Post # 1
I was just wondering if there are any housewives out there? I do not mean SAHMs, rather women who are not working and are supported financially by their SO without children.
A friend of mine has decided not to go back to work after loosing her job in banking. Her husband is successful so I don’t think it puts a big stain on them financially even though she was earning a couple of hundred thousand.
I think more power to her if it makes her happy! However, I have been suprised by a lot of our mutual firends reactions, basically slagging her off for doing “nothing”. I imagine it comes from envy. It lead me to be curious if there are any other bees out there that are homemakers without babies/children in the picture?
Post # 3
I am interested in this too! I think this is a wonderful thing to do and I would sure do it if we had more money! 🙂 There’s plenty of useful and interesting things a housewife can contribute to a home and I’d love love to be one! I’m always behind at home – it would be great to dedicate myself to it 100% and maybe do some crafting, and sell some of it. Please share your stories!
Post # 4
@Mrsluckywife: I hear you there! I am ashamed to say I can bearly get myself into bed at night after work and household chores! My Darling Husband is “domestically challenged” so I do all the cooking/cleaning and I feel like there are not enough hours in the day! Come the weekend I spend a lot of time getting the house to how I would want it to be. I would love to be able to have more time to dedicate myself to it and to do things in the community.
Post # 5
I didn’t work for 5 months because we moved abroad. But I also didn’t look for a job at all and was basically doing nothing for that time. I got SO MUCH heat from my family and friends, it was ridiculous. It was also super boring and depressing and I hated it. We can live on his salary but it wasn’t AS cushy as we like it to be so everyone is MUCHHHH happier now that I’m back at work.
I think if you have hobbies and friends around and it doesn’t create a weird power dynamic when only one person brings in money then gd bless!
Post # 6
God I wish! I am in my 40s and just so tired of working. And I probably will have to for another 25 years. I’ve worked part time starting at 15 and have never not worked. I know I sound lazy and selfish, but I’m tired!
Im sure I will continue to work after I get married.
Post # 7
I’m a Stay-At-Home Mom now but I did this for a while. We moved for my husband’s job and it was supposed to be a five month assignment so I decided I should take a break from everything. I did teach myself to cook to an extent. We found out we’d be there longer but I had gotten pregnant. We were fine financially so I still stayed home and I think it helped to be able to relax when I didn’t feel great. I got some heat for it but not much.
@squishee: That’s how I looked at it. I had been working since I was 15 and at one point had six classes in college and worked 22-28 hours a weekend. I figured I deserved a break if it wasn’t a strain.
Post # 8
@squishee: Exactly. I haven’t been working for quite as long as you, but yes, I’ve had a job since I was 15 and started working 40+ hours a week when I turned 18 and started college and haven’t looked back. Even after I had my Dirty Delete, I still put in about 50 hours a week. (I run a retail establishment.)
I make 65K and Fiance 40K so my dreams of staying home and doing things I want to do aren’t quite a reality. BUT, when Dirty Delete is all grown up and we’ve acquired a great savings I’m sure I’ll be happy I put all the effort into my career.
Post # 9
I’m a bit of a Stay-At-Home Wife right now. I’m back in school full time, so I don’t have time for a part time job. I do all of the cooking and all of the cleaning. Between my studies and dealing with house stuff, I don’t have the time to go job hunting.
Post # 10
Hi! Im currently a stay at home wife.
Im oringially from Oc, Ca but my husband is stationed at Ft. Bragg. Hes always comes to visit me at home but this time he wanted me to come to him for an extended stay. Hes got a room mate who is really nice and also married and we got one more guy that just got married who needed a place to stay so hes also staying with us.. so yup, me and my new husband and two other guys lol.
Im normally in school when Im home and I work as a stylist and I do child care between that so Im generally busy but Ive got nothing to do here. Ive been here for 2days and Im already considering a job cause it feels weird asking for money.. or asking him to buy something I need.
Another weird thing.. I dont know how to cook and I made dinner the first night I was here.. and Id normally be self consious about it on its own… but imagine I had TWO more critics! Lol.
Fun times. 🙂
Post # 11
@Sea_bass: I agree! I am a bit of a perfectionist around the home and it frustrates me that I never have the time to make it all as nice as I know I could and want to! I am really homely and enjoy pottering around doing chores, but when they are crammed into the end of a long working day and half the weekend it leaves me frazzled and tired. My hubby is much more relaxed and doesn’t see the need to be cooking, cleaning and improving the home as much as me. I wish we could afford it! I’m pregnant now and all I want to do is get on with preparing the room that will become the nursery – so much to do and I’m stuck at work! Boo!
Post # 12
I would LOVE to be a stay at home wife with no kids. My dream has always been to start a dog rescue and if I could stay at home that is what I would do. But, I’m the main breadwinner so unless my fiancé wins the lottery then I’m stuck here. But that’s ok I’m just thankful to have a good job right now 🙂
Post # 13
I will be a stay at home wife starting in November until I can find a job where Darling Husband lives and I am not so much excited by “keeping house.” I would much rather work and hire a cleaning lady. A part of me is looking forward to the job hunting but I really do hope I can find a job to start in February. I plan to do some apartment organizing as combining our things will be interesting since we have each gotten used to living alone for hte past year and bought some things the other would most likely not have approved of. I plan to spend 4 weeks at home with my family over the holidays and Darling Husband and I have a nice trip planned so really I won’t have much time to be a stay at home wife more of a full time job applicant and traveler 😉
ETA: Technically I will be a trailing spouse which sounds silly.
Post # 14
@Mrsluckywife: yep this is me too. For the first few years I used to try and get Darling Husband to do things around the house. In the end I gave up as he does such a poor job and project manage his into tasks was more annoying than just doing it myself.
@OtterHalf: Thats a great attitude to have! In this economy you’re right we should be grateful to have jobs 🙂
@slicey19: Sounds great. I suppose I could just hire a cleaning lady. Good luck with the job hunt!
Post # 15
I did this all summer, Darling Husband worked and since I had no classes to take an no one in this town hires for just the summer, the part time(seriously less than 6 hours a week) I have was all I did. I was a crappy housewife. I had all these great intentions and mostly I managed to sleep too late, then craft, maybe a little cleaning and then not go to bed until 2-3 Am because how late into the morning I slept. With kids, I might could do it but I got bored and lonely.
Post # 16
I stay-at-home wifed it for two weeks this summer between moving and my classes starting and I went nuts. Sure, my house was spotless and in good order, but I was SO bored and couldn’t wait to be back to my normal balancing act! I’m sure my husband liked it though 😉
And just for a difference in perspective, your friends bein rude about your Stay-At-Home Wife friend are potentially not jealous, they may just not be able to understand the motivation to stay home, especially after making a hundred grand+ at a job they probably worked hard to get. I respect people’s decisions to do it, but I have no idea why they choose that way because I am so motivated to do the opposite.