Post # 1
I’ve been trying to talk my fiance into taking my last name, but he’s not into it. I seemed to have struck a compromise of us both hypenating our last names (so our new last name would be MyLast-HisLast). Our last names are shorter, and sound OK together, and I’m happy to have found a solution where we can share a last name as a family, but I won’t have to lose my last name.
I see a lot about brides hyphenating (HerLast-HisLast) with the groom keeping his name (HisLast). Does anyone have a groom who is changing his last name?
Post # 3
My groom isn’t, but I know a groom who did that. They both hypenated their names using her last name-his last name. I think it’s a cool idea. It’s like starting a new last name lineage!
Post # 4
I wish he would. Oh, how I wish. It just doesn’t seem fair that I’m expected to change or hyphante mine, and he doesn’t feel like he needs to even consider it. I’m not saying he expects me to change it, but other people do, and while I’d really LOVE to have the same last name, he’s okay with us having totally different last names and it makes me totally sad. It would be a little more work for him to change it, seeing that he’s ordained and has some licenses, but I think it would be worth it…
It’s really upsetting, actually.
Post # 5
My fiance has agreed to add my name as a second middle or last name, so we’d both be FirstName MiddleName MyLast HisLast. However, this will make both of our names freakishly long (30 characters for him, 34 for me), so I’m still deliberating if this is what I want to do.
Post # 6
I forgot to add that we went to a wedding this summer where they COMBINED their last names! As in one name, first two letters from her name with the last part of his name. New name was Isner! Loved that.
Post # 7
@KMSull – My fiance actually WANTS us to combine our last names (it’s my last name + the last five letters of his last name). We use it informally (I actually just got new address labels that have our combined last name on them, followed by our first and last names). BUT I like my current last name SO much better than our combined last name.
He actually compromised with the hypehnated last name because he can just drop the first two letters of his last name and have our combined last name he likes so much 🙂
@RedHerring – We were going to each drop our middle names, and take each other’s last names as our second middle name (so he would be HisFirst MyLast HisLast and I would be MyFirst HisLast MyLast) but I still wasn’t sure what we would do about the kids.
Post # 8
The other night I jokingly suggested that we both hyphenate our last names and Fiance was all over the idea. He even settled that mylast-hislast sounded the best. I wish that I had never brought it up! He is also very supportive of me not changing my name. I’m not really that fond of my last name, so I think I’ll just change it and be done with it.
Post # 9
My Fiance is taking my last name as his middle name, and I’m taking his last name.
He still can’t decide whether he is up for the plunge of eliminating his current middle name, or add my last as a second middle name. Though, when he mentions how it would feel weird for him to drop his current middle name entirely, I grumble softly “I’m changing…my… LAST…NAME.” That makes him laugh and reconsider.
Post # 10
My uncle hyphenated. And both names were really long (7 and 9 letters respectively). And their children also have the hyphenated name.
Post # 11
I applaud you bees who have found FI’s willing to do this. I mentioned something like this to my Fiance in passing and his response regarding people who do this (he couldn’t believe anyone ever would) was not something I will repeat.
Post # 12
I’m such a traditionalist I totally giggle when I think of taking his last name. He is the last boy in his family to carry his last name. His brother truly dislikes children and we don’t think he will ever have them. So its kind of up to us to carry his last name. My last name is super common so i’m kind of indifferent to it.
Post # 13
I’m like you, Myra. I think it’s totally cool when grooms will do it, but my last name is super common so I’m DONE with it! I have a very very common whole name.
Post # 14
we’re tossing around the idea of combing our names, but we can’t find a combination we like. our last names are pollard and alverson, we just cant think of anything. maybe pollverson? lol or alvard? HAHA i dunno they just all sound funny, any ideas?
Post # 15
Mr. DG took my last name as a middle name. We love having each other’s names as middle names while still retaining our identities 🙂
Post # 16
J actually suggested taking my last as his second middle (I would legally change it that way too) so we’d both be First Middle MyLastAsMiddle HisLast. I haven’t decided yet, but it made me really happy when he suggested it. One of the things that made me fall for him was his respect for gender equality, which is super dooper important to me. 🙂