Post # 1
Are there any bees that don’t have a driver’s license? I hate driving. It scares the heck out of me. I have my learners but not my full license. The last time I drove, about a year ago, I crashed and it heightened my fear even more. It’s inconvenient because I can’t run to the store if I need to, and I’m worried when Fiance and I have kids, it will get difficult when they have different activities to go to. I just don’t know if I’ll ever get over the fear to get my license.
Does anyone else not drive? Am I the only one?
Post # 3
I don’t. I finally got my license last year after a lot of pushing from friends and family, but I don’t own a car and have only driven with my license maybe 2-3 times since I got it. I really just don’t like driving and I’m not very good at it, so I figure why put myself and others at risk?
Post # 4
Also, I’ve got pretty severe anxiety which has heightened my fear of driving. I’m afraid I’ll have a panic attack while on the road :/
Post # 5
I don’t have my driver’s license yet, only have a learner’s and it expired for the second time a few months ago. I got my learner’s when I was 16.5 and now am 22 and a half. And due to my mental health I will not be doing any driving for several months more at least. You are not alone!
Post # 6
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
@MissKit: I passed when I was 17 but didn’t drive again until I was 23. My Fiance was re-teaching me because he wants that I can drive when we have kids for the school run etc but the truth is I’m scared when I drive in the city. I totally overthink everything 🙁 I do however love cruising out in the countryside with music blaring haha!
Post # 7
@MissKit: I will be working on getting my license this summer! I’m originally from a big city with buses, trains, subways and plenty of public transportation, so I never had a need for one at home. Then I went away to college and lived on campus and still didn’t need one. Then I met Fiance and we moved to his podunk little country town where we now live and I’m in big trouble 🙂 I work from home so it hasn’t been a major inconvenience yet but I can’t wait to get my own license and have a car!
Post # 8
Me! I have my learners but I’m a very anxious driver, so I never went for my full license. I drive around our farm and own a car, but I just HATE driving on the road.
I have a goal to change that this year though! I have my first driving lesson with an instructor in a little over a week.
I live an hour away from the nearest town and am going to enrol in a course which will give me a new employment opportunity, which means I’ll need to drive.
Post # 9
I have been driving since I was 16, but I hate it. I don’t like the wastefulness of it and wish I could get by without a car. When I lived in Philadelphia, I did not have a car from 2006 to 2011. IT WAS AWESOME and so much cheaper.
Now that I live in a different area, there aren’t really bike paths or anything so it’s really unsafe to ride a bike, but I rode my bike for a while when we were here and I did not have a car, and I want to start that up again.
If you live in an area where you cannot get around without a car, you should get over your fear so you’re not dependent on someone else.
Post # 10
I’m glad to hear I’m not alone! You have no idea how much it makes me feel better. I’m so tired of all the comments from friends/family about “When are you going to get your license?” Ugh, why do I need to drive? I have the bus and it’s been fine so far. Sure, there are a few times where it would have been handy to know how to drive… but I’ve gotten by so far. (I’m 23).
I tell people that one day I’ll get my license, but honestly, I’m not really sure I will. I just don’t understand why I should have to put myself through all that anxiety. And then put myself through that fear every single time I need to get behind the wheel. At least this way, I have an excuse… I can’t legally do it.
Post # 11
Currently I am saving up to get a car. I had one, but it finally has kicked the bucket. So for the last year I have been just riding my bike to work and the Fiance takes me on rainy days. So far it is working out okay, but I do miss the independence of having my own ride. I also have a lot of anxiety and this also manifests in driving.
Post # 12
@MissKit: Nope. I’m 24, take the subway every day and I’m ever so slowly getting back into the habit of driving. I’m not afraid, it’s just none of my friends have cars! I have to go visit my parents in the suburbs if I want to practice.
Post # 13
Wow it’s amazing to find others like me. I do not have a license but I have practice and experience a lot of anxiety behind it. My fear comes from being in a accident while busting family. I get asked all the time when will you get a car, when will you drive. I just wish they would mind their business.
Post # 14
@ladybugmommy2010: I completely agree with you! People SHOULD mind their own business. Luckily, over the years, the comments have subsided a bit. But when I was younger, at every single family event “Did you get your license yet?” So annoying.
Post # 15
I have my licence. But I HATE driving. I rarely do it, and honestly it’s only to please others (people never stop bugging me about it). I only have my g2 (g1, g2, then g in Canada) but I have to get my full g by November which involves highway driving. Ugh.
I agree with you ladies though. The constant comments get are SO annoying. Even if people just “joke” about it, it really pisses me off. I’m seriously anxious about driving, and people don’t understand how badly I wish I could just get in a car and drive without being scared. It’s nice to know that there are others like me out there!
Post # 16
My mom is a really fearful driver and I always wonder why she doesn’t move to a bigger city where she wouldn’t have to drive ever! As it is now, she experiences unneccesary levels of stress and embarassment about her fears. She is not open to any kind of cognitive-behavioral treatment that help her.
I am not afraid to drive but I don’t drive often because almost every place I need to go where I live can be reached via walking, biking, or the bus. It’s really quite normal in many cities not to own a car at all!