(Closed) Any Bees out there who don't/didn't love their engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

I think since he won it and he didn’t spend time/effort/thought picking it out, he wouldn’t be personally offended/hurt that you want to switch out the shape of the stone. It would’ve been better if you’d mentioned it from the beginning, but of course it’s too late now.

I feel like it’d be pretty simple to go to your jeweler friends and ask to switch out the round diamond for another shape. I don’t see how it would hurt any feelings, as you just won it no one picked to specifically for you.

For what it’s worth, though, I think your ring is beautiful and I wouldn’t change a thing about it.

Post # 32
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512 posts
Busy bee

My fiancee said it it were me he would want me to LOVE it. He said if he won it, he’d have no emotional or financial attatchement to it so he wouldn’t care if I wanted to change it. 

He proposed with his late mother’s diamond and we had it set in a Tacori setting. 

I think your ring is stunnin!! Good luck with whatever choice you make. 

Post # 33
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420 posts
Helper bee

ūat first we were young and poor we just had bands..then we got a very small diamond ring but i dident like it. So a few years later we got a upgrade to a cluster ring it better but i soon grew unhappy again so then we really got a bigger stone this is the new one 3 ct black diamond now i finally feel like im good. 

Post # 34
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109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Surely since he did not buy it, it was just a prize, the jeweller it came from would have been able to arrange a swap to a stone you’d have been happy with.

It would have been good if you expressed this prior to the stone being set into a ring. But, there’s no harm in asking about it now. Surely everyone would be understanding as there really was no effort on your FI’s behalf. It’s worth a try IMO.

Post # 35
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55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Follow your heart and get what you like. My husband and I upgraded my half carat round for my 1.02 carat marquise before we got married and I couldn’t be happier 

Post # 36
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Painswick Church and the Falcon Hotel

It’s a lovely ring! You should keep it cause it’s the one he proposed with 

Post # 37
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Newbee

Oh ladies, your rings!!! They’re stunning! Love them

I don’t like my engagement ring and unfortunately still don’t. It’s nothing what I wanted but after 10 years of dating  and a final proposal, I would have said yes to a haribo ring. My now husband, did ask at time of proposal, whether I like it and I should have said no but didn’t as I was so fucking grateful for him finally proposing. He did say he designed it himself, which I’ve since realised was that he chose the center diamond not the actual design of the ring, that was the stores design. The ring isn’t me, never was and now don’t wear it when he’s not around. I’m terrible I know.

But it’s my engagement ring and will swallow my pride. It’s beautiful and I will treasure it. 

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

UK-bee :  very interesting thought! Maybe it was a plan all along – maybe he didn’t win it – but set the whole thing up to propose to you

i don’t like square / rectangular stones – so I’m putting one in your place – and I must say, no matter how much I try, I could just never love a princess or emerald cut. I could have it 50 years and still be mad I didn’t get the stone I wanted. I don’t know if you can ‘grow’ to love the stone. I think you can probably fix everything by either taking the ring back to the store where you ‘won’ the diamond from, and see if they will swap for a similarly priced cut you like. If not, get a Moissanite or white sapphire in the shape you want and replace the diamond – saving the diamond for a future piece – maybe after your first child is born you could make a family necklace with it? 

Your Fiance loves you and wants you to be happy with your Engagement Ring. You need to be honest – if you can’t be honest about a ring at the beginning of your marriage, how do you expect to have a great open and honest marriage for the next 50 years? 

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

boaxai :  I’ve never seen a black diamond that big.  It’s amazing! I’m so glad you finally got what you wanted.

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