Any bees that are now happily married…

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Not at all. 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

We’re about 75% through our engagement. I can honestly say yes I have had doubts. But it’s usually only when he pronounces Moët as Mowee and im not marrying a peasant.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I actually joke. No I have no doubts thus far. We’ve been basically married for 3 years now. Been together 5. Own a house. Have a dog. We got dis. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 1995

No, I never had doubts. 

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2018 - UK

Nope, I can honestly say I never doubted him, the marriage, or the relationship.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018 - City Hall

I did feel nervous at times, but only because it’s a big change/step and I’ve never done well with big life changes, but I never had doubts about HIM. 

We are happily married.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Yes, I did. But my doubts were less about him and more about my own anxiety and self-doubts. This is my second marriage and my ex did a number on me the last few years of our marriage. I worried leading up to marrying now-DH whether I was making a mistake getting married again and whether this one would last. I never doubted how I felt about DH, just whether we were doing the right thing by getting married (I had said I was not going to remarry after my divorce). We’ve been married 9 months and since my anxiety has died down, things have been great. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2021 - Glacier National Park-Montana

I had doubts before my prior marriage .  I should have listened to them. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - Mountains

So we had an argument (not a fight per se) last night about him not cleaning through his clutter… again. Our wedding is 4 months away but he has so many boxes to go through throughout the house including a guest room we need for guests coming into town for our wedding. He has known about this for a year. I warned him to not put it off. Now I’m the nagging fiance trying to get him to do this, he doesn’t understand how much time it will take to go through (there’s probably 30 boxes) let alone clean and prepare the house. He’s an 11th hour kind of person. I’ve tried to help him by setting aside cleaning times where I will organize things around the house/laundry etc while he does his cleaning but our first attempt failed.

While I don’t doubt wanting to marry him, I just see that as foreshadowing of things to come… i.e. a list of projects that don’t get done.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

No doubts (got married on our 8 year dating anniversary and after we already had 2 dogs and a house).

Very happily married and very much in love now 5 years later. He’s my person.

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper

No, and I think if there are any doubts at all before marriage about the person, then one should probably not be getting married. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

Nope.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

I’m going to go against the grain here. I’m not even engaged yet, but my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 years and living together for 3 and. While I’ve never doubted whether or not I love him or whether or not I want to be with him, I’ve had doubts as to whether or not he would be my forever person. These doubts were mainly a result of my own anxiety but during a few rough patches, I’ve definitely questioned whether or not we’d be able to get through them.

I think it depends on where your doubts stem from. If you’re doubting whether or not you love him/want to be with him or if there are things about your relationship that you don’t think you’ll be able to live with for the rest of your life, I’d definitely explore things further within yourself. However, a lifelong commitment IS a big deal so I don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing to question things. Without any context regarding what exactly it is that is causing you to have doubts, it’s difficult to really offer advice on your situation in particular. I just wanted to offer my personal opinion that I don’t think a relationship is doomed just because you’ve experienced doubt.

Post # 15
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Newbee

Married a year now. Not once during my engagement did I have doubts, and not once since being married have I doubted that I picked the right person. 

 

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