Post # 1
MOB here, wedding is one week from today. I have always battled anxiety/panic attacks and sleep problems. I have done pretty well throughout the planning process. We ended up being over on our guest estimate (people husband and mother of groom swore wouldn’t come now coming). At one point we were over our venue limits but we have had some cancellations. That started anxiety issues. Starting to have problems sleeping and worrying about things. Now father of bride tells me we are short final payment due next Friday. Scrambled yesterday and got a small credit union loan. Could barely sleep last night. Woke up this morning feeling like an elephant is sitting on my chest and can hardly breath, stomach in knots. This is how my anxiety presents itself. I want to ENJOY this last week, not be in panic mode. Anyone with anxiety—what do you do to try and relieve it??? Would appreciate any ideas or help.
Post # 3
Hi, Sleep tech and long time anxiety disorder sufferer here,
You should talk to your doctor. You may need something to help with anxiety short term. Short acting anti anxiety medications also help shorten sleep onset. Many have side effects so I would be wary of taking them the night before the wedding but in the weeks before hand you should be able to get an idea of if they’re helpful, assuming your doctor finds that approach to be appropriate.
I’m concerned with you waking up with your stomach in knots, feeling like you can’t breathe. There are CBT methods for helping with anxiety in general and also anxiety with sleep.
I’m wondering if you snore?
Post # 4
The only thing that ever helps me is a combo of: 2 fish oil capsules, 1 B6+B12 supplement, and 45 minutes of exercise. EVERY day.
But if I catch it before it gets bad, I can generally have it reigned in by the next day, and feel better by the day after. But I have to keep the supplements/exercise up until the stress is gone!
Post # 5
@HappySky7: what’s CBT methods?
Post # 6
@Sadiepoo: Cognitive behavioral therapy. It retrains negative throught processes and learned behaviors to reduce anxiety. I’ve been trying it for quite a while with quite a bit of success.
Post # 7
Talk to your doctor. I combination of antidepressants, anti anxiety medications, yoga/meditation, and running has changed my world.
Post # 8
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@Sadiepoo: I have anxiety too. Definitely try and get into a doctor on Monday and tell them what you are going through. There are extended release anxiety meds that won’t make you feel.. high? I don’t know what other way to describe it. There are also non habit forming meds like Buspar that might help. Go as early as possible so you have a least a day to test the meds before the wedding. I know a common side effect of Buspar is dizziness and you definitely don’t want that the day of the wedding.
Post # 9
If you can, download the free apps from glenn harrold. I SWEAR BY HIM. Put on some headphones and take an hour to listen. He calms my anxiety every single time. When I feel an attack coming on, I find this helps immensely. He has 3 free apps. 2 relax and inner peace and one lose weight. The lose weight one I have listened to hundreds of times at bedtime and have never heard the entire 27 minutes!!
Good luck! Let me know, I hope it works for you as much as it does for me 🙂
Post # 10
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Sadiepoo: Nothing wrong with getting medicated for the short term stress/anxiety. During my divorce I took a combination of Zoloft for the anxiety and Xanax for the panic attacks I woke up from at night. The doctor lso prescribed Ambien to help me sleep but that didn’t do anything for me; I would sleep for two hours then be wide awake for the rest of the night. After everything slowed down after my divorce was final, I weaned back off the meds.
CBT takes time to learn. You have to identify your triggers then learn how to avoid them or how to cope with the ones you can’t avoid. I have been having anxiety and panic attacks since I was 8 years old and in times of large amounts of stress my CBT techniques are pretty useless.
A non-prescription path that may be useful would be 2-3 Valerian pills every 4-6 hours as needed. They stink like smelly feet but they do help with the daytime anxiety I have been having while planning my current wedding. A lot of people use Valerian as a sleep aid but it doesn’t work as well as Melatonin for me. At night I take a combination of 5 mg of Melatonin and 25 mg of Benadryl to help me sleep. If I’m not asleep after an hour I take an additional 25 mg of Benadryl.
Post # 11
Try googling acupressure points for anxiety/insomnia. The points for each often overlap. I do a few points for each before bed each night. I just started about a week ago so I can’t say for certain it’s working but at the very least it could be a placebo effect since I’m highly suggestible.
If your anxiety and insomnia is that debilitating, please make an appointment with your primary doctor. Ambien was developed to be a short term solution to insomnia and there are fast acting anti anxiety medications you can take (Xanax, Ativan, etc) short term, although those do cause side effects and shouldn’t be taken if you take ambien. I’m not a doctor, so this obviously isn’t medical advice. But I’ve been battling panic disorder and insomnia for years.
CBT and meditation are great and much better long term solutions but it sounds like time is an issue for you which is why I suggested the doctor.
Post # 12
I don’t know if this will help you, but I’ve had anxiety and insomnia issues (due to anxiety) for years. I started using non-prescription drugs either commercialized as Benadryl or SleepAid, DormAid, etc. They’re basically the same medicine : antihistaminics (used against allergy) but they induce sleep, so they are also sold under other brand names (for twice less $). The problem is, I felt like a zombie the day after, too. Plus, it made me sleep yes, but it didn’t help my anxiety. One day I went to a doctor to seek advice and he prescribed Rivotril to me. I use a very small dose (sometimes half of 0,5 mg pill is enough), it helps relieve the anxiety and it makes me want to sleep, BUT I feel very good the morning after.
Post # 13
I have Xanax. It helps me sleep but I always feel like I’m in a fog the next day.