part of who I am. Many people have asked me to come speak to different classes or give advice to couples that are interested in adopting and want to know the point of view from someone who has been adopted, especially from a different country.
So let me know if you have any questions!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2015 - City Hall NYC
I was adopted as a baby from Bogota Colombia….if you have any questions for me please ask!