(Closed) Any Brides not changing their name??

posted 7 years ago in Traditions
Post # 46
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My mom changed hers and instantly changed it back bc my parents got divorced after I was born. My aunt did not change her last name (I think just bc she didn’t want to go through the hassle) and my uncle never cared. It hasn’t changed anything. People still just refer to them like “John and Jane” not “Mr and Mrs Smith.”

Post # 47
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1056 posts
Bumble bee

I kept my last name because I didn’t want to go through the hassle and expense of changing it. I did offer DH the option of taking my name. He declined. And we’re living happily ever after.

Post # 48
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9 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m not going to change mine for the reasons described in the article. Out of courtsey I asked my fiancee if he’s ok with that. His reply was “Is it my decision to make? Why do you even ask me?”.

If he said he was offended by my decision I would think he might not be the right man for me.

Kids, on the other hand, will have his surname. Reasons: joint names would be far toooooo long in our case. Behind father’s name for kids stand not only tradition but also something that (in my opinion) made this tradition: until recently (blood groups, genetics) it was clear who the mother is, fatherhood was an assumed thing. But if a man (husband) was giving a child his name it was like making a statement that the kid is his, and his heir.

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Dade City Garden Club

I don’t have a middle name , so I took his last name and instead of getting it hyphenated I just made my last name a middle. My father passed away so I wanted to keep his name but also wanted to have my husbands name.

Post # 50
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I kept mine and have no regrets! 

I like my name and just didn’t want to change it. It would have been a PITA at work and I’ve got a bit of a name for myself professionally, so that would have made it worse. I love my husband and his family, but I don’t feel the need to have the same name to be a part of their family. Nobody had an issue with it. My husband and I had discussed it long before we got engaged and he didn’t have an issue with it. I thought I’d get some flack from his family, but nobody ever said anything. Then my SIL did the same thing, so I don’t think it’s even weird for them at this point. We haven’t encountered any problems with being a marreid couple and having different last names. We both occasionally get called by the other’s last name, but it doesn’t bother us. 

I’m currently pregnant and we had to figure out what to do about the last name of the kid. While my husband’s name might be more traditional, we didn’t think that was a good enough reason to automatically go with his name. Especially since he’s got two brothers and already has one nephew, so it’s not like their name is going to die out this generation. So we flipped a coin. Tails up, so the kid will have my last name. My husband has considered changing his name to mine, so that he’d have the same last name as the kid, but he’s not planning that, at this point. If it turns out to be a PITA, he might reconsider. 

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