Post # 1
I’m looking for advice from Bees who had a short wedding planning timeline. Due to school/insurance/our jobs/the home we’re building, we are looking at only a 3-5 month timeline to plan our wedding. I’ve got my dress and shoes, and my grandmother is a florist, so those details are taken care of. Its just the rest that’s looming over me! 🙂 Do any of you have advice or tips for planning a wedding on a short timeline?
Post # 3
We planned in 4 months.
Do you have someone to marry you? Make a preliminary list of guests. Look for venues, photographers, dj or ipod?. Those are the most difficult to find. Good that you have your dress.
Post # 4
When I found out I was pregnant we moved up the wedding date. I had from March to September to plan the wedding. Because we had such a short plannign time there were a lot of things I had to do without due to budgetary reasons. However I am still getting elements of what I wanted. Try to plan out the attire first as that takes the longeset to come in. David’s bridal or something like that is your best bet for the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses since they can get them in quickly.If your heart is not set on a certain venue then plan on being flexible. We are doing everything in a chuch hall to save money.
It can be done. It can be stressful. Take it day by day and it can be done, just realize that you will have t oroll with the punches and you will be ok. I am not getting my dream wedding, but I am getting married to the man i love and all the rest will somehow click into place.
Post # 5
We did it in 5 months.
I actually felt that the short time frame was a blessing. It kept me focused on what needed to happen and kept me from overspending on stuff that was unnecessary.
In the end, it almost felt too long! I was ready to have it overwith a few weeks before the actual date.
Post # 6
We got engaged in April of this year and were planning February 2012. Scratched that plan and in July, decided to get married in September.
First thing I did was pick a venue and send out invites. I had invites out the day after we changed the date.
Everything else seems to have fallen in to place. We’re not having a super fancy wedding, no sit down meal…
But I’m so excited to marry him in 17 days. 🙂
Post # 7
I am planning a wedding in 4 months and its a destination so its a little harder since I can not see anything before hand. With no wedding co-ordinator I might add as well. You have a great start by already having your dress,shoes and a place to get your flowers. Make sure you call and book the place you want your Ceremony that is the first thing we did and then book your Venue for your Reception. Then once you know where those are both going to be at then send out your invites. Dont worry about Save the dates since the wedding is not far off.I got all the big things out of the way within the first 2 months and now all is left is the small things like my lingerie, clothes to buy for our Honeymoon, Jewellery and picking up our wedding bands as we ordered them last month. Oh yeah and book that Honeymoon if you are going right after you are married. Good Luck.. On A side note… Are you engaged yet?
Post # 8
@Grizz:We have been engaged since last October and are getting married in November. Despite this year+ engagement timeframe the only thing we secured earlier on was the venue and are otherwise planning everything in 3 months. It worked out this way because we were finishing law school then studying for the bar and the wedding planning couldn’t be a priority during that time. I was really worried that 3 months wouldn’t be enough time, but everything has worked out so far with vendors, dress, etc. We are getting married on a Friday and I think that has helped so if that is an option for you, I would suggest it. Vendors seem to have more availability close to the date when it is not on the typical day of Saturday.
Post # 9
We were engaged for a long time but had to postpone our original wedding date because Darling Husband got laid off.
When we finally decided on a date, we had about 4 months to plan.
The biggest thing that saved me from losing my mind was deciding to have the reception at a restaurant. That way, we didn’t have to worry about decor/linens/chair rentals/etc. It cut out about 75% of the “details.” Saved a ton of time and money…
Post # 10
I’m not engaged or married YET!~~~~~but SO has had the ring for 5 freakin weeks. If he proposes by next weekend. That will give us 6-8 months to plan because there are two different dates but the first one is the one I want most. So 6 months max if we go with that date and he proposes soon. Ugghh!!! He doesn’t understand that time is ticking away while he’s hold on to that sparkly. Not to mention ours will be Destination Wedding so we need to start letting guess know to save $ and save the date!
I think it’s possible for you to plan in that short amount of time. You have quite a few details already taken care of. Congrats again!
Post # 11
@Grizz: I had 6 months to plan… I took 3 months. My advice is make a decision and don’t second guess yourself. If you liked it the first time, it will be great on your wedding day as well. Even if this “other thing” looks good as well. It’s just a wedding, and yes, it will be perfect! Make sure you nag your Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen to get their dresses ASAP. Even if you have to lie and say the last date to order it is XYZ or you’ll have to pay an extra $100. Baha! 🙂
Post # 12
My husband & I wanted to have our own place (was living with parents) before getting married. So in March 2010 we got our own apartment. We never picked a date due to it being our first time on our own. We needed all the money we had to get started, buy furniture, washer/dryer, table wear, EVERYTHING!!!!! So we thought after a year we would have everything we needed & could start saving up for our wedding. In November 2010 we figured out that my husband would be getting a bonus check & a promotion!!!!!! We got really excited knowing we could use this for our wedding & we knew from the start our wedding would be family only so alot of the things that take alot of time for bigger weddings, we wouldn’t have to worry about. So we picked a date for… ONE MONTH LATER!!!!!!!!!! We was so excited to finally be able to get married as we had waited very patiently until we could afford it & didn’t want to put anything on credit.
Yea, so we planned it all with in a month. BUT we didn’t have flowers (Christmas wonderland theme.) We didn’t have a DJ because we got married in my husbands family Church & also had our reception there. & My sister took our pictures. So we didn’t have to have a certian amount of time to book all of those things including a venue–Due to getting married in my husband’s family Church.
So maybe 1 month isn’t enough time for someone who is getting/wanting all of the above things listed that we didn’t need.
Post # 13
I’m in the same boat but even worse! My bf and I want a May 2012 wedding date and we have NOTHING booked. And he hasn’t proposed yet. I think it’s still possible, I’m having a pretty small wedding and the place I want to have it at is holding the space for us without a deposit so at least that is taken care of. You already have your dress, the other reason that people need a year to plan is the venue. So if you can get that booked sooner rather than later, I think you’ll have enough time to plan.
Post # 14
@Anxiouspeanut: Yes, we got engaged on Friday! We had been kicking around wedding ideas knowing we’d have a short timeline, but its nice to officially plan!
Post # 15
I’d love to have a leisurely (yeah right ) 10-12 months to plan, but some happy things happened to us and we decided just to roll with it! I got into grad school for nursing so I’ll have to quit my job and go on his insurance, and we found a piece of land and started construction on a home more easily/quiickly than we thought, so we wanted to be married when its done and be able to move in together. Living together before the wedding isn’t an option for us – he is on our church’s staff, I’m going to be at a Christian school, and both sets of our parents would die of strokes if we moved in together, sooo…. a short engagement it is!
Post # 16
Congratulations! We chose to plan in 3 months because I wanted the stress over with quickly; you just need to be really organized. Lists are your friend! I would start by listing every single possible thing that needs to be done (in an organized fashion: ceremony and reception, then break down all the little parts). Since you have your dress already, that’s a great thing! Now book vendors and make more and more decisons! I would find a venue first, then a photographer, then everything else can follow.