(Closed) Any Bees Planning on Wearing the Same E-Ring for the Long Haul? (No Upgrades)

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you plan on upgrading someday?
    No, I'm in love with my engagement ring. : (420 votes)
    80 %
    Maybe, I may want to switch it up. : (60 votes)
    11 %
    Yes, I plan to upgrade. : (44 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 136
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    13 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I have small fingers, and a nearly perfect 1 carat diamond that was in the five figures for the stone alone. Anything else I would upgrade to would look vulgar.

    Post # 137
    Member
    410 posts
    Helper bee

    Nope. We’re both pretty traditional, so the e-ring that’s on my finger will be my forever ring ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 138
    Member
    567 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Yes I do. It’s the ring he asked me to spend forever with him, so I plan to wear it while I spend forever with him. I’d never heard of the entitlement that is upgrading your engagement ring until I came to this site. 

    Post # 139
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    1413 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I’m in the camp of~give me all of the rings lol I’m all about anniversary rings,bands,rhrs etc…I like a lot of different styles,color, shapes etc. never plan on changing my husband but jewelry can come and go (or just keep coming aka hoarding ๐Ÿ˜› ) 

    i think my perspective also has a lot to do with me not haven’t been able to be part of choosing my ering. (Not that I don’t love my ering,it’s just not very practical for me).The women who were apart of that decision didn’t have to worry about not potentially liking it because they got exactly what they wanted the first time around. But that’s just my opinion so take it with a grain of salt ๐Ÿ˜‰ either way it’s all good. “Upgrade” or not ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 140
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    360 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m not planning on an upgrade. I went for the largest size I personally would want. I had the option to spend more on a higher color/clarity at the same size, but I didn’t feel it wasn’t prudent. So now I’m kind of in a weird spot where, for an upgrade, I could spend a lot of money for a whiter, more clear stone, but the difference would be virtually unnoticable to anyone but myself.

    However, I would like a chunky eternity band one day. I will go with something petite for my wedding band because the larger bands I have looked at look weird with my e-ring, but I imagine at some point in my life I won’t wear my e-ring every day, and I’d like an eternity band (maybe with emerald cuts?) that I would wear as a standalone ring. 

    Post # 141
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    My setting was custom designed to match exactly what I had pictured as my dream ring, and one of my side stones was my husband’s mothers – while I’m not super sentimental toward material things in general, I definitely have more feelings toward my engagement ring than my wedding band. If swapping the center stone out for a bigger diamond is possible without damaging/changing my setting and still looks good with the original side stones, I’d definitely be OK with looking into that one day! But I do plan on upgrading the band eventually. I’m loving east-west shared prong marquise bands lately, I also love a nice blingy 5 or 7 stone band.

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    Post # 142
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    195 posts
    Blushing bee

    I won’t be upgrading my ering, it’s moissanite and perfect

    but my wedding band I may need to upgrade. It’s sterling silver and I wanted 18K white gold to match my ering but right now didn’t want to spend the money 

    Post # 143
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    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2018

    As long as DK comes through for me and makes it how I imagine it (the more I look at his instagram the more confidant I am in him. Once my Fiance “officially” proposes with it they will literally have to pry it off my cold dead fingers. I’ll will it to a child but it’ll be my forever. 

    Post # 144
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    23 posts
    Newbee

    I’m somewhat shocked to see people go as far as to call upgrading ‘entitled’. We picked out my ring together, but as we are pretty young and about to go through large career changes (he just graduated college and I’m in the hiring process for a more serious job that pays double my current wage) we recognized that we will eventually be in better financial standing than we are now. He wanted to get me something much fancier, but we decided to wait until we can really afford it- and we know we want to be engaged/married sooner than that, and preferably buy a house first as well. I will always cherish the original ring, but when we get to pick out the one we believe truly suits me, I think that will be even more meaningful; and in my opinion not entitled or spoiled at all. I do see how it is different if it is a family heirloom or if he picked it out for you himself.

    Post # 145
    Member
    151 posts
    Blushing bee

    I think it makes a difference if you were involved in some way with the selection- even if it was just giving some hints as to shape, size, side stones, etc.. I’ve always LOVED jewelry and rings, So I had definite opinions about what I like in engagement rings.  However, my Darling Husband picked my ring out on his own, then took his mother back to give an opinion on it before buying it.  Needless to say, she and I do NOT have the same taste in style.  After 13 years, I’ve grown to love the setting, but I still plan to switch out the center for a larger size diamond.   In the meantime, I have several moissanite pieces that I adore wearing to change up my look.

     

     

     

     

    Post # 146
    Member
    635 posts
    Busy bee

    I’d actually never even heard of upgrading an e-ring until a few years ago. And I’m not interested in it at all. 

    Post # 147
    Member
    906 posts
    Busy bee

    Well my fiancée went and picked out my ring completely on his own with no input for me. He’d asked me several times if I wanted to go ring shopping and I always declined or put it off. I think in my mind I thought it was more romantic if he just picked it out alone, and I wanted to be surprised when he proposed. SO when he proposed I was pleasantly surprised at what he picked and I really fell in love with it. I certainly wouldn’t mind a larger stone (it’s 1.1 carats and I’m sure he got whatever he could reasonably afford) but I’d feel weird upgrading it because I’m sentimental and I wouldn’t want to get rid of the ring that he chose for me all by himself. After we got engaged we saw some of his friends, and he’s made comments like so-and-so’s wife has a huge diamond…etc…and he’s asked me if I want a bigger stone in the future. I think he feels like he has to keep up with his buddies who clearly spent more on their wives’ rings. I always tell him I love it just the way it is.

     

    Post # 148
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    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I’m in a situation where my fiance took what he knew I liked from rings (or didn’t like for that matter) and had a custom ring made. He spent so much time, effort and money on my ring, picking out the perfect stone, having the band made thinner, everything that he knew was important to me and proposed with a ring that I loved and, also importantly, that HE loved. I could never and would never suggest an upgrade and even if he bought me another ring down the line I wouldn’t take this one off. This ring is a symbol of how much he loves and knows me, why would I want to change that? 

    Post # 149
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    1938 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

    I love my engagement ring and wedding ring I wouldn’t want to upgrade maybe get other jewelry but I am not planning to upgrade ever

    Post # 150
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    1563 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2017

    The intention of my husband was always to upgrade my ring. He chose a beautiful diamond, but opted to surprise me with a trip to Disneyworld and Univesral instead of paying for the halo setting we’d chosen. His first sentence after I said yes was telling me he kows it wasn’t what I wanted and plans to upgrade it later – basically, he could afford the setting I wanted without the halo, but to add a halo the setting would have to be redone so for the time being he just opted for the cheapest setting he could purchase from the jeweler (a knife edge). Honestly, I love my ring as it is. Yes, sometimes I get pangs when I see halos or Heidi Gibson rings – even different diamonds :x. So I’m not sure! The ring obviously has sentimentality, so I’m not gunning for any changes.

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