(Closed) Any brides out there NOT changing your last name?

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yep – I’m keeping mine.  Didn’t seriously consider changing it. 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

This was a VERY hard decision for me. At first I said I was keeping my name. Then I said I was just going to add his name to the end of mine and use both as my last name. Then I said I was going to use my last name as a second middle because I still didn’t want to give up any part of my name. 

Then I had to book a plane ticket and make a freaking decision. So I decided to drop my middle name, take my last as my middle, and his last as my new last. 

Once the wedding happened (just a few days ago) I got SUPER excited and I’m now totally loving going by MyFirst HisLast. I already changed my emails and my signature at work! Can’t wait to make it all official 🙂

But I will say this… it was a long (16 month) process to get from Point A to Point B… and you need to be comfortable with whatever you decide. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m keeping my maiden name for acting purposes, but hyphenating mine and his otherwise.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I will most likely keep mine… at least for now.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m keeping mine, but I’m also taking his.  I know, I know, it’s a total cop-out!  But I’m graduating from medical school in two months and have dreamed for 10 years about being Dr. Mylast.  Plus I love my name, my family, being “a ___ girl,” etc.  But I also want to be part of our new family and share a name with my children.  I could use his socially, but I want my passport to match my kids’ passports, to not have to explain that I’m actually part of the family but for people to just automatically know it.

So I’m hyphenating legally, I’ll go by “Dr. Mylast” at work and “First Hislast” socially, and my documentation will reflect both of those personas.

It’s not ideal, and I’m sure it’ll get confusing, but I’ve thought through every possible permutation and I feel good about this one.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yup. I’m fine with people referring to me as Mrs. HisLast casually, especially when we eventually have kids, but legally I’m staying Ms. MyLast. I don’t see why I should have to change my last name if he doesn’t have to change his, we’re not the type to make our own new last name, and all my academic and professional achievements are under my maiden name.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m keeping my name for professional reasons but I wouldn’t mind being called Mrs, I’m just not legally going to change it. This has been an interesting convo with Fiance for awhile but he says it is up to me. Some of my family are upset because they think it’s part of getting married but if I end up doing anything, it’s going to take me awhile to warm up to the idea. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m doing both. . .sort of.  Legally I’m changing my name.  Socially, I’ll use his last name.  Professionally, I’m keeping my name — for now.  In the job I have currently, it’s easier and safer to simply keep my maiden name.  If I move on to my dream job (self employment) I’m undecided as to what I’ll do with my name then.  For now my professional license will remain in my maiden name.  We’ll see what the future holds.

Names are a really personal decision.  There is definitely no right answer for everyone.  I have friends that have used all the options and each has a reason that absolutly makes sense.  It’s a matter of what works best for you and is the most right decision for you.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m keeping mine. I like my name. I don’t like his. But, I made him a deal: I’ll take his name if he lets me name all the children. 😉 Devious, I know. As for future babies, they’ll be “Theirfirst Mylast hypen Hislast.”

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Kept mine. Also did not consider taking his.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am keeping my last name.  He understands that it is important to me but was still a little upset. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I am kinda bummed about this, but I am going to take his last name. My last name is supper unique, and I love that I am most likely the only MyFirst MyLast ever. If I look up my last name on the internet or in the phonebook I only find relatives of mine. His last name is very common, you probably could even guess it within 5 tries or less.

The reason I am going to go with his last name is because I have it in my mind that we cannot have different last names. I have even tried to get him to take my last name. He will not do it. Smile

 

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Definitely not changing. My last name is already “Dad’sLast-Mom’sLast”, and my mom never changed her last name. I have no idea how I would come up with a name compromise that would work, what little professional standing I have is connected to my name, and like a PP said, my name is super-unique, no one else has it. Plus… his last name is just not the smoothest. I won’t mind if someone socially refers to me with his last, but I’m not changing it in any capacity. I think he would have been charmed if I’d wanted to change, but he knows me well enough to not have expected it.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not changing mine! It was a pretty easy decision. I wouldn’t feel like myself if I took his name.  And he doesn’t care in the slightest, and has even said that he’d be a little sad if I changed because he likes saying “Myfirst Mylast.”

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