(Closed) Any Bees Planning on Wearing the Same E-Ring for the Long Haul? (No Upgrades)

posted 5 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you plan on upgrading someday?

    No, I'm in love with my engagement ring.

    Maybe, I may want to switch it up.

    Yes, I plan to upgrade.

  • Post # 122
    124 posts
    Blushing bee

    I have changed and upgraded so many times through out our marriage my husband doesn’t even blink at it anymore!  I like different styles at different times through out life, and so…it’s off to another ring.  I am not sentimental about “things” so to speak and the rings are just a symbol of the marriage committment.  After all we upgrade homes, cars, vacations etc. so I just don’t feel overly attached to just one ring.  Let me just say I am very attached and sentimental about my husband of nearly 25 years—no intentions of an upgrade there–LOL!!

    • This reply was modified 4 years, 8 months ago by  sapphireblue.
    Post # 123
    2698 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    I would upgrade to a 5 carat emerald cut with baguettes, but hubby loves elaborate settings. I couldn’t go any bigger really in a similar setting so what else could I ask for. Also hubby and I designed it together, and I’m pretty attached to it. 


    Post # 124
    372 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

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    UK-bee:  stunning! 

    Post # 124
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Bernardus Lodge and Spa, Carmel Valley, CA

    Never changing!  I still tear up when I think of my Fiance getting down on one knee and looking down at him and seeing the ring.  It was the most magical moment of my life (to this point)

    Post # 125
    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    I do not have plans to upgrade because my e-ring is a family ring (belonged to DH’s grandmother).  I have thought about re-setting the stone, but DH is attached and I respect that.  I also plan on always having my plain (except the milgrain) gold band because it was used in our ceremony.  I don’t have any issues with upgrading/changing my stacking bands though, and just got my third one yesterday ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Engagement Ring alone

    Current set (once emerald band gets sized)

    Post # 126
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2016

    I adore my engagement ring.  But it is not my original,  but I cannot wear that one anymore.  I don’t consider mine an upgrade,  more of a necessary change. 

    Like I said I absolutely adore the set that I have now,  and no I don’t plan to upgrade.  But if DH wants to buy me a new ring for a big milestone I’d take it,  because I don’t understand this negativity towards upgrading.  It wouldn’t be an upgrade to me as I would have two rings that I can switch,  as many women have a plain and a pretty wedding ring or have a stack to switch up.  I also enjoy switching out with my grandma’s engagement ring or my mums,  doesn’t mean I’m replacing mine just means I’m wearing a different one that day lol. 

    That being said I don’t think I could stand to not wear my wedding band,  but who knows I may end up with a few and that’s fine. 

    Post # 127
    287 posts
    Helper bee

    I could never upgrade purely because this is the ring he chose himself for me and got down on one knee for ๐Ÿ™‚

    It’s not really common though for people in the UK to upgrade. I didn’t even know this was a thing until I came onto the Bee. 

    Post # 128
    3219 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    I’m keeping the ring I was proposed to with forever. I love it when I are older women who have a ring that is obviously something that was in style in another decade – it’s like proof they’ve been married for 30 or 40 years. Same with rings with tiny stones – if that is what they could afford when they were young and in love, it is the perfect symbol of “for richer and for poorer.”

    Post # 129
    208 posts
    Helper bee

    I would never upgrade.  If he wanted to buy me jewelry I would ask for earrings or a necklace,etc 

    Post # 130
    84 posts
    Worker bee

    I’m not opposed to upgrading. I love my ring and I couldn’t imagine wanting something else but who knows how I’ll feel in the future. 

    Post # 131
    35 posts

    I don’t believe in upgrades. I’d only add anniversary bands. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    Post # 132
    710 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2018

    I like my ring very much indeed and tried to choose a style that I’ll still like in the decades to come. So I’m not looking to “upgrade”, which isn’t a thing in Germany anyway.

    However, I know that all the women in my family later in life had problems with their finger joints which meant making rings significantly bigger. I’m not sure my ring could take it and I’d hate for it to get broken.

    What I WILL do is still wear other rings. I have rings I bought before I was given this ring and I like them and especially when I go to concerts where a ring might get lost, I’d much rather wear one of my silver rings. And I know that I will inherit a few pieces of jewellery which I will want to wear: a diamond ring, an opal and an aquamarine. They will not replace my engagement ring but since I will wear e-ring and w-ring on different hands, there will be occasions when I will wear my w-ring but wear a different ring instead of the e-ring.

    I don’t think my fiancé will want to buy anything bigger or just different. He`s much more likely to build a piece of furniture for me or plant a tree and I love that about him.

    Post # 133
    1906 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    I’m kinda traditionalist in my opinion that the ring you get is the one you’re stuck with, forever and ever, unless it simply doesn’t fit lol ๐Ÿ˜€ Which is why clear communication about what you want in a ring is so important! 

    I might bling up my simple classic solitaire with a nice stack, but the engagement ring itself will never change ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 134
    3817 posts
    Honey bee

    I can potentially see changing the setting, but I doubt I’d upgrade the stone.  Or as a PP said, I would add more bands on for anniversaries.  

    Post # 135
    995 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I would never want an upgrade. However, I would never say no to more/bigger diamonds! lol. But I would rather hubby spring for earrings, necklaces, and RHRs.

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