Post # 1
I am in an MBA program, starting a week from today, and just went online to apply for graduation. I found out that the cap and gown is $150 GASP! But the hard part is that I can choose to go back to my maiden name for my degree, but the ceremony will have my legal name as of today. Which means that, even if I am divorced by May, which is really unlikely, I will need to hear my married name as I am called on stage. I don’t think I can deal with that. I am so upset – I don’t want any more reminders that my life is a failure.
So, did any bees skip their college gradaution? Are you upset that you did? Thoughts?
Post # 3
I’m really sorry you are in this position!
I completed my bachelor degree a semester early, which means I would have to participate in the ceremony a few months after I actually graduated (or a few months before-but the person I asked about that told me incorrectly that I couldn’t). Well, my 6 month intership (required for my profession) was across the country, and I couldn’t afford to fly home for it. So I skipped it. I regret the mass they do the night before because is incredibly beautiful and meaningful, I don’t ever regret missing the actual ceremony.
Hope that helps.
Post # 4
I had ZERO desire to attend my college graduation ceremony, I had them mail my diploma to my father with “Paid In Full” stamped on the envelope.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I’m really sorry for what you’re going through… I can’t imagine how you feel.
I did, however, skip my college graduation. I got my diploma, and that’s all that mattered to me. I don’t regret it (four years out). My family and I went out to a mystery theater dinner, and it was awesome.
Choose whatever will make you happy.
Post # 6
I don’t know how your college will do this, but when I graduated both college and law school (at different colleges in different states), we were handed a card with our name on it that we were supposed to hand to the person announcing the names right before we went on stage. We were allowed to make changes to our name at that point on the card (I took the opportunity to sound out my last name so they didn’t mispronounce it). If your school does this, you would be able to cross out your last name completely and write in your maiden name. You might ask around and find out if this is how your college handles graduation. I think a lot of them do this.
Post # 7
I skipped graduation. I had them mail it to me. Honestly, to pay for a cap and gown and all this other stuff just to sit through hours of graduates–not my thing. I graduated high school with a class of 10. I knew I couldn’t sit through hundreds.
Post # 8
@LilliePad: exactly what I have experienced for all my graduations.
Is there someone on a different day maybe you could go half the cost of the cap and gown on? And just buy a tastle or whatever you get to wear as extras.
Do you have anyone that wants to root you on? Seems to me graduation is more for the family that helped get you there.
Post # 9
I have a bachelor’s degree as well as a masters and received both diplomas by the mail. I never regretted it, as I find the ceremonies boring and I never really made friends in school – I concentrated on studying and work and my relationship. It’s really not necessary to attend if you don’t feel like it.
Post # 10
I didn’t want to, and was convinced by some friends that I would regret it if I didn’t. I went and it was fun. I don’t think our caps/gowns were that expensive, really, but I don’t remember–$30, maybe? And yeah, we had little cards with our names printed on them that we handed to the announcer right before we walked out from backstage so that they could read it off how we wanted.
Post # 11
Yep, haven’t been to a graduation for myself since my high school graduation! I skipped my undergrad and master’s ceremonies….no regrets…get the diploma by mail or not at all if you don’t plan on hanging it up.
Post # 12
This will be my third college graduation (I also have my associates and bachelors), and I remember having the card for the associates, not sure about the bachelors ceremony.
I am going through a very deep depression this week, and this just put me into the angry stage. How dare he ruin my life to the point that I an’t even attend a graduation without it being ruined? How dare he run off on me, because his parents wanted him to move home? How dare he make plans with me for the rest of our lives, and then decide that mommy and daddy are more important?
Sorry for the rant, but I’m sobbing today, I’ve been sobbing for four days now, since I moved back to my apt for college, I’m alone, scared, feeling helpless, lost, like a loser, and now to deal with this too……I just don’t know how to deal with anymore bs or stress.
Post # 13
Are you sure you can’t petition to have your maiden name spoken?
Post # 14
My masters graduation was really important and meaningful to me. It was a big deal for me to walk and get my diploma in person (plus it was MIT so we had a truly amazing speaker). But, if you are having emotional issues that make you not look forward to it, why put yourself through that?
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Muhlhauser Barn
I skipped moth my undergrad & graduate ceremonies… No regret whatsoever!
Post # 16
I did not attend my graduation. I graduated early (December) and my school only does one ceremony. I was halfway across the country working when my graduation rolled around so I didn’t go. It didn’t bother me in the least.