Any Greek Orthodox brides?

posted 2 years ago in Intercultural
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Bumble Beekeeper

Really the only people who will do anything during the ceremony are your sponsor, your priest, and of course you and your husband. There IS a processional (if you want one), but once they reach the front of the church, the bridal party doesn’t do anything during the ceremony other than stand there off to the side. While it’s nice if your bridal party can make it to the rehearsal so they’re clear on what order they need to walk in and where they’re standing, it’s totally fine if they can’t be there. Walking down the aisle in the right order is not exactly rocket science!

For the ceremony itself, it lasts about 45 min to an hour. The bride and groom do not say a WORD to each other the entire time…no vows, nothing. Some priests won’t even let you kiss at the end. You might want to warn your parents about that as it can be kind of a shock to non Orthodox people. 

I think the music situation depends to some extent on the priest. I know a lot of priests are pretty strict and will only allow an organ and/or chanters with one or two songs they let you choose between. My cousin recently got married in the Greek Orthodox church and she had Pachabel’s canon played on the organ as she walked down the aisle, but I’m not even sure if that is allowed in all churches. Check with your priest about it.

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

tiffanybruiser :  Out of curiosity regarding your first paragraph about walking down the aisle, isn’t walking in a line all the bridal party does in a non-orthodox ceremony too? What’s the difference?

Not to hijack this thread, but I’d be curious to hear what the alternative is because my (Hindu) wedding will also have a processional but I’m not really sure what to have the bridal party do after they reach the end of the line since there is no formal ‘role’ for them. Our ceremonies are also long (1-1.5 hours), so they can’t really be standing there the whole time. It would look really odd to have them standing hovering around us since we would be sitting inside a tent thingy with the priest doing our own thing. I’ve heard of the front row reserved seating idea, but that might be a little tricky too because in Indian weddings the front row is typically reserved for family and bridal party is not really considered important.

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akshali2000 :  Could the bridal party sit in the second row? Like have them reach the end of the aisle and then walk passed the front row and enter the second row from the other side of the chairs?

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Bumble Beekeeper

akshali2000 :  In a GO wedding, the bridesmaids play the same role they do in any other wedding (i.e., they just stand up there and look pretty – they don’t actually do anything). The only diffrence is the GO ceremony is longer than most weddings at about 40 min. Even that is hard on some people who aren’t used to it.

So, I do agree that asking your bridal party to stand up there ffor a 90 min ceremony is pushing it. Is there like an intro part of the ceremony? I wonder if it woudl make sense to have them proceed down the aisle and stand up with you for the first 10 min or so before taking a seat in the secnd or third row behind immediate family? 

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Helper bee

Edited because comment posted twice 

  • This reply was modified 1 year, 7 months ago by  lavieenviolette. Reason: Duplicate post
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Helper bee

michelleh12 :  Seems like your wedding has already happened. I hope it was beautiful! 

Commenting to follow as I am a Greek Orthodox bride as well and my fiancé is Orthodox although he is not Greek. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

kristin36890 :   tiffanybruiser :  Thanks guys! Yeah maybe we could do a second row or a section off to the side or something depending on the layout we decide to go with. 

 tiffanybruiser : I like the idea of an introduction/welcome portion! I will see if that’s something our priest can do. Thanks for the idea!

Okie back to Greek Orthodox stuff 🙂

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