(Closed) Any bees that moved far to be with FI; how do you handle family questions?

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I just made up something about wanting to move to DC get into into the policy world……..I dont and have never worked in policy lol.

But you dont have to lie like me, lol.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I live about 14 hours worth of driving away from my family. I moved here 2 years a go to be with my now husband! It sometimes sucks, but when I decided to move here, we decided that we would be family. When people ask, I just said, yes, my Fiance is here 🙂

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sure a lot of people can relate to being in love and making sacrifices!

It does suck to not be around family and have people talk but you will have new friends and such that will become family. And also you never know what the future holds  in regards to where you live (perhaps you will move back?). You also might start your own family as well 🙂

I moved from practically Canada to the most southern city in Florida- leaving my my big family, horses, friends, career and everythign behind to stay in Florida after graduating college ( where i met FI). I’m also basically going to be moving to Argentina, so I will be out of the country too..joy!!

It gets better with time!!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My husband moved 6k miles away from his friends and family to be with me.  He just tells them the truth!  When people ask me if he’s got family here, I just tell them the truth as well.  It’s awesome to have family nearby, but better still to be with the person you love the most in the world!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I moved 4 hours away to be with my Fiance. His family is all here as well. I told him from the start though that we’d have to move closer to my family when we were ready to have children. He knew that this would be a deadbreaker for me and he understands.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Fiance had lived out here in Colorado for a few years before we met.  I had lived in Va Beach for a few years at the same time he was here. We both moved back to our home state of MD for family reasons (at the SAME TIME and, of course, not knowing one another at the time) About 5 months after we were both back in MD, we met, and had started our most amazing relationship. A few weeks, yes WEEKS, after we started dating, he mentioned his desire to eventually come back to CO and would I ever move again..esp way out here (1700 miles from our families)  Although it was still new for us, I just knew that if/when he left, I couldnt let him go without me. He had thus far proven himself to be everything I had ever hoped for, and I just couldnt walk out of his life. By the time we made it to our 6 months, he had a friend score him a great job out here, and another friend did the leg work for us to find a house to rent. We loaded his trailer with all his stuff, and he pulled it behind his truck, and I had rented a Uhaul, filled it with my stuff, put my Mustang on a dolley, and pulled that behind the Uhaul. I followed him on a 2 1/2 day journey across country to our new home, our new life.

I was excited, terrified and sad at the same time. I had JUST gotten back to MD after a few years in Va Beach and I had to tell my mom and kids (all grown) that I was leaving again. It was really hard to see the looks on their faces. Them being so far away is definately the hardest part, aside from quitting my job and leaving my friends to come here.   Today, I think its the best decision I have ever made. We bought our own home last Aug, we got engaged last Christmas, and we are having our perfect wedding in just 84 days. We have 3 of the best behaved pups God has ever created, we both have great jobs and life is pretty frikken awesome! My family loves him and his family loves me and everybody is flying out to be with us when we are finally married.  When people ask me about family, I tell them the truth, I miss them all mad crazy (ESP my kids!), but I LOVE it here in Colorado and have the best life and man a gal could ask for, and dont regret a single minute ♥

So there’s my 1700 miles away from “home” love story.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I completely understand how you are feeling.  I moved about 1600 miles away from home for a job 4 years ago.  I always kind of figured that I would stay, as I was escaping to get away from cold weather, but until I met my husband there was always the option to move back.  While I had been planning to stay all along, it seemed so much more permanent after getting engaged.  I have a great relationship with my family back home, so it’s really hard being so far away.  It’s especially hard being away from my grandparents because they’re 91 & 93 so I know I don’t have much time left with them.  I think I actually talk to them more now though, so that helps me to still feel close.  I’m also working on a plan to get some of my family to move down here too, so hopefully when my parents retire in a few years they will be able to spend at least half the year down here (which they would love to do as well).  I try to keep that in mind when I get sad about them being so far away.  I do also have my aunt and uncle in the same city which helps, but I really don’t see them much more often than I see my parents because of our schedules.

As for how I handle questions about why I’m so far away, I just say that it even though I don’t like being away from my family, the move was the best thing for me personally and I certainly don’t regret it.  After all, I wouldn’t have met my wonderful husband if I hadn’t left!  

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