Post # 1
My Fiance is deployed. He gets back approximately 2 months before the wedding so i’m praying he will be back at a good time to complete Pre-Cana classes. What I am worried about is that he will not be able to make interviews/meetings with the priest. Anyone ever deal with this while your Fiance was not present? Did they work around it? Maybe open to emails/video chat/ telephone? If not there is a possiblity we may be able to schedule it during his R/R (leave to come home)
Do Pre-cana classes need to be done at the church your priest marrying you is based? Military homecomings ALWAYS vary thus I need to have as many options as possible for the pre-cana classes. I wish we did it before he left :/
Post # 3
Our class was not at the church we got married at. There are classes all over the state every weekend. I would talk to your priest and see what he says. Your Fiance may be able to talk to the Chaplin while you speak to your priest and then when he gets back you may be able to have a quick meeting with the priest. We only met with ours once for about a half hour.
Post # 4
Im currently taking precana classes. There is a gentlemen in my class who is getting married in Vietnam and that’s where his wife lives, thus she cannot attend precana classes here. The church has been more than accomodating. He still attends and they do their ‘homework’ via skype or by email. And by homework, we are usually instructed to discuss a range of topics and then share what we learned next time in class. Just talk to your priest, it’s possible your Fiance can get a pass on attending pre cana if he can participate in some shape or form from where he’s at.
Post # 5
My sister and her DH did their counseling with our pastor through Skype when Brother-In-Law was deployed. Our pastor was very flexible, and would send him stuff through email to complete since the time zones didn’t allow him to be on Skype for too long.
Post # 6
skype, phone conference, and pray for an understanding pastor. I am in almost the same situation. If the pastor knows you both, he will more than likely work with his mil sched. if you havent contacted the church yet I would suggest you hop to. The Catholic church reccomends the church begin the pre marital process a year in advance.
Post # 7
Thank you all!! So very helpful:) I found the church/priest here we will marry at…he is very flexible and as long as he gets confirmation from a priest there that my Fiance has completed the course we are good to go. He will email him for now and we will complete meetings with the priest when he is home:) thank goodness this is falling together!
Post # 8
I am very glad that you are able to work it out! I would have been surprised if you didn’t have understanding, best of luck to you and your FI!