Post # 1
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Busy bee
Hi bees,
Just wondering if there any bees who do not live with their BF/SO/FI and why. SO and I have been together for almost 7 years, dating since HS when we were 17. I know there are many reasons why a couple would not live together. Ours is due to religious reasons, we are Christians and of course, our traditional parents will not approve that. We will not be living together until we are married. I think this is one big bummer for us. We just love being around each other and just wish we could live together already! 🙂 But we will have to wait for that!
Darn it! I keep reading bees’ posts on how they live together or have an apartment together etc etc etc…lucky you! 🙂
x
Post # 3
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868 posts
Busy bee
@NYCkindaBee: i don’t! we just started being long distance this summer. i didn’t want to move unless we were married
Post # 4
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2840 posts
Sugar bee
@NYCkindaBee: DH and I did not live or sleep together before the wedding because we are also Christians and that lined up with our beliefs.
Post # 5
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598 posts
Busy bee
I too have been with my SO since I was 17. I am now 23 and we still do not live together. I don’t know when we will be financially able to live together since I am back in college and won’t be done for the next 3 years. 
I get so sad thinking about it because I wanted to be at a new point in my life by the time I was 25 and it looks like that isn’t going to happen. SO doesn’t want to get an apartment together because he wants to save for a house and thinks it is ridiculous to pay rent on an apartment when you can be paying a mortgage on a house with that money. Looks like I have a long wait.
Post # 6
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553 posts
Busy bee
@NYCkindaBee: Well it is going to be THAT much more exciting when you get to move in together 🙂 We live together but haven’t always. In fact, in some of our relationship we’ve lived together, then not, sometimes in two different countries, then back in with each other, then our own spaces again…now we’re back in cohabitation mode. It’s always had more to do with work, school and finances…not as much to do with relationship (except one, awful time 🙁 ). I enjoyed my me-time and am thankful for it. When do you get to marry and move in with the Mr.?
Post # 7
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Busy bee
@fingerscrossed: Glad to know that there are bees on the same boat as me me! Did you and SO previously live nearby one another when you say you just started?
@howtobeawife: I’m sure it must have been very special when you both first moved in together! I feel like moving in together once you’re married just makes it more special 🙂
Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
@howtobeawife: +1.
My Darling Husband and I are Christians who also did not live together, sleep together, or have a sexual relationship with each other until after we were married. It was extremely important to us to obey God and to honor each other.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: July 2012 - Catholic Church
We didn’t live together before we got married. Sometimes it feels like no one else does this anymore. Some people found it so strange that they asked if we’d be living together after we got married or if we weren’t going to right away! We are married and living together now and I love it. 🙂
Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
We don’t live together yet- but that should change in the next few months when SO gets a better job 🙂 Our reason is financials. If we had more $$$ we’d be living together by now. I am 25, he is 28, we have been together for about 3.5-4 years.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
@JoolyBee: Wow! 🙂 I know, I feel like it’ll be really special when we move in together once we are married. Haha, well, we are both 23 and SO is still in school, finishing up his last semester and he’ll be done in the spring. We had the chance to create our timeline, and he would like to propose by the very end of next year, maybe going into the first few months of the following year. So won’t be for another 2 years!
@Stranger516: We’re both 23 too! 🙂 Saaame here. SO is still in grad school as well, though he’s done this coming spring!
Post # 12
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Busy bee
@NYCkindaBee: Yay at least your SO will be done in the spring, that’s great! My SO is already done with grad school and has been working full time for 2 years while saving for a house. I can’t wait to graduate (Spring 2015 I HOPE) so I can start making money and move on to the next chapter!!
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
We don’t live together. We are also Christians so we consider it unwise to tempt ourselves in such a way. However we do spend a lot of time together, so I don’t feel like we are missing out. I feel our relationship is were it is supposed to be premarriage. We’ll have 80 years or so to spend living together.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
@NYCkindaBee: My fiancee lives in Hong Kong, so we do not live together because we are waiting for his visa from the department of homeland security. That said, it will be a fiancee visa, so when he moves here, he will move in with me (for financial reasons), and we won’t be married for another couple of months.
So I feel ya!
Post # 15
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Busy bee
We don’t and won’t live together before marriage. We both consider ourselves Christians (though our beliefs are pretty relaxed compared to our parents) and we just feel that’s right in our relationship.
But it makes waiting that much harder! I want to have a home with him and to start building our lives together already, dang it! I want to pick up his dirty socks and to make him breakfast and to get on to him for leaving his hair all over the bathroom sink. I can’t wait to experience all of the little things with him. I completely feel your pain!
But remember how exciting and special it will be when the time comes!
Post # 16
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Busy bee
@Stranger516: I’m sure you’ll do great and graduate Spring 2015! Same here, once SO graduates and gets his license, hopefully he can get a full time job, make some money, then get that ering! ;P
