Post # 1
I have 5 bms and I feel bad if I don’t pay for their hair and makeup. I want them to look great in the picture too. I’m currently searching for makeup artist that works with asian skin for myself if you have any recommendation that would be great. I preferred someone from NJ or NY. Anyway, back to orginal topic, so what should I suggest them to do if I can’t pay for their makeup and hair? Any alternative?
Post # 3
Hi Cherryblossom. I’ve seen this one come up a lot. If you are mandating that your maids get their hair done, you have to suck it up and pay for it. If you don’t care how they do their hair, and want them each to feel comfortable in whatever they do, you can talk to them and say something along the lines of "I’m going to book my hair appointment soon. Here’s the price list for the salon–please let me know if you want to get your hair done too, and I’ll make all the appointments at once. But if you want to save the money, feel free to do your own hair or go to another salon." Even if they are all paying for their own services, it would be nice if you cover the tip for everyone. Good luck!
Post # 4
I’m paying for my BM’s because I chose the place where I’m getting it done. For asians, VickyC5 is a popular choice in NY…I think she travels to NJ as well. But she’s pretty pricey, which is why I felt that it was unfair for my BM’s to pay since they had no say in the decision making. I believe from NJ, Miss Martini chose another vendor…check out her blogs.
Post # 5
I was thinking of giving my BMs a gift certificate to get their hair done… along with something more personal for their gifts as my bridal party..
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House
I’m paying for the BMs’ make-up, and giving them the option of having their hair professionally done (but on their dime). They’re all content with this arrangement!
Post # 7
I’ll be paying for my BMs hair and makeup — but it’s their choice if and what they want to do with it! I have no mandated style or anything. Our family is also just in general paying for all the female relatives on my mom’s side of the fam to get prettied up so 3 more BMs isn’t shocking, haha. If you don’t want to spring big money to have them all do updos, a style at a good salon will run you around $20 avg which is a good price IMO for fabulously styled hair =).
Post # 8
We’re paying for it. It puts a big dent in our budget, but I really wanted the girls to feel beautiful, and none of them are very good with hair and make-up. They can opt out if they choose, but so far everybody wants in.
Post # 9
I found an exceptional deal for my bm’s and mine’s hair and make-up so I decided we would pay for it. We have four bm’s and their make up totals $120 and hair $100 – mine is free.
Post # 10
I paid to get my bridesmaid’s hair and make-up done. It was their gift from me. I also paid for their jewelry, but I only had two bridesmaids.
Post # 11
I’m paying for their hair but don’t think I will specify how they have to have it done. This was a bit easier for me to decide, as my sister is a stylist and she and a friend/fellow stylist will be doing everyone’s hair. (I don’t expect it to be free, she is providing me a service, but the cost will be less than what we would pay at a salon.) I don’t know about their make-up. It will depend on cost; I don’t know who is going to do our make-up yet, so we’ll have to wait on that one. I do agree with some of the others posts; if you want to specify how their hair and/or make-up looks, you should at least contribute if not cover the cost. The last wedding that I was in, the bride paid for our hair, and invited us to use her make-up artist if we wanted to get our make-up done. (Though she didn’t cover the cost for it.)
Post # 12
I’m paying for all my 5 bridesmaids (moh included) and my mom’s hair and makeup for the day. Luckily my sister’s friend went to makeup school a couple of years ago and offered to do it for free when I asked her how much it would cost. She needs wedding stuff for her portfolio so it’s a win-win situation. For hair I went to a hair school’s salon for a cut over the holidays and ended up really liking the girl who did my hair. I’m thinking of asking her to do hair for the day. Since she’s graduating this June from hair school and my wedding is in July I can probably get away with only paying really little since she’ll also want wedding stuff for her portfolio. It’s best to find people who WANT to do wedding stuff and who are new in the business. They tend to either do it for free or charge really really little!! Call up the hair/makeup schools in your area!
Post # 13
Wow, all you nice ladies make me feel like a jerk. I was going to pay, but with hair & make-up costing so much I had my girls pay for their hair and make-up…I had 6 of them and the costs were just too high. Add that to the cost for me, my mom, my Mother-In-Law, and my grandma….and wow was it $$$! In retrospect, I wish I had offered to pay for the BMs or at least for their hair or make-up.
Post # 14
I think if you are going to insist on hair and make up, you will want to pay. It’s fine to suggest a place and see if they want to go, and have them pay. (You’re not forcing them.) But it can be a big extra expense, they were perhaps not aware of or budgeted for, that you will be forcing them to do. Hair and makeup is a pretty gray area. BMs usually expect to pay for their own dresses, not necessarily hair and make up.
Post # 15
I asked a wedding planner this question, because I too want my girls to get hair and makeup done. But I have 6 BMs, plus me, my Mom, my Mother-In-Law and our brothers’ girlfriends. Basically the wedding planner said that etiquette does not dictate that the bride pays for hair and makeup. Because I’m on a budget I’m asking them to pay – I think I’ve found a place in NYC that will do it for $130 each though – so not so bad.
Post # 16
I paid for their dresses, allowed them to wear any pair of black shoes (everyone has a pair of black shoes!) paid for their jewlery and purses along with make-up for those who wanted it done. I had a friend come to my house and do their hair for those who wanted help, the rest did their own.
I think if you require your girls to wear a certain thing that they do not already own, or have their hair or make-up done professionally it should be at your expense. It can get expensive (I had 5 bridesmaids) but we just cut things out in order to make it happen. These girls were the ones doing me a favor – I couldn’t have it cost them money!