(Closed) any brides feel bridesmaids dont really care?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: any brides feel bridsmaids dont really care?
    yes : (10 votes)
    43 %
    no : (3 votes)
    13 %
    sorta kinda : (8 votes)
    35 %
    dont care : (2 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @cassandra102012:  Have you tried having a get together with them that doesn’t involve wedding projects?

    I’m sure you could get some quality time with your friends without them felling like “slave labor”. 

    Also, if when you see them they seem willing to help, maybe organize a cocktail and crafts night. Where you host cocktails and fun food and then have some wedding crafts they can help with if they like.

    They will probably not reach out to you about helping, but if you organize a totally optional and fun helping evening, you might be surprised with the amount of help you get.

    Just remember, NO ONE (except maybe your FI) is going to be as interested in your wedding as you are. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My bridesmaids all have kids, and my sister (BM) doesn’t like weddings so she’s begrudingly agreed to stand up next to me in a dress…so, I don’t have expectations of any of my bridesmaids, which is why I probably don’t feel the let down.  On the plus side, a couple of my fiance’s friend’s wives, who don’t work and live really nearby, are always offering to help with little projects…I’ve accepted on a few occassions and plan on thanking them in my program for their help. 

    The one thing I always think of when I’m working on something wedding related is that, this is my wedding. And I’m going to be the person who cares about it the most. I tried really hard to make my sister and my mom care early on…but it just led to frustration, so I just worry about me now and my fiance does a good job helping and listening to my wedding talk.

    Post # 5
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    12973 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, maybe they aren’t into DIY. I know I’m not, and I would only begrudingly “voluneteer” to help if pushed.  It’s not really their job in the wedding to help you with DIY projects, so they might not be interested.  It sucks, but…there’s not a ton you can do about it. If they offer, that’s great.  If not, you have to recognize you were the one to pick DIY, not your bridesmaids.

    Post # 6
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    4194 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I’ve never had a bride ask me to help with more than one DIY project (and they’ve all been flower related) Honestly, I *would* lose interest if I was one of your bridesmaids. My MOHs (two) are planning the shower and bachlorette, and that’s a LOT of work right there. One volunteered to help with flowers, because she loves to do them, so I’m taking her up on that, but I’m not asking anything else of them.

    The only other DIY I’m going to involved people with are the vases- will be putting ribbons around them. My plan is to invite 3 or 4 other girlfriends to come over with their glue guns, and I’ll provide wine, pizza, and chick flicks. If they’re not interested, no worries. Maybe you should ask other girlfriends so your bridesmaids don’t feel overwhelmed by it.

    If you take on DIY projects, you have to be willing to do them yourself. I know it can get lonely/tedious, but like the other PP wrote, no one’s as interested in your wedding as you are. Not trying to sound harsh, just realistic. 🙂

    Post # 7
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    10714 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    none of my bridesmaids care I don’t get to have a bachelorette party I don’t get to have a shower and they can’t help me with any of my d I y projects. my maid of honor just decided she’s not even going to be in the wedding but never told me she told my mom instead. I know how you feel 🙁

    Post # 8
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    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Newsletter or email seems really impersonal and I would honestly think it was just rude! Don’t send me a newsletter! Assuming you are close with these girls, as they are in your wedding, you should call them and let them know you want to spend time with them and see if they are up for doing some DIY stuff. I wouldn’t really expect any response from a newsletter, mass email, or mass text.

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