(Closed) Any bees treat husbands different or want to?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2892 posts
Sugar bee

There’s nothing weird about feeling the urge to reciprocate. I don’t necessarily think this should be based just on a change in relationship status. Being married doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. But if you just want to show your guy how much you appreciate what he’s done for you by doing the same for him- then I’m all for that. But also keep in mind that cooking and cleaning aren’t the only ways to show your husband that you love him. Be creative.

But I do have a question: what brought this on? Do you feel guilty about not doing more? Or were you just inspired to do something nice for him more often?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You don’t like to cook and your husband knew that going into the marriage, right? I don’t think he suddenly expects you to become Martha Stewart.

If you want to cook more to improve your and DH’s life (eat healthier, save money) or you just want to show your Darling Husband how much you appreciate him, then I think that’s a great idea. But I don’t like the equation good wife = cooking and cleaning.

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

well i put it in my wedding vows that i need to learn to cook for my husband!  i am slowly getting there.  especially since currently i am unemployed and he is working, i have no excuse!  but its not our marriage that makes me want to do things for him. its that he does so much for me, i feel like i can never do enough in return!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I don’t do any cooking or cleaning now, but when I get married I’d like to.  Mostly because I won’t work while Fiance works really hard.  He deserves to come home to a clean house and a hot meal.  I love him which is why I want to do these things. I’d do it regardless if we were married or not. 

Post # 7
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Maybe you feel like you’ve been promoted from girlfriend to wife and you just want to put in a little extra effort.

I can sympathize. My Fiance is Philippino and lived at home until 26 and I came along. He’s the youngest boy and his mom “took care” of him. He’s gotten use to my ways which is sporatic cooking and cleaning! And now he does so much! More than I do for sure, and I just hope he’s not disappointed.

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