(Closed) Any Bees who went/are going through Early Menopause?

posted 5 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
23597 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@NurseMandie:  Oh no! 🙁 I wish I knew anything about this to help you, but I just wanted to give you a big hug!  Hope everything is okay.

Post # 4
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @NurseMandie: Menopause sucks… no 2 ways about it… early or late (I am very late in the game at my age)

I started on the roller coaster in my late 40s.

Some of what you described has certainly happened to me… started with my cycles going from being 28 days (32 at the most) which they had been forever… down to 25, 26, or 27… with the occasional one back on track for 28 to 32.

Then I skipped the occasional skipped period, having NEVER missed one in my life unless I was pregnant.

And then I went thru awhile where they were closer together… like 2x a month close.  That really sucked.  And that alternated with again the occasional normal one like I had had the majority of my life.

Then I went thru a phase where the cycles lengthened out to 45 to 50+ days.  Only when they came, they were like my BFF who is older said… Niagara Falls.  It was like they were making up for lost time… 10, 12, 14, 16 days long.  That was no fun either.

That is when I went from taking just my regular vitamins and adding an iron supplement (lol, of course that caused another PITA… literally… they call it IRON for a reason you know)

Then I went back to my old regular self… for almost a whole year.

And then after a particularly awful cycle… everything stopped.  It has been 6 months now… and Aunty Flo hasn’t come to visit !!

I’ve had a few GFs tell me that is how it all ended for them, one day, it was just over and done.  And a some other GFs have told me just when they thought it was all over (8, 9, 10 months) … it showed up again.  I am hoping for the former not latter.

On top of all that… I of course had the other nuisance symptoms that you described:

I just feel like my whole body is falling apart right now.  And I know that stress can cause a missed period but I’m not really stressed right now, but then hearing I might be going through early menopause is stressing me out.   Normally I have spotting at least 1 day before my period arrives, I’ve been  diligently waiting to see spotting and I have nothing.  I have no other symptoms to suggest my period is on its way.  No food cravings that I  normally get, no bloating, no cramping etc.

And the famous night sweats… got those right around the time I turned 50, and they were accompanied as you say by the feeling that my whole body was falling apart.  Altho I’m not sure if that “feeling” was because I was going thru perimenopause, OR if it was because I turned 50… it does seem that the Warranty on our body expires once you hit 50… all sorts of crap seems to begin to wear out / go wrong !!

Mr TTR says I have been a champ thru all this… he says he expected far worse.  Lol

I am not excessively moody … I’d say my mood is about the same as always… I’m a pretty even keeled girl.  So he hasn’t had to put up with the crap of me bitchin & naggin mood swings etc.  That so many other couples seem to face.

And our sex life is still great… we don’t seem to have any issues there (like many stories I’ve read)

I would say tho that there are 3 things that have effected me the most…

1- My sleep pattern.  I just don’t sleep like I used to.  Even when I don’t have night sweats (those things come and go… have em for a few months… they disappear, they come back etc).  I seem to have 3 settings these days… Wide Awake, Fast Asleep, and Tired.  None of them are all that I’d like them to be.  They say this is hormonal.

This particularly drives Mr TTR crazy, as he liked it much better when I was on a normal schedule.  I try to sleep when he does, but it doesn’t always work.  He is kind tho, when I can sleep he leaves me be.

2- Weight Gain.  I’ve put on some weight in the last few years… I’ve always been a yo-yo girl in this regard my whole life (like Oprah).  But the real thing with going thru Menopause is it is almost impossible to take off.  Your metabolism changes / slows down and no matter what you do it is hard to kick it back into gear.  They say this is hormonal.

4- Hot Flashes.  In the last year, I now get Hot Flashes in the daytime.  They are as interesting as every woman has ever said they’d be.  One minute you are burning up and peeling off clothes like crazy, the next you are piling it all back on.  They are a nuisance more than anything else.  Again they say this is hormonal.  And the not so great news, I know many many older women (60s & 70s) who tell me this symptom goes on for what seems like forever… some of them still get Hot Flashes on occasion.

Personally, I don’t do any medical intervention for my symptoms.  They are apparently all normal.  I am not one to take a lot of drugs anyhow… and I have read too many bad things about hormonal replacement therapy for my liking.  I try to do right by myself in other ways… particularly in what I eat.

I realize I probably haven’t addressed your main concerns… of going thru perimenopause early… but maybe I’ve given you some reassurance that you are not alone (we all get there eventually)

If you want to chat, you can always send me a PM

Hope this helps,

(( HUGS ))


Post # 5
5777 posts
Bee Keeper

@NurseMandie:  I began a crazy hormonal cycle in my early 30’s and had some unexplained medical issues that all testing came back showing  ‘borderline’. I had erratic but heavy periods, sometimes lasting 2 full weeks of a prior 28 day cycle, started developing excessive hair growth, and even cystic acne. I was told I also had fibrocystic breast disease at age 32, and had my first mamogram at 35 to have as a baseline.

High blood pressure and hot flashes for me began in earnest by the time I was 38, and it took 12 full years for my periods to cease and the flashes to diminish. I had what I thought was a pregnancy scare at 42, but it was in fact the first fully skipped period. (you have to have no period for a full 12 months to be considered finally done). I had many years of going 6-8 months with nothing and made it to 11 another time,but it came back again and it was beginning to rule my life.

My hot flashes were actually easily timeable…10am,2pm,10pm,2am…..and not much sleep in between. Working and in full PPE (face mask,gown,safety glasses and gloves) was torture and I had to have a fan blowing on me while I worked all the time.

I hope they get to the bottom of things for you, but just know that sometimes some of the hormonal changes will show within the normal range while the symptoms are still present. It is very frustrating and can drag out for a long time.

Hope you feel better!

Post # 7
2395 posts
Buzzing bee

@NurseMandie:  Sorry you’re dealing with this unexpectedly early!

The women in my family tend to go through menopause early — starting in late 30s. My sister was done with menopause by her mid-40s. 

I didn’t start going into menopause until mid-40s. I am 52 now and recently hit that one-year mark since not having a period, so I probably won’t have any more periods from here on out.

But yeah, it’s no picnic. I’ve been plagued by hot flashes that felt like a furnace was turning on inside my stomach — to the point of having to keep an ice pack with me while watching TV or going to bed. Dry skin, super dry skin. Flaky patches on my scalp. Having to slather myself with the heaviest of creams constantly. Insomnia, restless nights. And I hope  this isn’t Too Much Information, but you are probably going to reach a point (if you haven’t already) where you are going to need more K-Y for intimacy with your husband. BIG time…. 

Good luck!

Post # 8
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@NurseMandie:  Sorry you are not feeling your best. Is your doctor planning on doing any tests? It’s a fairly easy diagnosis.

As the pp’s have said, the peri-menopausal period is the hardest. Once you actually hit menopause, meaning you haven’t had a period for 12 months, it’s a breeze.


Post # 10
46590 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@NurseMandie:  It might be. Many of the other peri -menopaausal symptoms are subtle and may only be noticed on hindsight- irritability, changes in sleeping pattern, rapid heart rate or palpitations,headaches, problems with thinking clearly or remembering things. The night sweats and hot flashes are more noticeable of course.

If you truly are peri-menopausal, it would likely be considered premature ovarian failure because of your age.




Post # 12
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am managing my menopause naturally – with the help of my naturopath. There is no way I could ever take Premarin – considering the extreme abuse the horses must suffer to obtain their urine to make the drug.

So I am taking Omega Fatty Acid supplements, vit. D, alone with using OTC progesterone cream and time-released DHEA. I no longer have hot flashes or any other menopausal symptoms and I have been in menopause over 5 years now.

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