Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard
Has anyone gone from trying to conceive and change their minds (after being unsuccessful) to living childfree by choice?
Husband and I have been fence sitters and recently have been TTC (somewhat poorly)… TTC has been a bit of a mind game for me especially because we only have sex maybe once a month (sometimes going stretches without, for example we went a whole year without sex and the only reason we started again was TTC). <— different story for a different thread, I digress.
So I was just wanting to hear from others who sort of tried for awhile, and then changed their minds. We both honestly could see ourselves happy either way, which has made the decision harder.
Post # 2
While that wouldn’t technically be CFBC by the strictest definition, I do see what you mean. Darling Husband and I are in a similar situation. We’re technically TTC, but his medication makes it difficult to have sex often so after a year, nothing, but we’re also not trying very hard. I was into it for a couple months with the temping and charting and such and then just got bored with it TBH. If there were to be fertility issues, I doubt I’d opt for any invasive treatment, I think we’d just decide to live childfree. Of course, we haven’t made any decisions and I don’t know how I’d feel if it really came down to it.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2015 - Backyard
Yeah, I feel like it would be easier to just NTNP but the problem is I get migraines and the medication I take when I get them is not allowed in pregnancy, and can screw things up during implantation. So, I kind of have to be mindful about when I’m ovulating because if I have unprotected sex during my window, I wouldn’t be comfortable taking my migraine med during the TWW. Which sucks in and of itself because I’d feel better about dealing with an Unmedicated migraine if we were really going for it and trying, vs just having sex once in the month and half assing it. At least I’m regular enough that I don’t have to think too hard about when I’m ovulating. Our life is pretty good right now and sometimes I just want to put the kibosh on the whole TTC thing but I also just can’t bring myself to get birth control. Mostly because I can’t take the pill, refuse to get another IUD, and don’t trust anything else other than getting snipped.
Post # 4
We were CFBC before we decided to TTC. We have agreed that if we cannot conceive, then we will go back to living a childfree life because we are sure that we can be happy without children. We can’t afford IVF and I’m not interested in any other type of reproductive technology.
Post # 5
I also wanted to add that we won’t be TTC until next spring.
My husband needs a vasectomy reversal and we need to save for that.
Post # 6
I’m not there yet but Dh and I have discussed not doing any type of treatments to have a kid if we are unable to after trying. We feel like its a huge waste of money for us to do IVF and stuff like that. We don’t want a kid THAT bad so we would be okay with not having one. My only fear would be us being told we can’t have kids and then we have sex freely and I magically end up pregnant when I’m like 45. Lol I would DIE. I would be incredibly unhappy to get pregnant at an older age so that’s my only worry. I also dislike BC but if we are successful in having a baby I will go back on it afterwards.
Post # 7
redroses76 : I think it’s good to know where your limits are. We aren’t CFBC (we have one daughter and plan for more children), but we required IVF to get her. We knew going into it that IVF was going to be our last effort – we weren’t prepared for the expense or stress of trying to adopt. I know other people that feel differently and had different quitting points if they didn’t get pregnant on their own.