(Closed) Any housewives without children out there?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Are you a housewife without kids?

    Yes

    No

    I'm planning to be

  • Post # 182
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My husband would have to be a millionaire a few times over who was working by choice for me to do that since it’s not like he exactly loves having to work either.  We could get by on his salary, save a little less, go on less trips, push retirement out a few years, but I like the financial freedom my income gets us too.  I’d never give up work if it meant having to make and stick to budgets.  On top of that, our goal is to retired around 45, which is very possible for us.  With only him working, he’d have to work until 65 probably.  That’s 20 more years *we* can spend doing whatever *we* want together.  Not just him suffering an extra 20 years of work so that *I* can do what *I* want for my entire life.

    Post # 184
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  I wish! I ask my SO all the time why I cant be his stay at home girlfriend, and he always says “I want to be the stay at home boyfriend!!” haha!

    Post # 185
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Technically at the moment I am a Stay-At-Home Wife.

    We moved to a new city in April 2013 for DHs career and to do so I left my great paying job and took a seasonal job that was similar. Being seasonal though it ended after 4 months – I have been on EI (employment insurance- you get paid a % of your previous wages for X amount of time) since then, about 3 months. It definitely has some perks to it but more often then not I am bored! Especially since DH has been out of town for training a lot lately.

    So i spend my days relaxing, doing houework – which i hate lol, trying new receipes, working out, taking the dog places and looking for work – this is not a good time of year to be looking. There are places I can work here that are very close to what I did before, it’s just a matter of a spot opening up. So I am tryign to enjoy the break from work since for us it’s not permanent.

    Post # 187
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @pinkshoes:  Those are awesome goals!  My mom has worked my entire life because she never felt it was fair for my dad to be the sole breadwinner.  I have 3 sisters (I’m the youngest) and I never felt like I missed out on anything having both parents working. 

    My parents are a little older than the age you want to retire (early 60s) but because my mom worked they are able to retire comfortably.  My Fiance and I have similar goals and if I am able bodied, I will work.

    I do also have a huge distinction between SAHWs and SAHMs.

    Post # 188
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

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    @peachacid:  +100

    Post # 189
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

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    @Bunny_the_Bride:  

    Yes, many females are like that unfortunately…especially when they know that their crappy lives are a result of their bad choices. 

    The single moms who sneered at me (Not every single mother mind you…just the ones who hurled insults at me.) all chose irresponsible and selfish men to have kids with. It isn’t my fault that they were stupid. 

     

    Post # 190
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    @MrsSweetT:  The point is it makes some people happy. If your husband can afford, and you want to do it, then awesome!!

    Post # 191
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

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    @peachacid:  “unemployed” isn’t the best term because it suggests that you are looking for work (hence unemployement benefits, etc). she’s not claiming its her job, just that she simply stays at home and does “wife” things with her life

    Post # 192
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  Fi and I are undecided on this…Right now, I work full time out of town and make a good paycheck that is almost completely put into savings for a house. We are trying to live on his income alone so we know if we can actually make it work in the future. 

    I had the last 2 weeks off work and it was nice. I filled my day with errands, working out, cooking, cleaning, couponing (I fear that I would be an extreme couponer if I was a SAHW) and hanging out with my parents. Ideally, we will have kids, so that will take up some time, but I may start staying at home before that. The biggest fear I have is that I am an extrovert and I was already feeling the cabin fever after 2 weeks, so I am not sure I could go all day without some major human interaction. 

    Post # 193
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    Busy Beekeeper

    Can I ask a question of those who say they hated working.

    Did you really hate “working” or was it more the type of work that you did? Or was there perhaps a negative environment or corporate culture/politics that tainted your POV?

    I ask because I think the majority of people aren’t in their career of choice or can’t stand folks they have to answer to. I’d guestimate that’s a good 80% of folks. Everyone is looking for that holy grail of doing what you’re passionate about, getting paid a sustainable salary and not working for an asshole. 

    For myself when I hated working- mostly it was because I was doing something professionally that wasn’t fulfilling. 

    I’m currently not doing what I love to do, it pays the bills, but thankfully the company I work for the people are really nice. So currently, I’m able to deal. I look forward to seeing my co-workers (except for one) and I’m appreciated and they are very verbal with their compliments of my work. 

    However, in the past I’ve been paid more, and had to deal with B.S. back door politics, as I was doing what I loved, and it was stressful. However, I still enjoyed my responsibilities.

    I don’t even now if I’m making sense. 

    Post # 194
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I was a stay at home fiancée for a couple months, although I was technically unemployed (I quit my job so we could relocate for FIs work and it took me a few months to find work). I loved it at first- I got to unpack everything from our move, decorate, find the good grocery store, etc. but then I got bored. Real bored. I always thought I would love it, but…I didn’t. I would love to be a Stay-At-Home Mom one day, though.

    Post # 196
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    Busy bee

    @Bunny_the_Bride:  Oh my goodness, you are a rare breed, atleast from where I am from, a woman has to work unless she has kids and if she doesn’t have kids and doesn’t work her hubby resents her big time, lol.  Does your husband work long hours?  One income now a days just doesn’t cover as much.  I have one friend who is stay at home wife and she is from another country, so she can’t drive, so she just cooks and cleans but thats the only reason she doesnt work bc she has no license lol

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