Post # 1
Hi. Not new to WB but new to this area!
We aren’t certain we want to have children…it would at least be another year or so before we officially “try”. I’m 36, he’s 35. Has child from first marriage. I have no children and have never been pregnant.
Anyway, in Nov I went to see my OBGYN. Loved her. But she said I didn’t have a lot of time. And she also suggested I look into losing approximately 20lbs before becoming pregnant. She didn’t say it was health mandatory but she said I would have a much easier pregnancy and I would lose it faster. I let that soak in and now that the holidays are past, I’m considering it all. I’m also going to get a hormone test done for my ovaries to see their “age”. She said that would be a good idea.
In the meantime, I started researching nutrition and fertility and revamping my diet to just be geared toward that. I think this summer I’ll start prenatal. I just can’t bring myself to do it now. It seems so weird!
Anyway…any other bees out there in a similiar boat?
Post # 3
i’m 32 (almost 33) and trying for my first, i’m on cycle 4.
a friend of mine had got pregnant for the first time at 40. she had a beautiful 4 year old now. she is very healthy. she had one miscarriage, but overall a very easy experience.
another friend of mine is trying now for the first time at 39, she’s been TTC for 6 months.
Post # 4
39 here, and we’ve been trying for about a year and a half. 🙁
Start charting, that will save you some time later. Also, starting prenatals will give you fantastic hair and nails. It’s really just replacing one vitamin for another, so it’s not a bad thing.
Post # 5
I just wanted to pop in and share with you that I have two friends who got pregnant quickly (after 3-4 months of ttc) at age 36, and another friend who got pregnant at 40 and 42, quite quickly as well.
Post # 6
@Coral99: “Look into” losing weight. That’s a new way to put it. I have known countless successful plus 35 pregnancies, even with people who have conception issues.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
IF we TTC, it will probably be a year from now (cue heart breaking wail of sadness from me), putting me at 35. We already know we will need medical intervention to get pregnant. I’m doing my best right now to not think/worry about it too much.
Post # 8
I’m 39 and currenlty 13 weeks pregnant with my first.
We started TTC in April (a few months before the wedding) and I got a BFP my 4th cycle off of birth control. Sadly, that ended in a miscarriage at 6 weeks – it was due to low progesterone, not anything to do with my age. Waited a cycle and then started TTC again, and got a BFP on the 3rd cycle.
Currently 13 weeks, all is good. Baby is doing well and moving all around 🙂
Post # 9
@Coral99: a little off topic but you mentioned researching nutrition, would you mind sharing what you came up with?
Post # 10
I turned 35 in October. We wanted to wait until we were married at least one year before TTC. Truth be told, I would love to not feel pressured by time.
My DH and I started trying in September of 2013. We’re now on cycle 7 and definitely getting frustrated by how long it’s taking. I don’t think our age has antying to do with the issues we’re experiencing but we’re also starting to think that we might need medical intervention.
I think the tricky thing is that I assumed once we started trying…we’d get pregnant in an instant. And obviously, I’m finding that’s not true for us. So the question becomes do you start trying now because it could take a year or more? Or do you wait and hope it takes the first couple months of trying?
I know people who started right away because they were worried their age would be a “problem” and they ended up pregnant in the first month. And even on this post alone, there are women who are experiencing successful pregnancies well into their 30s and 40s…which is very encouraging to this discouraged bee. You just never know.
Post # 11
@MrsLongcoatPeacoat: Ok…what the heck is charting?! I hear/read it all the time. I keep track of my period on an app…is that enough?
@Evie19: Oh cool….thanks!!
@Glasgowbound: I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. 🙁
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I wish you the best.
Post # 12
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
I am 34 and my DH is 43 and we are thinking about TTC now! I want to have 2 children so if things go as planned then I will be pregnant with baby #2 when I am around 36!
Post # 13
@MRS-K: My Dh and I have a similar age gap… we’d like to try in the next year or so but I am freaking out at the same time. LOL That’s normal, right? 😉
Post # 14
@MRS-K: I’ve always had the age “38” in my head for some reason…no idea why.
Post # 15
@Coral99: sort of. I use fertility friend, and based on your period days, it will give you fertile days, which give you an idea off when you ovulate. You can pinpoint the exact daywith ovulation predictor kits and be more aware of when you should be actively trying.
Post # 16
- Wedding: August 2008 - Toronto, ON
@mrs_pudding_pop: We’ve been together for 9 years and married for 5! My mother just passed a week ago and now this is making me think life is short. I used to freak out I guess that is why we’ve been together for so long and haven’t tried to TTC but now I want a baby more than anything! It is very normal to be scared but if you really want to have children, just go for it!