Any bees with Chinese/Asian first name and are taking an English last name?

posted 4 years ago in East Asian
Post # 2
1651 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I have it. It’s fine, hasn’t amounted to much difference, as I changed my last name for personal, not business reasons. I figured people who judge, will always judge no matter what. If you have a white last name but look Asian, people are going to assume something. If you have an Asian last name, people will assume something. Pick the name that makes you and your husband happy. 

Post # 3
5892 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

melonseeds:  I’m half asian but my name is very, very Irish (and old fashion–the only people I meet with my name are over 70). People are so confused when they meet me LOL People make so many assumptions based on names. Do what YOU want to do, not what will make it easier for other people. 

Post # 4
157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

xtals:  I suppose I already made up my mind about this — I am not taking my SO’s last name when we marry for this reason. My name flows really well, and the typical “Jones,” “Smith,” or “Brown” just doesn’t sound good with it — if I say it out loud to people I know personally, they crack up laughing because it sounds absurd. I agree with PP though, do what makes you happy. I am keeping my last name because it doesn’t sound ridiculous, but if you think your names sound nice and you and Fiance are happy with it, then do what you want. Also — I feel you on the comments about birthplace/language too even though I was born and raised in Chicago: “So, where were you born??” “…Chicago” “Oh you speak Indian?” “Nope, English and Spanish…” I think this will happen to me the rest of my life, because as I’ve also been told: “Oh you don’t look American” whatever that means. lol. 

Post # 5
208 posts
Helper bee

I’m the opposite, I’m white and I’ll be taking a Chinese last name. I suppose I’ll be surprising people who I give my name to for appointments when they meet me for the first time. haha

Post # 6
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I have a asian last name but am taking a polish last name. 

Post # 7
1499 posts
Bumble bee

I’m the opposite in that I have a very English name and a non-english last name. I very happily took my husbands name because I like that my name is a blend of cultures. 

Do what you want, people are going to judge either way (which is so absurd). 

Post # 8
4162 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

My mom is Chinese and immigrated to Canada when she was 7, so she doesn’t have an accent or act “FOB-like.”  She took and kept my dad’s “Canadian” last name even after they divorced.  She didn’t want to be judged/discriminated against in the workforce due to her (very Chinese) maiden name.  I understand, but I still think it’s sad that some people are treated differently, just because of their name. 

Post # 9
40 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Our Lady Scapular and Inn on the Twenty

I am Vietnamese and took my husband’s German last name.

Post # 10
799 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m the opposite, I’m white and Darling Husband is Filipino so I have a Spanish sounding last name. I’m also a teacher in district with a large Hispanic population so I confuse everyone when they meet me. 

Post # 11
216 posts
Helper bee

I discussed this with not-yet-FI this weekend – he’d like me to take his name but I’m not sure yet (I’m Asian, he’s not). Perhaps I just need to get used to hearing/seeing my name with a non Chinese surname. Jury is still out, so can’t help except to say it definitely should be something of personal preference to you, and not how you will be perceived by strangers.

We received a package last week that hyphenated our surnames – bless the seller for trying – and seeing it in print made it clear that my surname does NOT hyphenate well. 

As for ‘your English is very good’ – I reckon I will hear that regardless of my surname. I tend to respond – I should hope so.. I don’t speak anything else fluently. 

People already assume I am mixed, so upon finding my surname is Chinese the conversation often runs like this:

‘So your mother is caucasian?’


‘Are you sure?’





  • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  CountingSheep.
Post # 12
1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015


CountingSheep:  they: “are you sure?” Seriously?! What is wrong with people?!!!

Im not surprised i get where did you get the name “XXXX” from….which is my middle name. My answer: You’d have to ask my dad why he gave me an English middle name.

Post # 13
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

xtals:  I am known under an English name followed by my Chinese names. My Fiance is English from Irish descent so when I take his surname I’ll be known under (English name) (Chinese name) (Chinese name) (Irish surname) haha! I’m looking forward to my new name(s). 

Post # 14
5179 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

xtals:  not me, but I girl I went to school with was half japanese and had a japanese first name and a very irish last name (think o’something). She also didn’t look japaese at all, so I’m sure some people may be confused about her first name. I thought it was a really cool name though, I like the mix of cultures.

Post # 15
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m also the opposite.  I have an American first name and Taiwanese last name, now.  It is fun to see people’s reactions when they see me in person.  Not what they always expect.  🙂

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