Post # 1
We live in the NYC/LI area and have recently (not because of the hurricane) reconsidered staying here and raising our family here. It’s stressing me out a bit, because I never even considered leaving until he mentioned the desire to.
Fiance is a teacher, but dual certified in Social Studies and Special Ed, so he’d have to get certified in another state if we left, but I am in IT and I don’t think I’d be able to keep my current job, but I hope I’d be able to find another one in my field after leaving NYS. We think we’d like to stay in the Northeast, but are considering states like Delaware, New Hampshire, Pennsylvania, Vermont, etc.
Since we planned to start looking for a house right after getting married, we need to sort of decide soon if we want to stay. We have been doing a lot of financial review, etc and are starting to feel frustrated with what our salaries can get us in this area. I realize most schools are good, etc., but we’re starting to feel the crunch of living in such a high-cost area and realizing it may not be our best option. When we talk to people who raised families here, many say they wish they had left sooner (but I wonder if that sentiment is related to the recent housing market crisis).
Anyway, anyone ever relocate? I’m not sure where/how to start. I guess Fiance would have to start looking for a job in our states of interest, pursue that state’s certification and then we could consider moving?
All of our family/friends are in this area, by the way, so that would also be hard for me.
Post # 3
@csteen85: I don’t have any experience with this but I’m sure other bees do. Giving this a bump!
Post # 4
I would get a job elsewhere first, even if it is just one of you. You can always rent for a few months while you are looking for a house there if you don’t find one right away.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
Darling Husband and I are from the NYC/Westchester area and are going through the same thing. We are looking to relocate within the next year and are going to start seriously looking this spring.
I am having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that we will be farther from our parents/aunts/uncles, etc., but keep reminding myself that it is worth it for a better life for us and our future children.
Our situation is a bit different on the job front as my husband telecommutes and can provide for us on his salary while I look for a job in our new location. Just be aware of what the unemployment rate is like wherever you choose to settle because that will almost certainly effect how long it will take you to find a job.
Personally I would not feel comfortable moving until at least one of us found steady employment in our future neighborhood. If you haven’t completely decided on a location yet take some time (at least 2 weeks) visiting the area. Google searches and sites like bestplaces.net have helped me learn about various neighborhoods and what location might be a good fit for us.
I hope this is helpful… This is already long enough so feel free to message me if you have more specific questions on relocating. It is SUCH a difficult decision and one my husband and I had to discuss for quite a while before I felt confident enough to make the leap.
Post # 6
@Mrs. Coyote: Wow, this helps so much! I am checking that site out, for sure.
I think the hardest part is we’d be electing to leave completely on our own without a job lead or anything. At least a job relocation would give us a starting point :(.
Post # 7
Darling Husband and I got married while we were living in Dallas and re-located to Atlanta earlier this year.
Luckily, DH’s job allows him to be based out of any major US city so there was nothing to worry about there. I job searched from Dallas as we didn’t want to move until I had secured a new job in Atlanta. I was able to do phone interviews up until the final round so I only had to fly out for 1 in-person interview.
In terms of somewhere to live, it is so easy to narrow down apartments based on reviews, pictures, and prices online. So narrow it down to a handful and then make one trip to look at all of them, pick one, and sign a lease.
Post # 8
Has your Fiance looked into whether or not the states you would like to move to have certification reciprocity? I’m a teacher & I’m planning to move from Arizona to Idaho and I know all I need to do is take the Idaho teaching exams once I’m there and have a job and my teaching certification transfers. Transfering his certification from one state to another shouldn’t be difficult (unless you are moving to California) and since he’s certified in Special Ed he should have a few more job opportunities open to him. Fiance and I are moving to Idaho after I finish this current school year, but he already has an established position there, so our situation is a little different than yours. We are moving to a really small town so it will probably be awhile before a teaching position opens up for which I am qualified, but I plan to get any job that pays the bills until then. I think its worth relocating for a better quality of life, even if it means struggling for a bit. Good luck with everything!