(Closed) Any Catholic brides marrying a Presbyterian?

posted 11 years ago in Catholic
Post # 4
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s so funny, my fiance is a Dutch Reformed Protestant.  I had never even heard of it until I met him.

I don’t think the traditions are that much different.  In fact his family is pretty religious and they seem to have no qualms about us being married by a Catholic priest in a Catholic ceremony.  They haven’t mentioned anything they want to add or do.

We attend Catholic church together now and are raising the kids Catholic so this was the best way to go for us.  He says his church was not much different except they have different rules about communion and stand up and sit at different times.  And you don’t kneel as much in Protestant church.

Post # 6
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’m Catholic and I work at a Presbyterian church (PCUSA), so I’ve helped the pastor I work for put together wedding ceremonies a couple times. Basically it’s not that different from Catholic, but I’m sure every pastor does things a little differently, and different couples want the pastor to include different things. Here’s a basic run down of how things are done at the church I work for. I hope it helps.


Welcome and call to worship.


Question to Father (not done in Catholic ceremonies, but you prob. already know this)Who brings this woman to be married to this man? 

Questions of Intent & affirmation — Groom, do you? Bride, do you?

Parents– Parents stand up and promise to support the bride and groom in their marriage. (also not typical to Catholic ceremonies, but you prob. already know this too)

Congregation– stands up and promises to support the bride and groom in their marriage.

Worship Song or Hymn

Special reading of scripture or selected writings. (usually 2)

Message (Sermon)

The exchange of vows

The exchange of rings

 (optional) Unity Candle


Pronouncement. (You are now man and wife. What God has joined, let no man separate, etc.)

The kiss

The presentation


Post # 7
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@NeliBee: No, haha.  He’s from upstate New York like I am. 

We’re going to do pre-cana soon and yes, we’ll be doing it in NYC.

Post # 8
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@NeliBee – I don’t believe there are any said “traditions” within the Presbyterian faith.  The only thing that I can think of is the use of a Unity Candle (as Catholics do not use this).

GL with your wedding…

Post # 9
376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@RumbleBee: I’ve seen the unity candle used in a Roman Catholic Church wedding.

Post # 10
133 posts
Blushing bee

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@JaneDomani:  The unity candle is not part of the Rite of Marriage in a Catholic wedding ceremony, either during a Nuptial Mass or outside of Mass.  However, there’s nothing wrong with it, and in generally, the USCCB is neutral on the idea of a unity candle.

So it’s one of these things that’s not done unless you ask for it, but if you do ask for it, it will be done. That makes it not really Catholic but not really not-Catholic.

That is probably the most wishy-washy comment ever. 

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