- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2015
Oh I know.. I already told her to stop. She’s unfortuately been one of the least helpful people in this process. We were at a graduation party and she was talking to some random exttended family that I don’t like, haven’t seen or talked to in years, and I overheard her saying “they’ve been trying for a baby for a while.. nothing still..”
I pulled her aside and kind of cursed her out… I was mortified.
Your age/partner’s age: 36/39
TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: October 2013 to August 2015 for Baby #1
October 2016 to March 2017 for Baby #2
Baby #: 2, DS is from IVF, current is from FET
Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? no, it took us 24 cycles including 2 rounds of clomid, 3 iuis, and 2 ivfs to have our first positive ever.
Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? yes, we both have some issues. he has poor morpholology, i have a large fibroid and high e2
Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? as mentioned above, i did 2 rounds of clomid, 3 rounds of IUI, and 2 rounds of IVF for DS. we did 1 FET for current pregnancy.
What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time? my RE told me when we were starting IVF that he can’t tell me when i will be a mother but he can tell me that i will be a mother. i thought that was the best advice.
i also joined Resolve’s (the national infertility association) message board and local support group and my clinic’s support group. i made some really great friends that i am still friends with today.
I also haven’t found any exact data for progesterone levels except for boards so who knows! I’m definitely ready to step things up, we’ve tried everything we possibly could and all the BFNs as you know get old pretty fast!
And I wasn’t too concerned about the Clomid because I could always switch to a different medication should I need to go to IUI. I know most won’t let you take Clomid more than 6 months because of the effects it has on your lining. But as far as your IUI’s I know some RE’s will only let you do 3 cycles of IUI before moving to IVF.. has more to do with the success rate of IUI after 3 cycles versus how much clomid you took, I think :/ I’ve read that the success rate of IUI after 3 cycles drops significantly so some won’t bother after that.
I hope you get your BFP soon one way or another! *hugs*
You’re definitely not alone. I’ve actually been having a rough few weeks and actually almost posted last night (had everything typed out and then chickened out last minute). My sister is pregnant after “not really trying, not really worrying” and I’m starting to plan her shower and I’m just feeling…stuff. Not good stuff. At first, I was soooooooooooo proud of myself: No jealousy, no bitterness, no resentment, just 100% pure, genuine excitement for my brother in law and sister. That lasted a month. Then the baby shower planning started. Then we found out the gender. Then the name. Then my parents started buying stuff and talking about the upcoming baby. Then one or two “insensitive” comments (at least to me) like when my mother and I disagreed on a shower invite and she said, “That one is more your style than your sister’s. When you have a baby shower, you pick that invitation.” which led to me crying in my car on the way home agonizing that my biggest fear is that I’ll NEVER have a baby shower.
So, yeah, just a rough time.
Your age/partner’s age: I’m 26 and he’s 24.
TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: We did away with birth control in May 2015 and actively started September 2015.
Baby #: This will be our first.
Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end?
Five years ago we had what my doctor thinks *may* have been a missed miscarriage and because I was young and stupid, I waited too long to bring it up to her (it was a she at the time).
Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? PCOS and Hypothyroidism
Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF?
Currently on Metformin. Going to try Clomid in the winter and will start looking into IUI or IVF for the spring.
What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time? Find something that still makes you laugh/feel good on a bad day. Lean on your partner, but be forgiving if they can’t always be there for you in the way you need/want at that moment – they’re struggling, too. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have (baby), write down one or two things a day that you are grateful for.
MrsMeowton : I’m glad you decided to join and didn’t chicken out fully!
People don’t realize how insestive stuff can sound when you struggle with infertility. I can’t count the amount of times people have told me “You’ll understand when you’re a mother” that I almost burst into tears because of.
Also- We sound like we have a similar-ish story. I’m hoping everything works out for you! 🙂
On the topic of insensitivity….
My age: 37
DH age: 34
Neither of us have kids or have tried or anything until 2015, when we got married.
TTC start date: Immediately after wedding, which was May 2015. Got pregnant immediately (had been off birth control for years, only just started trying and it happened right away). Had a misssed miscarriage immediately and had a D&C in July 2015. Tried every month since. Got pregnant out of the blue March 2017. Now I am 28 weeks pregnant. This will be our first.
Fertility issues: No, we never got checked out. The plan was to go get checked out eventually but we just hadn’t yet and BAM I got pregnant.
Advice: Man, ok, so for trying for almost 2 years, we did things like “do it every other day” and taking those ovulation tests, and then doing the basil temperature thing. Then we tried the whole “just enjoy it and see what happens. Less pressure.” None of that worked. We have no idea how it happened. We had sex once in February. Literally once. And it happened to be a magical day. I have no idea why that day I got pregnant when all other times we tried and nothing happened. So I’d say, keep trying and maybe go to a fertility clinic when you feel it’s time.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE…..
Your age/partner’s age: 40/38
TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: TOO MANY TO COUNT 2 YEARS PLUS
Baby #: 1
Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? NO
Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? UNDIAGNOSED, trying to get thyroid to optimal range 2.5. at 3 to 3.2 overweight (SO and I unsed to smoke but both quit me 6 month so 2 months) and overall stress (have substancially reduced).
Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? Nothing IVF/IUI yet. No insurance coverage and saving for money and well needed to get other factors lower first.
What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time? just keep trying, see an acupunturist, and dont let it consume your life as that stress is self defeating as stress contributed to infertility. And know it happens to a lot of people. I thought a while back that I was alone. Other family members were easily having children, and recently I have found out that some of them are struggling also (TTC #2). It is an emotional rollercoaster and I keep telling myself keep it up, you just need one.
AF is done for me but I’m honestly just waiting for the next cycle. While I want to hope that this will be the month I can’t imagine how this will be different as our work schedules will make it difficult. Last month we had a great vacation with plenty of free time and relaxation/good food during my fertile week and unfortunately nothing. While I hate the fact that for the IUI we may be in different cities we’re both tired from the process and just want to move things along!
I’m sorry your mom was like that for your mc. 🙁 Old school thinking sometimes just gets me so angry… And there’s no reasoning with people who believe things that were believed in the 80s. I would definitely wait a little longer to tell people when you get pregnant again! Baby dust and lots of luck to you!!
Period #2 after the miscarriage is over, so we’re finally starting the TTC process again. I’m going to try and mimic what we did for the cycle where we got pregnant, as silly as it may be, which was no alcohol, “letting it sit” after BD, and eating some oysters. Also got pre-seed lubricant in case it helps.
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