(Closed) Any brides out there sticking to tradition? What are you keeping?

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
14494 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am not “bucking tradition” hardly at all.  I am having a very traditional wedding in almost every meaning of the word.  I grew up knowing and living protocol, I just can’t walk away from it.

Post # 5
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It’s a good point, I think by simply having a wedding there has to be a bit of “traditional” things.  I wasn’t necessarily 100% happy about having all of these things, but we had a ton of traditiona stuff:

-my dad walked me down the aisle (he just didn’t “give me away”)

-white (ish) dress

-didn’t see each other until the ceremony

-we had a cake, but it was beautiful and yummy

-chair covers and bows with linens

-bouquet/garter toss

-cupid shuffle

-cathedral length veil with blusher

Post # 6
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@SouthernTulip: hahaha i love how u added cupid shuffle hehe

i think i’m pretty traditonal i have

-an a line cathedreal train and a catherdreal veil

-father / daughter dance and mother/ son dance

-traditional ceremony

-white cake (plus another chocolate cake) were big on food haha

-we will do a first look but only because thats the only time we have to take pictures with our bridal party

annnd i can’t think of anything else…  hahaha

Post # 7
11113 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Me too;

– ivory dress

– traditional vows

– not seeing each other until when I walk down the aisle

– He wont see my dress

– flower bouquets

– veil

– groomsmen to match, but groom be slighty different by one detail or two

My mum will be walking me down the aisle as I haven’t got a close relationship with my dad.

Post # 8
514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

One tradition I refuse to break is to not let him see me until I’m walking down the aisle that day.

I just want that moment to be magical 🙂

Post # 9
3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Our wedding was nontraditional in some ways (the most obvious being the presence of two brides, and the lack of a groom).  However, in many ways, it was a traditional  Jewish wedding:

– The ceremony was conducted by a rabbi, in a synagogue.
– We each wore an ivory dress with a train.
– We each had a veil with a blusher.
– We said the traditional vows from the Church of England ceremony.
– We had a real flower bouquet for each of us and for our maid of honor, and a bout for our dude of honor.
– We had a ketubah, a chuppah, the 7 blessings, and the breaking of the glass.
– We exchanged plain gold wedding bands, with no stones.
– We had a first dance.
– We had a wedding cake, and a ceremonial cake cutting.
– We had a champagne toast.
– We had cloth tablecloths, chair covers, and bows.

Post # 10
1986 posts
Buzzing bee

We’re having a fairly non-traditional wedding, but I don’t like to think of it as bucking traditions. I read that Rule Breakers thread, and was seriously appalled at the way some of the brides plan on treating their guests. I’m assuming it’s just cultural though.

That said, we are sticking to tradition in that we wont see each other from the night before until I walk down the “aisle”, we have 2 flower girls, he wont see my dress, we’ll do the basic first dances…

Post # 11
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Things that are probaby considered “traditional” by our society:

Wearing a white dress

It has a train, even though I am not a fan of trains.

FH wants a “first dance” (it’ll probably last all of one minute) and a guestbook.


Post # 12
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We’re keeping most of the traditional elements. I’ll have an ivory dress, gm will be in matching tuxes (i think). we’re not having a first look, my dad is walking me down the aisle. we’re having a traditional wedding cake, first dance, father/daughter dance and mother/son dance. 

Post # 13
1267 posts
Bumble bee

I am getting rid of the traditions that have negative history, but I’m keeping:

Dancing with Dad (he’s  great dancer) and I think my guy will dance with his mom

Cake – he’s a Chef and I’m hopelessly (hopelessly) addicted to wedding cake challenge shows – I am willing to drop almost any expense to have Bronwyn Weber make our cake, lol!

I don’t want him to see me until the ceremony because I love ‘that’ look – I’m sure I’ll have the same ‘look’ when I see him in his tux!

hmmm….that’ probably all I’ll be keeping of the historically traditional stuff.


Post # 14
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I think things are a tradition for a reason and yes I will be having a traditional wedding.  I only get one chance to do these things and don’t want to look back 20 years from now and think “What was I thinking?” or “I missed my one opportunity.”

We will:

– Have an ivory dress

– traditional Catholic vows and ceremony

– not seeing each other until my Father walks me down the aisle

– He won’t see my dress

– real flower bouquets

– train and veil

– traditional invitations and stamped RSVP cards

– wedding cake and cutting

– First Dance and Father/ Daughter Dance

– Champange Toast

– bouquet/garter toss

– Open Bar

Post # 15
3 posts

We are doing a relatively traditional wedding…

The things that wont be traditional would be….

An outdoor wedding (we are semi-religious but feel more comfortable having the ceremony in a beautiful outdoor setting)

Groom and groomsmen will all wear color coordinated bandanas. Normally, I wouldn’t consider this but Boyfriend or Best Friend was diagnosed with Universalis Alopecia and has worn a banadana ever since (it’s been 11 years since the diagnosis) and he will absolutely NOT go without on the wedding day so because I adore him and only want him to be comfortable I said “Hey, why don’t we have ALL the guys wear them so it looks planned?!” He was thrilled <3

I think those are the only things that will be non-traditional.

Post # 16
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

– white dress with a veil (incl. blusher) & hopefully a train
– dad walking me down the aisle (well…half-way)
– we want to do the traditional dances (mother/son, father/daughter, bride/groom, etc.)
– first time we see each other will be walking down the aisle
– we want to “cut” the wedding cake (though we’re having cupcakes/a dessert bar)

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