(Closed) Any bees who DO NOT live with their BF/SO/FI?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@NYCkindaBee:  i don’t! we just started being long distance this summer. i didn’t want to move unless we were married

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@NYCkindaBee:  DH and I did not live or sleep together before the wedding because we are also Christians and that lined up with our beliefs.

Post # 5
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598 posts
Busy bee

I too have been with my SO since I was 17. I am now 23 and we still do not live together. I don’t know when we will be financially able to live together since I am back in college and won’t be done for the next 3 years. Cry I get so sad thinking about it because I wanted to be at a new point in my life by the time I was 25 and it looks like that isn’t going to happen. SO doesn’t want to get an apartment together because he wants to save for a house and thinks it is ridiculous to pay rent on an apartment when you can be paying a mortgage on a house with that money. Looks like I have a long wait.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@NYCkindaBee:  Well it is going to be THAT much more exciting when you get to move in together πŸ™‚ We live together but haven’t always. In fact, in some of our relationship we’ve lived together, then not, sometimes in two different countries, then back in with each other, then our own spaces again…now we’re back in cohabitation mode. It’s always had more to do with work, school and finances…not as much to do with relationship (except one, awful time πŸ™ ). I enjoyed my me-time and am thankful for it. When do you get to marry and move in with the Mr.?

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@howtobeawife:  +1.

My Darling Husband and I are Christians who also did not live together, sleep together, or have a sexual relationship with each other until after we were married.  It was extremely important to us to obey God and to honor each other.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church

We didn’t live together before we got married. Sometimes it feels like no one else does this anymore. Some people found it so strange that they asked if we’d be living together after we got married or if we weren’t going to right away! We are married and living together now and I love it. πŸ™‚

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

We don’t live together yet- but that should change in the next few months when SO gets a better job πŸ™‚ Our reason is financials. If we had more $$$ we’d be living together by now. I am 25, he is 28, we have been together for about 3.5-4 years.

Post # 12
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598 posts
Busy bee

@NYCkindaBee:  Yay at least your SO will be done in the spring, that’s great! My SO is already done with grad school and has been working full time for 2 years while saving for a house. I can’t wait to graduate (Spring 2015 I HOPE) so I can start making money and move on to the next chapter!!

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We don’t live together. We are also Christians so we consider it unwise to tempt ourselves in such a way. However we do spend a lot of time together, so I don’t feel like we are missing out. I feel our relationship is were it is supposed to be premarriage. We’ll have 80 years or so to spend living together. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@NYCkindaBee:  My fiancee lives in Hong Kong, so we do not live together because we are waiting for his visa from the department of homeland security. That said, it will be a fiancee visa, so when he moves here, he will move in with me (for financial reasons), and we won’t be married for another couple of months. 

So I feel ya!

Post # 15
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544 posts
Busy bee

We don’t and won’t live together before marriage. We both consider ourselves Christians (though our beliefs are pretty relaxed compared to our parents) and we just feel that’s right in our relationship.

But it makes waiting that much harder! I want to have a home with him and to start building our lives together already, dang it! I want to pick up his dirty socks and to make him breakfast and to get on to him for leaving his hair all over the bathroom sink. I can’t wait to experience all of the little things with him. I completely feel your pain!

But remember how exciting and special it will be when the time comes!

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