Post # 1
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
I’m curious because I see a lot of Bees talking about upgrading their rings after so many years, or even just because. I’m newly engaged and when my (then) boyfriend asked me what style ring I had in mind, there was really only one shape that stood out from the rest for me- the elegant marquise! Once I actually tried one on at a jeweler, I was sold.
My sweetie proposed with a beautiful marquise diamond ring, and I am smitten. I assign a lot of sentimental value to things given to me by my loved ones, so it is one of the most special pieces of jewelry that I now own. With that said, I can’t imagine myself ever “upgrading” because this particular ring means so much to me. Maybe I’ll feel differently in time, but I’ve been wearing the same ring my grandma gave me for 6 years now and that’s not going anywhere (kind of different, but the point is when I love a piece of jewelry, it’s forever).
I guess it helps that he got exactly what I wanted, and I don’t particularly want a bigger diamond than I already have. I do understand why some people upgrade, maybe the “dream ring” was not financially a possibility at the time, or sometimes our tastes just change. As of now, I don’t see any upgrades in my future. Does anyone else feel that way about their engagement ring? Feel free to post a picture of your long-term bling! 🙂
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Me!! I’m way too attached to it sentimentally. 
Post # 4
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Helper bee
I am not engaged yet (though I’m pretty positive he bought the ring), but I do not plan on an upgrade of any sort. I’m sentimental as well. To me, if he ever wants to get me any other jewelry, he’s more than welcome to. 😉 But my engagement ring will always be just that, a way to outwardly mark our decision to marry.
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
I will never ever part with this.
That’s not to say I don’t also love plenty of other rings, but those can go on my right hand. 🙂
Edit to add — That feeling is mostly sentimental. He got to know what I liked and picked it just for me, and that thoughtfulness can’t just be replaced. An upgrade feels like it is more about the jewelry than the reason for having an e-ring. I don’t understand upgrades that replace the original. Now, if Fiance someday wanted to buy me an “upgrade” as a very thoughtful gift, that’s different and I would happily wear that in addition to my e-ring.
But truly this is nearly everything I wanted in a ring anyway! I like other styles but not in an “every day for the rest of my life” kind of way, hence right hand rings just to play dress up.
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Post # 6
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Bumble bee
On the one hand, I feel like there’s always the possibility that one day I’ll upgrade to that “Perfect” 1.00ct Excellent, D color, IF center diamond. But part of that is that really, I’m more sentimental about the setting than the stone… If my current setting couldn’t reliably accommodate a new, larger, sparklier stone (current is .74ct Excellent H Eye-clean SI1), I wouldn’t do it. This setting is my dream setting, and the metal is what’s been touching my finger more often than not for two and a half years so far.
And I’ll never get rid of my wedding band either. But I’ll get new bands, and sometimes sadly rings get lost or stolen, so if that happens with my engagement ring I may or may not get the same or similar design again.
Here’s a pic of my favorite jewelry:
And by the way, your marquise is beautiful.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
I am in camp Forever!!
(My wedding band will be the matching eternity band)
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
sometime I think about how much money we could have saved not spending on a ring (if i could do it again…i would make sure my So would just spend minimal…) soo no I will never upgrade…and if I lost my ring i will not replace it
Post # 9
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Bumble bee
I never will. I wouldn’t upgrade my Fiance. So why upgrade the symbol of our marriage?
Post # 10
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Helper bee
I won’t be upgrading. My engagement ring was my grandmas – she left it to me when she passed and it is the only thing of hers that I have – so it holds a lot of sentimental value to me. I never really had a style in mind when thinking about rings but hers suits me well and I love it.
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY
unicornphish: I’ve never seen a band like that, it’s really beautiful! I can see why you’re more attached to it than the actual stone lol And thank you 🙂
Brokensound21: That’s incredibly special!
Post # 12
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Newbee
I definitely don’t plan to… I like my ring a lot aesthetically and love it for what it symbolizes and the memories it carries. But I’m not very interested in jewelry anyway, and I know upgrading would hurt my fiance’s feelings tremendously even if I did want to!
Post # 13
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Worker bee
Not engaged yet, but I have no intention of upgrading or changing out my future e-ring. I plan on being with the same man, with the same ring, for as long as the universe will allow. Granted, things like lost or stolen rings happen, but I can’t see myself changing out an e-ring willingly; it’s just not my style. Neither my SO nor I are particularly trendy when it comes to jewelry so we both tend to pick out very basic, “timeless” (obviously subjective) styles that I hope I’ll still love in 30+ years!
Post # 14
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Bumble bee
- Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle
I wouldn’t call it an upgrade but an “in addition to” ring. I didn’t get my dream ring on the first shot, but I did get the man I wanted. My ring is a low quality diamond that I’m pretty sure is cracked anyway. I will keep my original forever, but I’m open to adding to the collection.
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
I wouldn’t want to upgrade, ever! I chose, and got, my dream ring. Tiffany Classic Setting, yellow gold, 0.61ct, VVS1, F colour.
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