(Closed) Any curvy brides struggle with how they look in wedding dresses??

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Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - A View West

bonbon663:  THANK YOU! That is so sweet ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 47
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Busy bee

So my wedding is in two weeks…

I am a street size 10 and 5’9 – I think I look pretty good… but when I picked up my wedding dress I cried and cried in the parking lot. My BOOBs were out of control. i felt like a stuffed sausage ontop of my dress.

I have “purchased” boobs, size D. The corsett dress was squeezing them up into my chin pretty much. It was awful. I was immediately NOT excited about my wedding day and was terrified of being the ugly bride with boobs popping out of everywhere.

ALTERATIONS – I had my first alterations appt and let me tell you – They work WONDERS. Find a very experienced, well known wedding dress alterations to fix any problem you have. after my apt, I feel 100000 times better! We were able to fix the problem! 

Post # 48
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook

I definitely struggled.  I always thought I had a “rectangular” shape with not much of a waist and I really wanted to hide in a big ballgown or A-line.  Once I started trying on gowns, I found that ballgowns made me look bigger and the best shapes on me were actually Trumpet and Slim A-line. I put them on and magically had a waist!  Mine is a slim A-line and I feel amazing in it.

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I was in tears when I waked into the bridal shop – and I knew they only carried plus size gowns. In fact, I had so much anxiety about dress shopping, I made an appointment for this past Saturday and my wedding is not until October 2016. I wanted to see how wedding dresses looked on my body. I had no intention of purchasing a dress or finding The Dress.  I always thought I would have to settle on a dress. But I was wrong. I totally found my dress!!! Haven’t purchased it, but I will. I went in thinking I wanted an A-line – I tried a few on and they were pretty, and looked a lot better than I thought they would. But then she pulled a fit and flare with a fun, dramatic, flowly skirt – before she even had it zipped, I said “holy f. This dress is amazing”. It totally gave me an hourglass shape. I felt amazing – its a feeling I’ve never experienced before. I kept saying “I cant believe this is my body.” I was, for the first time in my life, not focusing on my flaws, but just focusing on how amazing I looked!! I can’t wait to wear it and I wish I didnt have to wait so long for my wedding!!

Before I made this appointment, I kept thinking I would try to lose as much weight as possible before trying on dresses. Then I wouldn’t, I’d beat myself up, I’d feel like crap and I’d never find a dress. Now, I have found my dress that I know I look amazing in today. I still would like to loose weight, but the pressure is way off becuase I know I’ll look and feel amazing on my wedding day regardless of how much I weigh. I feel an hugh sense of relief!!!

Post # 50
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2016

denise52:  I have the same dress as you! You look beautiful in it! I walked in dreading how I would look in bridal dresses as a curvy girl. I have a large chest and big hips so alot of styles made me feel like a puffy snowman.. I definitely do not have much self confidence, and didnt ever imagine I would end up loving a fit and flare dress as I had already decided that none would suit me before even trying one on! I was amazed at how I looked and felt when I found THE dress though. No matter what size the label says, the right dress WILL make you feel amazing! ๐Ÿ˜€ 

Post # 51
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

kirsty8:  that was so sweet of you to say!  I just hope it’s not too much for my second wedding. I don’t have much on top, so that will need a lot of work. 

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - North NJ

Natalie101985:  wow! 40 lbs will be a huge accomplishment. Just FYI that for most women, dropping 7-10 lbs brings them down a size. You said you ordered one size smaller. If you drop 40 lbs, your dress may be all big they won’t be able to alter it! 

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - A View West

laur371:  i ordered my dress 3 sizes too small, i was fitted for a size 22 but ordered a 16, and based on what I weighed before I gained weight when I was a 14/16 I know that 40lbs will get me there, so that is why I ordered that specific size. It will only need to be altered a little bit perhaps, but I ordered it that size because I will loose the 40 lbs and get back down to that size. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 56
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016 - A View West

laur371:  Plus if I did loose a little bit more and get down a size 24 the dress would only need to be altered a little bit to go down a size. So that’s not bad either ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 57
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Newbee

Do not feel bad. I am a 16 street and 18w wedding dress and HATED wedding dress shopping. The consultant kept trying to put me in super fluffy gowns with did not flatter me at all and only made me feel worse ( I normally LOVEclothes shopping but wedding dresses were Terriable).

 

i said screw it, went to Nordstrom, bought a simple dress in pink because it made me feel better than white, and was more flattering.

 

i think the problem is that wedding models are typically 16 years old and tiny, and it makes us all feel like we have to live up to that expectation and be that small.

 

 

 

Post # 58
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2015

You are not alone! YES! I’m 27 and wear a size 14 in everyday life which equated to all manner of “bridal sizes” all numbers higher than 14 I can assure you. Most stores didn’t carry my size in store to try any on, which was the first anxiety hurdle to get over. I went to several stores, with my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor. Kept wondering if I would have that AHA moment. I really wanted a fit and flare stye but because I’m heavier the only dresses offered in my size were empire waisted princess gowns. I thought I’d never find the dress. Spur of the moment one day, I went by myself to another store and in the very back, dark room of long forgotten big girl dresses to buy off the rack only – I found one slightly too big but the style I really wanted. I pretty much fell in love but when I sent the pic to my ladies their responses were “It’s okay” and “Your problem area is showing, which you didnt want”. So I continued my search- (even bought a princess style I didn’t want because I panicked) yet I never stopped thinking about that one that no one else saw in person. I decided to try it on one last time and brought my mom who thought it looked just okay in the picture. I put it on and my mom cried. That was my AHA moment. I LOVE my dress but am still worried about  it looking unflattering PURELY because of the “problem area” comment, so I bought a corset to wear underneath which I’m sure will be terribly uncomfortable but will give me peice of mind.

The truth is our men love us the way we are, and so should we! You look beautiful in that dress!

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