Post # 1
My wedding is 9 weeks away! My son is 2 years old and has high functioning autism. I am having a catholic ceremony which will last approx 1-1.5 hours. He is very hyperactive and know that he will not keep still and will most likely be running around and screaming and also has extreme temper tantrums when he doesn’t have his own way! The only thing that calms him down his playing on a computer game…but I don’t know if he would play it if i turned the volume on low or silent. I can’t really have anyone to take him out during the ceremony as I would not want my close family to miss the ceremony eg my mother and mother in law and my sister and sister in law are bridesmaids, brother in law best man etc. Anyone have a special needs child at their wedding? How did you keep them occupied throughout the ceremony? Does anyone have any ideas? I know lots of people have babies and children at their wedding often crying etc but it’s a a little more difficult with my little boy as he does not understand simple commands and pretty much does what he wants to! Please no negative comments 🙂 x
Post # 3
Does he work with a therapist?I also know several people who have kids with autism and some of them have sensory issues which makes it hard for them to be in large crowds. I can only give you basic advice. Which is before a big event like wedding/ vacation they work with their therapist, expose them to the environment, let them know something special is going on and prepare them for it, and get them ear plugs or something to block out the noise. The issue is the kids I know are older then your son, so it’s probably easier to communicate these things to them.
Most two years probably couldn’t handle standing still for a 1.5 hour ceremony. My advice is to find a room or place in the sanctuary where he go for most of the ceremony and so he won’t cause a scene. If you know he can’t handle it don’t expose him to it. More importantly talk to his support system and figure out what he can handle, and how to incorporate him into the wedding. Good luck!
Post # 4
Is there a non family person he is comfortable with who can sit with him and keep him still, or take him out if need be? Someone he works with outside of your family?
Post # 5
Thank you for your comments…I am seeing his therapist on Monday so I will speak to them and see if they suggest anything to help prepare him!
I could kindly ask a non family member to take him outside if needs be..though I don’t know how I would go about approaching them about it! x
Post # 6
@iestynsmummy: try headphones and a portable gaming console and have him sit next to a family member. The headphones would help to keep him distracted so he’s not looking at the ceremony or anyone else and is still having fun.
Discuss with your priest first if its okay to have this going on and let him know the medical reason why. Ensure the console has a full battery charge and there is a game you know he loves, or a few others in someone’s purse who can swap it out for him.
The headphones will allow him to play with sound but not distract others. Also make sure no other children are seated near him or you’ll end up with a much bigger distraction in the church then you intend.