(Closed) Any Catholic brides not allowed to wear a veil covering their face?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: Not allowed to wear a blusher?
    I'm Catholic and have never heard of this rule : (40 votes)
    63 %
    I'm Catholic and have heard of this rule : (3 votes)
    5 %
    I'm not Catholic, but I have never heard of this rule for Catholics. : (16 votes)
    25 %
    I'm not Catholic, but I have heard of this rule for Catholics. : (4 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Worker bee

    Our priest similarly mentioned something re: making sure we were aware of the history and use of blushers before we went ahead and used one. He didn’t explicitly forbid my wearing one, but he suggested against it (and I ended up just wearing my cathedral veil).

    Post # 5
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @upnorth123:  Now I’m really curious, what is the history of the blusher?  I Googled it and couldn’t find it, and I haven’t had any priests mention it to me.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    This is a rule that your priest is making up, it’s not a Catholic rule. I hate when they do that because depending on how the bride takes it, they might get the wrong idea about the church. I’m glad it was actually a positive thing for you! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Basically the history behind the blusher is this: if it was an arranged or forced marriage, sometimes the bride would wear a blusher down the aisle so that the groom couldn’t make out her face, decide she was ugly and run away.

    Similarly if the bride was crying her eyes out because she hated the idea of getting married… the blusher would hide that fact until after the vows.

    For Catholic weddings though, it’s kind of a moot point because normally the father of the bride (or the groom himself) will lift the blusher when you get to the end of the aisle. You don’t spend the whole Mass with a blusher in front of your face. It’s also kind of silly because in modern times, blushers aren’t exactly thick. Here’s me wearing my blusher, you can definitely see my face!

    It could be more of an issue for Protestant weddings where they move immediately into the heart of the ceremony, and the blusher is lifted AFTER the vows so the groom can kiss the bride.

    But note, plenty of Protestant weddings do it the way Catholics do it (with the blusher lifted right at the end of the aisle).

    Some feminists also don’t like it because in more modern times (like post-Victorian) wearing a blusher is supposed to denote virginity… you’re not supposed to wear one for a 2nd wedding and so forth. And some feminists think virginity is bad. But whatever. It’s not really an effective symbol of virginity as I know plenty of girls who wore a blusher and they had kids!

    I have been to 5 Catholic weddings including my own (and one of them was in the main Cathedral of the diocese, and another was at the Sacred Heart Basilica at the University of Notre Dame) and only 1 of them didn’t wear a blusher.

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee

    @Magdalena:  Very interesting! Btw, you looked very beautiful on your wedding day. Love the blusher!

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @amberdk:  thanks! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 10
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

    That definitely sounds like a personal rule from your priest, because I’ve never heard of it. It’s a good viewpoint though!

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @Follydust321:  really? Wow I never heard about the father not being able to walk their daughter down the aisle. This would REALLY upset me. 

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee

    It sounds like your priest is imposing a number of his own preferences on you guys (and probably on weddings he celebrates generally). Even though the preferred way of doing the processional according to the Catechism is what you cited above, in most parishes they leave it up to the couple, and many, many Catholic weddings still have the bride escorted by her father, or both parents. She isn’t “given away” (in the sense that the celebrant doesn’t ask the “Who gives this woman …?” question in Catholic weddings) but usually being escorted by your father is a perfectly acceptable alternative.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @Follydust321:  The “bride and groom process in together” way of walking down the aisle is truly the more official way, as far as Catholic weddings are concerned. It’s so cool you’re going to do it like that!

    I know one bride who is VERY much a traditionalist, hardcore, and she did it like that, much to others’ surprise. But it really is the “official” Catholic way as you point out. When brides are escorted by their fathers it’s more of a cultural allowance. Catholicism is quite feminist with that suggestion AND with the fact that regardless of how the bride gets down the aisle, there is no “giving the bride away” she gives herself to her husband.

    I remember relatively recently, in the Archdiocese of Philly, they were actually going to “enforce” this way of doing it – they were NOT going to allow brides to be escorted by their father, brother etc at Catholic weddings taking place in the archdiocese. There was a monster stink with all these brides threatening to not get married in the Church if they couldn’t have the culturally-promised “daddy-daughter” moment.

    so they (the archdiocesan officials) backed off and made it more of a “we will encourage but not require this” kind of thing. Kudos to you for giving the more hard-core authentic way a shot! ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚ ๐Ÿ™‚

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