(Closed) Any Cunard Honeymoon Brides around?

posted 6 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Okay…dude…remember all the advice in your other post(s) today about taking one thing at a time?  I think that was REALLLLLLY good advice.  Why are you worrying about your honeymoon when you don’t have a boyfriend?

Being obsessed with wedding stuff when you’re single is like…torturing yourself for absolutely no reason. And I promise you, if you start dating, and the guy finds out you’ve already bought your wedding dress and planned your honeymoon, he will RUN.  You’re setting yourself up for a major let down. Why?

Your posts today seem very manic and not really in touch with reality.  I couldn’t quite figure out from the other post because it got so crazy – but are you CURRENTLY in therapy or have you stopped?

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@wolfpackforever:  Save your money, and reinvest in your life right now. If you can afford a transatlantic honeymoon, you can afford therapy.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@wolfpackforever:  Okay I’m glad you’re getting help. I hope you continue. It sucks that its a financial hardship for people to get the help that they need, its really unfortunate.

Do you not see how unhealthy this is though?  And that being obsessed with wedding dresses and honeymoons is not even CLOSE to the aspect of relationships you should be worrying about right now?   I mean, please consider the fact that this level of obsession is actually PREVENTING what you want… 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

OP – I was going to keep my two cents to myself about your situation, but I wanted to say one thing. You say this is like an addiction for you – like any addiction, you have to stay away from feeding it. If you were an alcoholic, we would advise you not to go into a bar, not to have alcohol in your house, etc. If obsessing about weddings is your addiction, to the point where it effects your daily life, your relationships, your job, etc – then it is time to take a step back and reevaluate.

Definitely continue therapy, but I would suggest avoiding all things wedding related. Reading about other girls planning their actual weddings, I imagine, is hurtful and frustrating to you. Give yourself some grace and step away from all of this and allow yourself to overcome your addiction and to build confidence in yourself and in your life. You deserve it, but only you can deliver it to you!

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

It’s totally fine to picture your future wedding in detail when you’re single. I’m sure most girls have. But pictures can change. Especially when you meet someone and you have to compromise on what you both want. Actually booking a honeymoon right now is setting yourself up for disappointment. What if you don’t get married by that time? What if you do get married by that time and your future husband wants a say in where you spend your honeymoon together?

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@wolfpackforever:  I feel like….where will I find the money to get married if I’m spending it all on therapy?



At this point I’m sincerely hoping you are a bored 16 year old boy having fun on the internet. And I really wish I could make a sticky saying not to respond to your threads because allowing you to continue feeding into this addiction/obsession is anything but healthy.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@MrsTahoe:  I can vouch for this advice. As much as I loved the Bee, I made myself take a step back from it because Boyfriend or Best Friend and I were not close to getting engaged and reading about others’ engagements and weddings was doing more harm than good. I only just started posting again now that Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have a timeline and an engagement is in the near future. That time away helped tremendously! I focused on school, friends, my hobbies, and living my life, and now that I have that balance, I can add wedding stuff into the picture.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@wolfpackforever:  Okay, then why not just plan a vacation with friends instead? If you go on what you feel is supposed to be your honeymoon with friends and not a husband, will you really be able to enjoy it as much or will you be lamenting that it’s not the way you wanted it to turn out? Again, it just seems like you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@wolfpackforever:  Some of your issues MAY stem from childhood. I’m not a doctor. But you would be surprised what can surface during therapy (I have experienced it) that you may not have considering being related to current issues in your life. Give it a chance.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@wolfpackforever:  She is probably asking you about your childhood to get at the root of your unhealthy obsession. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

this person is not real…she is toying with all of us…

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