(Closed) Any bees with SOs who are recovering addicts?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@phillygirl629:  There were some long term effects from the pills, but nothing TOO serious. Like, I get brain fog every once in awhile, I’ll forget what I was talking about and trail off, or I’ll go to the store and forget what I was going to buy. I think everyone does these things, I just do it a little more often than most people. It doesn’t ruin my life or anything, though. 

I had tried to stop taking them a couple times before and failed because I couldn’t handle the withdrawal and I couldn’t stand being depressed. But I did it, and so did your man! It’s something to be proud of. 

7 months is nothing to scoff at! Looks like he’s going strong! I wish you guys the best. <3 

Post # 18
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

They say the long term effects can last for years. I know DH, who has been sober for almost 4 years, a few times a year, will just have days that he is a grumpy bear for no reason. Apparently, it’s just one of those things that can happen even years after becoming clean.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I used to be married to an addict.  I can’t say I recommend it, lol.  I would not make the same choices again.

The friends and family forums at soberrecovery are a great resource for those who have been affected by someone’s addiction.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My DH and I are both in recovery.  I’ll have four years next week and he has 3 1/2ish we both got sober before we met, but alcoholism can sometimes be an issue in a relationship.  It’s usually not, but occasionally when one of us decides to start trying to control everything it can get crazy sometimes.  For the most part we have a good marriage.  One nice thing about being in recovery (or having a spouse in it) is that 12 step programs have good conflict resolution systems in place.  There’s also a lot of people to keep you accountable.  There are ups and downs being in recovery though.  Like sometimes you just get sick of going, so you go less and then you start to get crazy again.   It’s hard to watch your partner do that because of how precarious sobriety can be at those times.  The fact that you go to nar-anon is awesome, because then you know the same language and are in recovery together.  For us alcoholism and addiction will always be a part of our relationship, but it gives us a deep common bond and recovery has taught us how to have a healthy and happy marriage.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oddly enough, after 3.5 years sober, DH fell off the wagon this weekend. I was kinda expecting it since he isn’t in a program or seeing a therapist. But he was really shaken up and having trouble sleeping (lots of nightmares). He finally realized he cant do it alone. He has decided to find an AA group that he clicks with and maybe start seeing a therapist. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee

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@KoiKove:  Sorry to hear that. Hoping he finds the help he needs.

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