I re-read through everyone’s comments one last time and gave myself a few minutes to let the shock of feeling so misunderstood wear off.
I feel the need to clearify as much as I can because everyone has gotten me completely wrong and my ideas and words all twisted around. This all isn’t a set in stone thing, I’m looking for opinnions. I appriciate all the comments, even the rude ones because it let me see your side of the issue.
Just hear me out, read this, don’t jump to conclusions. I’m just asking for help and oppinions here, not to be bashed and called tacky, rude, and accused of trying to profit from my guests.
I am not trying to ‘make money’ off my guests. Last night it didn’t seem like a bad idea to try and replace the extra money that we don’t really have that would be used for a bar. Our budget is very small and I have cut corners, DIY’d, clearance-saled, etc. everything I can to keep costs low but get the look I have visioned. With the BLOW of not being able to have our origional reception venue, we have had to try and scramble with what money isn’t already spent to figure out how to make this new reception location work for what we had planned. I have had to throw out ideas I had my heart set on and remember that at the end of the day it is MOST important that we said I Do, not that I had this or that or it looked this way or that way.
So after reading comments I can see how it would seem like a bad idea to charge guests for drinks and then keep that money. I am no longer going to do this.
There will be a tip jar out for the bartender, everything in it will be for the bartender only. I won’t ever count, touch, look at, etc. that money. It belongs to him. I will still give the bartender: 1. The money that we agreed upon for working the event. 2. A tip, aside from what is in the jar, ontop of the agreed upon price at the end of the night.
Other vendors will be getting tips at the end of the night as well, but it won’t be from the bartender’s tip jar, nor will it come from charging for drinks- because I won’t be doing that.
Still not sure how we can work in a good sized bar to our small budget. However, I still would like to make it happen best I can.
We will have kegs, so beer is taken care of.
Again, my guests do not and will not drink much wine at all. They just aren’t wine drinkers. The biggest wine drinker is my step-mother and she drank about 3 glasses of it at my brother’s wedding. I will of course offer it, but I don’t want to go way overboard with different kinds and multiple, multiple bottles/cases when I know it won’t get drank. Maybe I could set a couple bottles on each table and stop the wine at that? Leave pens out for guests to sign the bottles for cute home decorations? Not sure.
I’m still just not sure about liquor. My dad has purchased like 6 or so handles of assorted liquor. I know there was vodka, whiskey, maybe jack? Can’t remember at the moment. Our friends/family are mainly beer and liquor drinkers. Friends more liquor, family more beer. When going out with friends I see a lot of people drinking jack, so I should get a few handles of that for sure. Lots of mixed vodka, soda, energy drink-like drinkers in our group of friends.. Maybe I could ask around on what everyone likes and go from there?
YES non-alcohol drinks (like soda) WILL BE FREE. Seriously, why was that even a question?
Thank you to those of you who gave your oppinion but still tried to help solve my problem instead of ignoring the reason for my post all together.