(Closed) Any Bees out there who don't/didn't love their engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

outdoorbee :  I really like that setting.

 

Op, I feel your pain. I originally wanted a pear, and did not get a pear. I had a small princess cut. I wore that for several years, and then finally got my pear about 3 years in. Still wasn’t in my dream setting, so this year I got it put into a custom setting. I will probably have it reset again when my kids are older, because I only have a bezel for practical reasons. It’s okay for your ring to be a work in progress. I recommend buying a pear or marquise ring off Berricle and wearing that for a while before you make any changes. You may find that you are happy with an alternate stand in, or that you are more attached to the round than you thought. If not, then you’ll know for sure that you want to change it.

Post # 17
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80 posts
Worker bee

I love my engagement ring but just hate the diamond. Hubby knew from the get go that I was more than ok with a smaller diamond as long as it was great quality and as long as he got the setting I wanted. Well, hubby decided he couldn’t give me a smaller diamond because of his ego and got a 1 carat diamond but it has some very obvious flaws. What makes it worse and makes me feel like a piece of crap, is that I noticed maybe an hour after he proposed. I was in the shower and saw a huge mark on it and actually cried!! I feel like sh** just typing it lol. He claims he can’t see it but oh it’s huge and it’s there! The plus side, I get compliments all the time on how much my ring sparkles so it makes me feel a bit better and less guilty.

Post # 20
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6272 posts
Bee Keeper

chevaldame :  ok well that lessens the blow that he didn’t pick it. It’s just down to having that conversation with him and how you feel he’ll feel. Ahh – whenever I see bees with a dilemma like yours I feel for you as theres no ‘right’ way. I agree with the other bees that a wrap might be the way to go. Or would your jeweller friend who you won with do a stone swap? 

Post # 21
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4535 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

chevaldame :  have you thought of getting it reset into a ring with pear or marquise side stones…. Or have it set on a band like this… To add more of what you wanted originally…

Post # 22
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587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

mrs_bang :  I am having reading comprehension issues today, because I totally read that as, “I love my engagement ring, but I hate the husband.” I was like, “WELL, then.” 😂😂 I’m sorry about the inclusion in your diamond, though. He should have listened when you said you wanted a smaller diamond with higher quality. He didn’t listen to you, don’t feel bad about it.

Post # 23
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95 posts
Worker bee

j9marie :  I loooove that marquis band.  Where did you find it??

Post # 24
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767 posts
Busy bee

chevaldame :  If the jewelers are people you know, can you ask if the stone can be exchanged for another shape? I know it has sentimental value, but if you’re not happy with it, then you just aren’t. Not something you need to feel guilty about .

If it was me, I’d talk to the Jewelers to see what your option is before you bring it up to your Husband to be. If the options won’t work for you, and you want to keep the ring you have, don’t see much sense in bringing it up. If you aren’t happy and you can change the ring, I think best to have a chat with your guy and tell him what will make him happy. You’ve got a marriage ahead of you and this won’t be the last time that he may be disappointed by choices you make. It’s your ring, you need to be happy, and even if he is upset at first, I think it will all work out. Good luck!

Post # 25
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2480 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t know what your budget for modifying the setting is, but you have options if you really think he wants you to keep the round stone. You can add cluster diamonds or a trillion and wrap it all in a halo to give the illusion of a pear.


You could alternatively add pear or trillion side stones to each side to give the illusion of a chubby e/w-oriented marquis:


Basically, I get the feeling that you like the idea of your ring having “sharpness” to it, and you can definitely achieve that by keeping your round stone and just adding sharp stones to it.

Post # 26
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2480 posts
Buzzing bee

Alternatively, depending on your budget, you could get the round stone reset into a sentimental pendant and get an entirely new ring. Just because the stone is sentimental and you should keep it doesn’t mean it has to be used for the RING.

Post # 29
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51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

mrsB052315 :  I was just going to suggest this! 

 

Or you could use it to pay for the new stone. Afterall, I’m sure that price is one of the reasons he gave you that stone to begin with. Maybe if you approach it that way–you said the stone was worth a lot, so why not go for it?

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